In her latest vehement treatise, Swiss psychoanalyst Miller (The Drama of the Gifted Child) reprises her classic critiques of filial duty. In her view, our culture systematically denies childhood abuse sufferers access to their true feelings. Repressed emotional responses to early humiliations and unfulfilled needs are inevitably transferred to the body, Miller believes, producing long-term illness. She also believes that the majority of therapists are bent on fostering an attitude of forgiveness. Miller instead urges the reader to reappraise the substance of the Fourth Commandment, which she construes as containing "a kind of moral blackmail" and, reflecting on her own unhappy childhood, argues that what survivors of parental cruelty need most is someone who shares their feelings of indignation. Miller traces the relationship between inadequate or tyrannical parenting and adult bodily illness, depression and suicide in pithy biographies of Dostoyevski, Chekhov, Kafka, Virginia Woolf, James Joyce and many others. Yet Miller is more a subjective observer and a guru than a social scientist. Her highly personal, undertheorized and generalizing approach will strike some as simplistic, yet those who loyally follow her child-centered philosophy will probably find much to enjoy in the conviction with which she writes. (May)
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Alice Miller’s arguments are lucid, closely reasoned, and utterly convincing. (Elaine Kendall - Los Angeles Times Book Review)See all Editorial Reviews
Wow! It seemed very dark, until I started to realize that it explained a lot of things. I've read a few other of her books and she is brilliant. Read morePublished 2 days ago by Alan
Mainly case studies. I enjoyed reading another book of Alice Miller's, "For You Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child Rearing and the Roots of Violence" much better than this... Read morePublished 13 days ago by M. Turner
Arrived August 11th 2015, brand new condition and a wonderful, inspiring, life changing book. Highly recommend that everyone reads this book, especially those who have experienced... Read morePublished 20 days ago by Jaqueline Snell
It seems that my parents only loved me or talked nice to me when I either behaved or did what was on their agenda. Read morePublished 1 month ago by Steven Haack
Read reviews and purchased two of her books. Read through half of each and than threw it in the garbage.. In retrospect, should have returned..
It might be me.. Read more
Not what I expected. I read one of Alice Miller's other books, and though it was interesting, I didn't find it helpful. This book was even worse. Read morePublished 2 months ago by Mrs. Nowhere
I'd had an abusive mother and i carried fear and resentment with me for 25 years --- this book made me the courage to disconnect and star anewPublished 3 months ago by T. Mikesell
While I love the concepts presented, the under tone of anger didn't Feel good in my truth telling body.Published 3 months ago by Jill A Harman
.Alice Miller delves into a lot of painful issues that have longer term ramification for a lot of people.
She ties in a lot of emotional problems we have to our up bringing.