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Starred Review. According to Ruti, the leaky boat in the turbulent sea of romance self-help is that men and women are different; in order for women to attract men, these books suggest, women must hide their power, feelings, or desires and manipulate men into new ways of thinking. The Harvard-educated Ruti urges women to ignore this advice and redefine how they look for love, what they look for in love, and even why they look for love. Instead of using strategies based in soft science or "emotional intelligence," Ruti taps sources ranging from Lacan to "Gossip Girl"; women, she argues, have worked too hard in their careers to fall prey to 1950s gender tropes in dating. Women should outright dismiss overtly macho, insecure, or otherwise threatened men. Ruti's approach is both funny and thought-provoking, and she moves effortlessly between intellectual and popular sources to provide an extremely refreshing take on an overdone genre. The author manages to strike a superb balance between writing an excellent book for a genre that she persuasively critiques from a gender studies perspective. (Feb.)
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""FINALLY! An intelligent book about patterns and issues - past present and future - and how they impact our love relationships.
Pick up this book, read it, treasure it; and leave it on your bedside."
" - The Review Broads
""We're obsessed with this new book by Mari Ruti Ph.D., in which she argues against popular relationship advice that encourages women to change and/or follow certain "rules of conduct" in order to land their man. If getting a guy to commit is that difficult, she says, you're not the problem ... he is. We like."" - Glo.com
""This is an eye-opening book that everyone can benefit from. Not just the single girl, but anyway dating in the 21st century."" - Book Obsessed
I only got halfway through this book. The excerpt on Amazon says "Are you tired of reading book after book and playing game after game... Read morePublished 1 month ago by Miller
Dr. Ruti is a genius. her prose reads like poetry and she cuts through the new-age crap about relationships, falling in love, getting burned at love and learning to cope.Published on March 20, 2013 by Amazon Customer
I loved how she calls out all the sexism in self help books for women, and how she points out that pscych evolution is the final jab at the womens movement.Published on June 12, 2011 by JillianPotter
In this insightful and refreshing book, Mari Ruti untangles the web of gender bias in relationships. Read morePublished on May 31, 2011 by Cheryl A. Butler
In The Case for Falling in Love, Mari helps show readers that everything you read in self-help books can actually sometimes be damaging versus helping you. Read morePublished on May 24, 2011 by Cheryl Koch
The Case for Falling in Love represents a refreshing departure from the decades long parade of relationship books offering questionable advice based on limited observations, half... Read morePublished on May 10, 2011 by Jeff Davidson, author and speaker, Breathing Space Institute
The Case for Falling in Love is what I would describe as being a guide to help you undo all the previous BS you've been programmed to believe about dating. Read morePublished on May 4, 2011 by Book Obsessed
The Case for Falling in Love is a helpful relationship advice book that touches on a wide variety of topics when it comes to romantic relationships. Read morePublished on March 10, 2011 by Naida M.