A comprehensive, insightful, and surprisingly entertaining guide through the maze of end-of-life decisions. It calms our greatest fear: that complete strangers can intrude on our most intimate decisions, and worse make decisions that we would not make for ourselves. Dr. Terman offers a close to ironclad strategy to preserve control at the end of life, even for those individuals who may ultimately suffer from severe brain damage or dementia. Every pitfall has been considered and solved! It also guides families through the chaos that results from inadequate advance care planning. This book is so good that our organization keeps copies at every office. It is a mainstay of the recommendations we provide our clients. --Barbara Coombs Lee, PA, FNP, JD; CEO of Compassion & Choices; Chief Petitioner for Oregon s Death with Dignity Act
Dr. Stanley Terman has provided a very insightful analysis of the President's Council on Bioethics' report, Taking Care: Ethical Caregiving In Our Aging Society. His detailed suggestions for wording Advance Directives are very important. While it may be Utopian to hope, as Dr. Terman proposes, that governmental agencies (such as motor vehicle departments) might require individuals to complete Advance Directives, it would be a major improvement over our present laissez faire policy of ignoring this issue. I am very supportive of responsible strategies to encourage individuals to complete such documents. The book's final story, She Revised her Advance Directives from 16 to 86, clearly illustrates how our views can change as we age and mature, and as our situation changes. Clearly, we need to update our Advance Directives on a regular basis. --Janet D. Rowley, MD, DSc; President s Council on Bioethics member; Albert Lasker Clinical Medicine Research Prize recipient
People think if they do not die instantaneously in a car accident or from a heart attack, they are going to be caught between two undesirable options--either to be attached to machines for a very long time, often in a state of unconsciousness with no reasonable hope for recovery, or, at the other extreme, to commit suicide or get someone to murder you so that you can end it all more quickly. In a wise, medically well-grounded, and even witty book, Dr. Terman explores the middle course: refusing tube feeding and hydration --Elliot N. Dorff, Rabbi, PhD; Distinguished Professor of Philosophy, University of Judaism; author of Matters of Life and Death
This book is about choices. It also offers you choices in reading:
Start at the beginning and read everything, or if you prefer. . .
A) Read the book-within-a-book. Page 4 explains how to skip flagged portions to reduce the number of pages to just over 300.
B) Focus on Patient Stories and Legal Cases for discussion, Humorous Stories for fun, or Guidelines and FORMS for personal planning. The Table of Contents list all these Titles on pages xxv through xxx.
C) For a quick overview, read ten pages: "She revised her Advance Directives from age 16 to 86," and "Which documents do I need when?" on pages 383-389; and The Seven Principles of Good End-of-Life Decision-Making on 427-429. View thirst-reducing products on 104.
D) Delve into such general topics as the medical, legal, religious, or family aspects of end-of-life planning. The Table of Contents can guide your choice of chapters.
E) Implement a legal alternative to Physician-Assisted Suicide. You can avoid prolonged unbearable pain and suffering at the end of life as long as you are mentally competent. Read the answers to questions D, & numbers 1-9, 16, 19, 20, 32, 34, 36, 38, & 40.
F) Prevent years of indignity & dependency from Alzheimer's disease, vegetative states, or persistent unconsciousness. Learn how to set the stage now so others will honor your wishes in the future, if you no longer can speak for yourself. Read Chapter 3 and the answers to questions numbers 20-22, 25-31, 40, 41, and 43-45.
G) Expand your knowledge.See all Editorial Reviews
This was helpful for me when my father approached end of life from congestive heart failure at age 83. At the end, he was in a hospital receiving palliative care for two days. Read morePublished 13 months ago by KayeN
Terman is straight forward with information that help those of us who hope to avoid a death of delay and suffering even in the case of dementia. Read morePublished 16 months ago by Gadfly52
I'm working with a Death and Dying Group (aka Death and Dining, Death Cafe, etc.!) and we all want to have as much control at the end or our lives as we can. Read morePublished 19 months ago by Laura
Stanley Terman, MD, PhD
The Best Way to Say Goodbye:
A Legal and Peaceful Choice at the End of Life
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Dr. Terman has clarified the many different aspects of a complex process, dying. It is about the family, medical, legal, financial, and religious choices one needs to make, as the... Read morePublished on December 23, 2008 by B. Marshall
excellent, comprehensive discussion. this book clearly identifies end of life issues and provides useful counsel to achieve a given individuals goals. highly recommend.Published on August 21, 2008 by S. M. Russell
Dying is not a problem: it is the process of dying that can be terrible> Dr. Stanley A. Terman's "The Best Way To Say Goodbye" is as good as anythig I read in being able to make... Read morePublished on May 12, 2008 by Olgard Dabbert
The content of this reference provides everything you need to know about voluntary refusal of food and fluid. Read morePublished on January 19, 2008 by S Mason