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The Birth Of A Mother: How The Motherhood Experience Changes You Forever Kindle Edition

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The author of Diary of a Baby turns his attentive eye on motherhood in this reassuring and uniquely substantive volume that focuses on new mothers. Based on close observation and hundreds of interviews with the mothers of young children, Stern, an infant psychiatrist who teaches at Cornell University Medical Center-New York Hospital, describes the complex emotional shifts that women experience as they travel from pregnancy through birth and into their baby's newborn period. For some, the transition into the new state of motherhood is instantaneous; for others, the initiation requires time. But all find the transformation profound, thoroughly changing their view of themselves, their relationships and the world. Stern offers his own perspective on the normal development changes that may be taking place, from concerns during pregnancy to changing relationships women may be experiencing with their own mothers, to building a matrix of helpful friends, to a baby's impact on a marriage. Of particular value are the descriptions, delivered in sensory, immediate prose, of the interactions between a wide array of mothers and their babies. Most stunning is a detailed evocation of a three-minute interaction between a mother and her baby that shows how, even when the mother doesn't respond perfectly, she is still doing well enough. It's hard to imagine a new mother who would not be inspired, reassured and encouraged by Stern's moving and thoughtful account. (Mar.) FYI: Basic will simultaneously reissue Stern's classic Diary of a Baby in paper.
Copyright 1998 Reed Business Information, Inc.

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Mothers are not created by the act of giving birth. Instead, argue the authors, the "motherhood mindset" begins to take shape during pregnancy and is created as parents care for their infant in the weeks and months after the birth. Most women find themselves shifting more attention to other women who are more experienced mothers during this time in an effort to find role models for this new identity. Special sections discuss the problems encountered by the new mothers of handicapped and premature babies, who often feel a sense of failure or inability to bond with their child. Other chapters discuss the impact of parenthood on the marriage and the question of juggling career and baby. Throughout, the focus is on the mother's developing sense of self. Brenda Eheart's The Fourth Trimester (Prentice-Hall, 1983) covers similar ground but does not include as much information on marriage and career concerns. In general, this title would be very useful to expectant mothers and is recommended for public libraries serving areas with young families.?Mary Ann Hughes, Neill P.L., Pullman, Wash.
Copyright 1998 Reed Business Information, Inc.

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  • File Size: 360 KB
  • Print Length: 258 pages
  • Publisher: Basic Books; 1 edition (December 3, 1998)
  • Publication Date: December 3, 1998
  • Sold by: Amazon Digital Services, Inc.
  • Language: English
  • ASIN: B003PJ6UEI
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10 of 11 people found the following review helpful By "black_magic" on January 10, 2001
Format: Paperback
Although written by a man, this book seems to grab the psychology of a pregnant woman quite successfully. The writer asks the accurate questions and enlightens the reader with the detailed and satisfactory answers. This is not a text book though, it is like a complete novel of the journey of becoming a mother. Highly recommended...
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10 of 12 people found the following review helpful By yerten@escortnet.com on July 23, 1998
Format: Hardcover
I bought the book today and I finished it. Sterns did a great job. They explained a highly complex developmental theory very simply for everyone who want to learn something on motherhood. I am psychologist who has been interested in their theory in a very sophisticated way for a very long time but I felt that I learned a lot while reading the book. Everyone should read this 'tour de force' to understand themselves, their mothers, their chilhood, their motherhood and also their 'fatherhood'. Congratulations Nadia and Dan !
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4 of 5 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on January 23, 2003
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This book offers much valuable information about what goes on emotionally when your expecting a child, and once you've become a mom. It helps you to understand many of the "why's" about what you may be feeling or thinking. While most books offer information on pregnancy,labor and delivery, they leave a very important subject untouched...the psychological and emotional side of it all. This book is all about that and definitely worth reading.
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By Sophie M. on November 2, 2009
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This book was an assigned reading from our family therapist.
Each woman starts her own motherhood a certain way - some become a mother at 8 or 12yo, when caring for a younger sibling, some become a mother at 50yo, when taking their late-arrived child for the first time to the ER, and some, during a miscarriage or after an abortion.

The book won't create a mother of you, but will help you identify several essential steps of your personal maturity that created - or will create a mother of you.
Unlike a "pregnancy book" that most likely fairytales the labor and explains how most women are soaked with love during pushing and become a mother here and there, this book addresses deep thoughts, and maturing processes that are independent of any single physical moment. You don't need to be pregnant to be a mother, you don't need to have a vaginal birth to be a mother. You don't even need a child to be a mother!
And vice versa, having a smooth pregnancy and dream vaginal birth doesn't create instant perfect love toward the new baby.

You need that book to acknowledge your own identity thru your own personal life and experiences, beyond what "people think of you".

As for me, it helped me be proud and active in my own IDENTICAL AND EQUAL love toward three children who came to me thru three different ways, loving my children for who they are, not for the how or when or when of their arrival.
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The first time I read this book - it was a translated version - was when I had a pregnant patient. After I read this book, I gave it to my friend, who also became pregnant.

And now its my turn! It was obvious that I will read Stern and I started out with re-reading this one. I will purchase the Diary of a Baby from him as well. I am just waiting to be further ahead in my pregnancy.

I think the first pages are a bit difficult to read unless you are a professional. Later on when he starts describing three types of women...it gets easier to digest.

If you are a person, who does not mind a bit of self-analyzing than this book will help you for sure. Even if you skip the analyzing part, its an interesting read.
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By lalaeddie on October 14, 2010
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I was in complete despair after the birth of my beautiful daughter. I had read other books about PPD and nothing hit home for me...until I read this book. If you are having an identity crisis as I was reading this book made me weep with relief. I could finally put words and concrete feelings to my emotions. Now my daughter is 13 months old and I am just as attached to her as she is to me. I love her more than seems possible. I would even say that this would be a good prenatal book for those of us who are worried about PPD. All this knowledge and written by a man!!!!
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2 of 3 people found the following review helpful By Esther on October 31, 2004
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If you have any doubts about buying this book, this review is written for you. I read this book in about 1 hour the first time and have read it about four more times since. I loved it! It's truly one of a kind and extremely enlightening. As a new mother, you are overwhelmed with so many thoughts and feelings and this book helps you feel normal and helps you understand yourself in a new way...as a mother!
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This is a book, based on serious psychological research, and contains the state of the art knowledgge about becoming a mother. It ought to be obligatory reading for evry mother to be. perhaps even to be read before deciding to have a baby.
Espen Collett, teaching psychoanaytic psychotherapist
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