The Body Language of Dating: Read His Signals, Send Your Own, and Get the Guy [Hardcover]

Tonya Reiman (Author)

Book Description

Release date: January 3, 2012

Nationally renowned body language expert Tonya Reiman turns her attention to romance—explaining how to read the signals of your date, your mate, or that cutie across the bar—and never get rejected again!

Attraction : It’s biological. It’s physical. It’s chemical. It’s mental. But it doesn’t end there. It’s also: Detectable. Manageable. Maneuverable.

In The Body Language of Dating, Tonya Reiman tackles the question of whether human attraction and seduction have changed over millions of years, drawing lines of flirting symmetry that span millennia, cultures, species, and continents. By looking at the evolutionary purpose of every part of the male and the female body, The Body Language of Dating chronicles the evolution of each major human bodily feature—why it is considered attractive or unattractive, good for longevity or detrimental to the gene pool, indicative of sexual success or failure.

Reiman crumples the timeline that separates us from our ancient ancestors to ask, “What has never changed? What attracts opposite sexes to one another, why does it work, and how has it contributed to the longevity of our species?” The Body Language of Dating provides the tools needed for success in today’s dating scenarios, offering practical tactics for seduction, conversation, connection, and enduring romance.

Editorial Reviews

Review

"[Tonya Reiman has] been deconstructing what's REALLY going on behind the world's most famous faces on TV with me for years. She's great at that, so imagine how good she is at seeing past the frozen smiles and darting eyes of regular folks like you and me. She has an innate talent, helping us all see what the guy or girl across the table is really thinking!" --Juliet Huddy, FOX News

About the Author

One of the premier body language experts in the country, Tonya Reiman is a Fox News Channel contributor and has appeared on Good Morning America, Today, Inside Edition, and Extra, among other television programs. She has contributed to dozens of publications, including The New York Times, Cosmopolitan, USA TODAY, Glamour, Time, and The Wall Street Journal. The author of The Power of Body Language, she lives with her family on Long Island, New York.

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Product Details

• Hardcover: 400 pages
• Publisher: Gallery Books (January 3, 2012)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1451624344
• ISBN-13: 978-1451624342
• Product Dimensions: 9.4 x 6.4 x 1.2 inches
• Shipping Weight: 1.3 pounds (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 3.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (10 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #804,707 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Tonya Reiman is a weekly Fox News Channel contributor. A motivational speaker, consultant, and corporate trainer, she has appeared on The O'Reilly Factor, the Today show, Access Hollywood, Extra, Fast Money, and ESPN radio, and has contributed to national publications including The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, and Time. She lives on Long Island with her husband and three children.

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

12 of 14 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars Another "10" in Body Language Advice...! February 7, 2012

By Joey Esparza

Format:Hardcover

Tonya has raised the bar in Body Language Advice. This time for Dating. She has a sense for what works and doesn't work like no other. I have repaired my own body gestures after reading this book. I am also way more aware to what is going on now with other people and their movements. I can read them much better now after recognizing body movements and tells from her advice... Tonya is the "Best in the Business" for straight talking body language advice. This time it is for Dating...! Highly Recommend..!!! JE

4 of 4 people found the following review helpful

3.0 out of 5 stars A Man's Perspective December 17, 2012

By bennash

Format:Hardcover

The book is written mainly for women, but I'm a man who was curious enough about women's perspectives and thoughts, so I gave it a read.

I've read both of Tonya's 2 Body Language Books: "The Power of Body Language" and "The Yes Factor". I gave them both 5/5 stars. This one however I gave 3 stars. It's very lengthy (close to 400 pages), and drags at times (in the middle and right at the beginning). I think you could compact the whole book into a few chapters with just the key elements and have a great book!

There is some valuable insight and tips to learn for both men and women. However, I don't think I'd read it again, except for what I highlighted.

This book has definitely shed some new light to me on clothing, color, attraction, and the way men and women are wired differently.

Thank you Tonya.

13 of 17 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars Tonya Reiman Empowers Singles for Date Success in The Body Language of Dating February 14, 2012

By April Braswell

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Ok, so just so you know, this is a biased review. I had the privilege to meet Tonya Reiman at a conference seminar in Las Vegas, and I am huge fan of this brilliant lady who is such a body language reading expert of politicians and celebrities alike.

I own both of Tonya's 2 earlier Body Language books The Yes Factor and The Power of Body Language and love them both for empowering men and women in the business world to master their body language and read the body language signals of others for greater career advancement.

