The Cheat Sheet: A Clue-by-Clue Guide to Finding Out If He's Unfaithful [Paperback]

Rea Frey (Author), Stephany Alexander (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: June 18, 2011

Cheating has become the proverbial lament heard around the world. Universal in its occurrence, cheating often leaves women broken and men shrugging their shoulders, declaring, "It's just the way I am. It's in my DNA." (Note: In some circles, DNA stands for Dumb. Needy. Asshole.). So stop the cheater now! With its expert author team primed to out-wit even the sneakiest sleezeball, The Cheat Sheet uncovers the entanglement of infidelity with tools as simple as quizzes and as versatile as GPS systems. Each chapter reveals true infidelity stories, common cheating excuses and exposes the cheater's thought process and patterns. Readers will learn how to catch a cheat in the act; which rules cheaters live by; how to deflect a cheater's advances; how to forgive; and when there's no choice but to forget and move on. The Cheat Sheet teaches readers to recognize cheating, catch cheaters red-handed, and ultimately find a relationship that will make them happy for a lifetime.

Editorial Reviews

About the Author

Rea Frey is a food and relationship writer at reafrey.com. She writes monthly recipes for Martha Stewart's Whole Living site. She also writes a weekly food and relationship column at Cheeky Chicago, is the Senior Editor for Chic Galleria and runs a food blog called Clean Convenient Cuisine. Stephany Alexander is an author, infidelity expert and founder of WomanSavers.com Free Date Screening Service, one of the most popular women's websites in the world.

Product Details

• Paperback: 256 pages
• Publisher: Adams Media (June 18, 2011)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1440511985
• ISBN-13: 978-1440511981
• Product Dimensions: 5.5 x 0.8 x 8.4 inches
• Shipping Weight: 10.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 3.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (4 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #862,125 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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10 of 11 people found the following review helpful

4.0 out of 5 stars Book Review: The Cheat Sheet July 23, 2011

By Karen B. Huber

Format:Paperback

After reading the stories in this book, it seems that we are a cheating culture. Examples of cheating celebrities underline this point. After reading the stories in this book, we seem to be a cheating culture. With the advent of technology, it has become even easier to cheat. The purpose of this book is to provide in-depth methods of detecting and preventing cheating. It also provides advice on when to move on from a relationship. Listed are numerous quizzes, cheater excuses, and real-life stories throughout the book. The stories were enjoyable and lent a human component to the otherwise sordid business of cheating. I found myself wondering who would have the time to go to such lengths to uncover a cheater, but the suggested methods were detailed and thorough. There should have been more advice on checking the legality of some of the methods as some are not legal in parts of the U.S.

There was some repetition from chapter to chapter in some of the method descriptions, and I think a few warnings in the chapters themselves would have warranted regarding violent cheaters. This is covered in a later chapter. It is not always that easy to leave someone violent, but the authors do list methods and places to get help if this is the case. I also think a chapter should have been devoted to seeking counseling. Many couples go to counseling, but some battered women need more in-depth help.

That being said, there are quizzes to help understand if a marriage or relationship is salvageable and how to make a relationship "affair proof." The advice was full of good ideas, but again I wondered who would have the time or emotional energy to think constantly about a relationship. I got the impression that having a relationship could be a full-time job.... The chapter about moving on after a break up is excellent, bull of great ideas like traveling, taking up a dream hobby, having a support group. These tips could be used after a traumatic life event of any kind just as the methods outlined could be used to catch any type of cheater, such as someone who is suspected of stealing at work, someone suspected of using drugs, or someone suspected of any type of illegal activity. This book also gives a perspective on all types of relationships: married, unmarried, straight, or gay. It seems to cover every aspect and nuance of cheating in down-to-earth language, covers modern technology methods of detection, and the Internet-style of cheating in terms almost everyone can understand.

Frey and Alexander also talk about setting limits, what an individual considers cheating, and ways to convey this to a partner. For instance, is an emotional infatuation or an online romance without physical contact cheating? I think most people would consider it so, or at least a strong warning sign that there are problems within the relationship. They give advice and of course a quiz to help decide. They mention four types of cheaters: physical, companion, emotional, and combination; and present a quiz and clues to watch for.

According to the book, a little over fifty percent of men cheat, for different reasons than women. The good news is that many relationships can be saved with some effort and discipline. Relationships take discipline, which cheaters lack. Both partners must be willing to buckle down and work hard at understanding and communicating with each other.

I really liked the appendix on Resources at the end of the book, which lists web sites and phone numbers of organizations for catching a cheater, getting help for abuse, and general infidelity resources. This book was a fast, interesting read and was comprehensive in its creative detection ideas. It can be used as a prime resource for anyone serious about catching any type of cheater and for anyone wanting to save or better their relationship. There is an entire chapter dedicated to specific relationship problems and their solutions. Suspect a cheater in your life? Go get this book. Chances are that you will catch him with one or several of the many techniques listed.
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars 5 STARS! October 28, 2011

By nikmac

Format:Paperback

As a woman who has been with the same man for 12 years, I found this book to be extremely helpful. It's not just a book about cheating men. Marriage is not always easy. Married men and women alike are guilty of searching for "happiness" by forming relationships with outside partners. Cheating (both emotionally and physically) is a substitution for something that is missing in a marriage almost 100% of the time. If only people would take the information given in the book and really listen, so many painful relationship woes could be avoided. I loved this book!

1 of 3 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars EXCELLENT read! June 20, 2011

By Alesha Harrier

Format:Paperback

I would recommend this book to ANYONE; even those not in a relationship. As a single female, this book gave me a new perspective on relationships and a new value and appreciation for being single.

Very well written, and easy to read. The true life stories throughout the book are inspiring and hopeful. The tips and quizzes truly make you think and keep you on edge, anxious to read more.

Cannot wait to read future publications.

4 of 16 people found the following review helpful

1.0 out of 5 stars your a woman August 8, 2011

By Michael Bustos

Format:Paperback

How in the world can you try to say you know a man what you need to do is make a book on cheating women sense they do it a lot more than men by far.