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The Dark Side of Love: The Positive Role of Negative Feelings Paperback – August 18, 1999

ISBN-13: 978-0765806109 ISBN-10: 076580610X

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  • Paperback: 306 pages
  • Publisher: Transaction Publishers (August 18, 1999)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 076580610X
  • ISBN-13: 978-0765806109
  • Product Dimensions: 6 x 0.7 x 9 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 1.2 pounds (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (5 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,245,598 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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About the Author

Jane G. Goldberg is a psychoanalyst in private practice. She is on the faculty of the Center for Modern Psychoanalytic Studies and is director of La Casa Resort Spa in Puerto Rico and La Casa Day Spa in New York City. She is the author of Psychotherapeutic Treatment of Cancer Patients, and Deceits of the Mind (and Their Effects on the Body), and the La Casa Whole Health Handbook and Cookbook. 

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Jane G. Goldberg, Ph.D. has been a practicing psychoanalyst for over thirty-five years. As a psychoanalyst, Dr. Goldberg has specialized in working with cancer patients and has successfully integrated her psychoanalytic work with the field of mind/body health. She has worked with many cancer patients who have defied the odds and attribute their success in combating the disease to their work with her.
Recently, Dr. Goldberg has become particularly interested in the brain, and has put together a series of classes of exercises that stimulate the wide-open land of the new-born brain, the race-horse feature of the adolescent brain, and the wise and mature (but sometimes forgetful) aging brain.
In 1986, Dr. Goldberg founded La Casa Resort Spa, located in the Puerto Rico rain forest. She was persuaded by her resort guests to open a NYC facility so that they could continue their mind/body work there as well, and in 1993 Dr. Goldberg opened La Casa Day Spa in the flatiron district of NYC, now the oldest spa in New York.
Dr. Goldberg is a prolific writer in the field of psychoanalysis. She has published numerous scholarly articles and has authored eleven books: The Literary Works of Dr. Jane G. Goldberg, Volumes I-IV: Vol. I: Psychoanalytic Writings, Vol. II: Whole Health Writings, Vol. III: Autobiographical Writings, Vol. IV: Imaginative Writings (to be published); Because People Are Dying; The Inner Lives of Mothers; Princess Diana: Modern-Day Moon-Goddess; The 5 Elements of Healing; Insparations (if you can do it at a spa, you can do it at home); The Dark Side of Love (the positive role of our negative feelings); Deceits of the Mind (and their effects on the body); and Psychotherapeutic Treatment of Cancer Patients.
Dr. Goldberg is recognized as one of the nation's leading authorities in the fields of psychological oncology and mind/body health. As such, she is a frequent speaker at conventions and conferences nation-wide, both professional and lay. As well, she has published numerous scholarly articles. She is consulted and quoted often by popular magazines and newspapers as an "expert" on relationships and mind/body health, including such diverse publications as The New York Times Magazine, New York Observer, Crain's, Daily News, Vegetarian Times, Marie Claire, Harper's Bazaar, Allure, Self, Cancer Forum, Women's Wear Daily, Natural Living, Delicious, The Times Picayune, The Mainliner, Greater Washington Senior Beacon, Weight Watchers, Bride, First for Women and dozens others.
In addition, Dr. Goldberg is often called as a guest on television and radio. She has appeared on The Donahue Show, Sally Jesse Raphael, Jane Whitney, Rikki Lake, the Maury Povich Show, the Morton Downy Show, Maureen O'Boyle and others. She is such a popular guest that she has appeared several times on most shows. In addition, she has been interviewed on both radio and television news shows across the nation, including National Public Radio.
In February 20, 2002 she was given the Changing Destiny Award by Save a Parent, Help a Child, and was presented with the award by Susan Sarendon. In 1994, she was named Most Admired Woman of the Decade by the American Biographical Institute. She was chosen in Edition Five of the 5000 Personalities of the World.
She is listed in Who's Who of American Women, Who's Who in Medicine and Healthcare, Who's Who in the East, Who's Who of Women, International Who's Who of Professional and Business Women, Who's Who in Science and Engineering, Who's Who in the World, Who's Who in American Writers, International Who's Who in Medicine.
Dr. Goldberg is a mother as well as an avid runner, swimmer and advanced belt in Tae Kwon Do.

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5 of 5 people found the following review helpful By Julia Houston on August 13, 2005
Format: Paperback
Jane Goldberg is a Freudian through-and-through, and so has a tendency to say that such-and-such is "always" caused by this, or "always" a sign of that. But she's a fun Freudian, going through the tales of Oedepus and Narcissus with a surprisingly relevant take, and skillfully folding in references to Shakespeare and the like.

Her basic premise is that we don't learn how to deal with hate and anger as children, being told instead that "hate is a four-letter word" and "if you don't have something nice to say..." For a society that's long recognized that children who don't learn about love grow up to be adults who don't know how to love, we're very slow (which is why the book is still so relevant even though it was published in 1993) to see that the same is true about hate. Hate (rage, irritation, jealousy, aggression) is a powerful emotional that deserves recognition and respect. Goldberg argues compellingly for a change in our approach to anger "management."

The prose is, unfortunately, highly repetitive, but you get used to it. It's still a useful and intelligent read. I particularly recommend it for people who are still new to self-analysis.
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8 of 9 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on April 17, 1999
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A remarkably well-written book - a MUST for everyone's library. It is a book about all of us, and on how to understand and manage *love* - this most important aspect of each of our lives. It is a more than worthy successor to such classics as Erich Fromm's "The Art of Loving," Thomas Harris's "I'm OK, You're OK," and M. Scott Peck's "The Road Less Traveled." If you should have the even the *slightest* reason to do so, I would strongly urge you to *read* this book!
William Antonio Boyle, 17 April 1999.
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6 of 7 people found the following review helpful By ghostrider on December 11, 2007
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I read this book after reading Brigid Brophy's, "Black Ship to Hell," and was well rewarded with finding that Jane Goldberg had tackled the Eros/Thanatos connection with a bold re-estimation of the function of "negative" emotions and how they are not only beneficial, but also, necessary to our individual identity. While another reviewer labels her as Freudian, it should be remembered that Freud is the father of modern psychology and his theories have initiated a deeper understanding of human nature. It could even be said that Freud and Jung (who originally studied under Freud) say the same thing, just in a different way. Erik Erikson, who is popular among many is also "Freudian," and devotedly so. What I liked most about, "The Dark Side of Love," was that the author provides concrete examples and explanations without over-generalizing the concepts and ideas into aphorisms, and even debunks some of the aphorisms used by therapists to manipulate their patients. The authors "evolutionary" description of the psyche and her committment to the individual self is progressive when compared to those beliefs and "truths" that attempt to subjugate the individual and pressure surrender to "the good of the many," or expound mystical self-annhilation under religious tenets. All-in-all, I would recommend this book to anyone who is genuinely interested in self-improvement, and is looking to evolve beyond the ordinary.
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By Adrienne E. Thiery on January 7, 2013
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This book is so enlightening and insightful, everyone should read it. There are pieces of advice one would never have thought of on their own. The author narrates wonderfully - she illustrates concepts with stories of herself and her patients, and explains scientific terms and concepts so it's easily understood by someone lacking a a background in psychology. While she asserts her opinion, she lets the reader make his or her own conclusions and sites many studies enabling to reader to do further research if he/she wishes to know more. I don't want to put it down.
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Great Book. Well worth the read!
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