In "The Body Language of Dating" Reiman delivers 20 chapters of Body Language information for singles to use to better understand the whole process of attraction and mate selection. "The Body Language of Dating" is complete with an abundance of photos to illustrate and provide many examples to help us to read others body language signals as well as master our own body language flirting signs we send to others. If you are single and in the dating world, you will definitely want to pick up a copy of Reiman's excellent book and study all she has to teach here.

Many readers will already be familiar with Tonya Reiman and her work as a Political Body Language Reading expert consultant to FOX NEWS on the prestigious "O'Reilly Factor" television news show.

What you might not realize with watching her brilliant and insightful body language reading signals and deciphering the secrets of body language reading of politicos (especially during this Presidential Election year with all of the Debate Nights), is that Ms.... Reiman is expertly proficient an reading and signaling body language flirting signlas in the world of attraction, dating, and mate selection also.

When you read your own copy of "The Body Language of Dating", close to the first 50 pages (Chapter One) is devoted to the building on evolutionary psychology foundation and perspective so we can better understand how our Mating Minds think and prioritize for mate selection. Additionally interwoven throughout this section of the book is the great similarities as well as the contrasted differences in chemistry creation attraction and mate selection priorities of men and women. It is both intelligent and fun to read.

Chapter Eleven develops our skills to avoid the pain, dejection, and embarrassment of personal rejection by building our body language reading skills to determine ourselves if "Is He Into Your or Over You" as the chapter title indicates.

Chapter Twelve, "When It's a Fling Thing" will empower and equip both single guys and gals when what you crave is a major relationship with the possibility for marriage to recognize the early detection of pick up line and behavior and their schemes and machinations. This can empower both men and women to recognize and avoid them rapidly so you can quickly move on from such significant time wasters.

Chapters Nine and Seventeen cover both male and female Bird Plummage so you can dress to impress for Dating Success with all the right trimmings for you for winning in the Mating Game.

Reiman expertly weaves straight on body language signals master tips and tactics throughout her whole "The Body Language of Dating" book to better educate, equip, and empower men and women to increase their personal prowess and powers of influence for Mate Attraction.

Lastly, Ms. Reiman wraps up this fully comprehensive dating body language tome in Chapter Twenty with a clear tactical review of "A Get-the-Guy Review: Your 10-Step Plan for Putting The Body Language of Dating into Action."

The more you practice all that Reiman suggests here, reading, dressing, and signalling, the more skilled and adept you'll become now. Like when you first learned to drive, it can at first feel like a very piecemeal linear progression of tactics... until practice makes perfect and suddenly everything just flows together and you are highly skilled and able to get the guy - or gal! - of your dreams. Grab your copy of "The Body Language of Dating" and start practicing for top Mate Attraction today.

April Braswell
Dating and Relationship Expert
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars This is not just another girl's book January 6, 2013

By StreamingRocks

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Very attractive title, but the truth is that this book is the key for almost everything on every aspect of a relationship, business or the life in general

1 of 1 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars Great book to have August 15, 2012

By Kate L.

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I love this book. It definitely provide some very useful insight and gave me some very valuable tools. I feel like some questions I have had for years have been finally answered.

I also like that unlike in other books I've read, she acknowledges that what she is saying applies in most cases, but that there are exceptions. For example, in the chapter where she talks about differences between the sexes, she readily acknowledges that she is covering the ninetieth percentiles, the majorities ...the typical male and typical female brain. The books I have read in the past that discuss differences between sexes, fail to mention this piece of information, which is unfortunate since I quickly realize that most of what being mentioned does not describe me at all (or some of my friends either) and any credibility in what the author has to say is lost. Had the other authors acknowledged this limitation, it would have made a big difference.

Tonya also provides a review at the end of the book, in which she summarizes what she covers in the book, in some easy ready to implement steps. Again, very useful.

4 of 6 people found the following review helpful

1.0 out of 5 stars Very disappointing December 15, 2012

By Sonia Burnside

Format:Hardcover|Amazon Verified Purchase

I had seen Tonya Reiman on a TV show on Fox and always enjoyed her observations with the show's commentator. However, her books leave a lot to be desired. I was terribly disappointed in her use of vulgar words and terminology. Her examples of social settings were also, in my opinion, below the level of a professional individual. She also displayed her personal preference in politics towards the opposite camp in a disparaging way, which I found not to be respectful or helpful with the subject matter of body language. Her smile is beautiful, but her writing is disappointing. I'm really sorry to have invested in three of her books. Wish I could get my money back.

2 of 3 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars Fun and interesting April 2, 2012

By jacannthelit

Format:Hardcover

This book takes some deep and serious research and presents it in a fun package. It answered questions I never knew I had about myself and about the opposite sex.