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The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self Hardcover – July 22, 2008
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I like the condensed quality of the book. Written in the 80s, when each sentence is to be digested. Books published today generally have larger volumes of repetitive concepts. I'd much prefer to read and digest one inspirational sentence at a time, and revisit frequently.
Since Alice Miller has passed away, her website no longer gets updated with new emails from readers, I'll write down some of the awakenings I found reading the book. A lot of buried memories started to come back and a lot of my strange behaviors are starting to make sense. They all rooted in childhood.
- I have a life long yearning for freedom that I never could explain.
- I have impossibly high standards for myself in terms of achievements and strength. I can't stand to be anywhere near the weak or the stupid.
- I don't have non-productive hobbies. My activities are all "useful." e.g. I don't read fictions.
- I have an extraordinary high tolerance for pain starting from early childhood. I remember as a pre-teen I fell playing basketball and got a patch of bloody road rash on my knee. I vividly remember being terrified because I ripped my brand new jeans, not because of the blood and open wound. Also, I never understood why people are afraid of dentists.
- I don't express any emotions, and most of the time I don't experience any emotions.Read more ›
This book is translated, and so some of the key words sound at first as if they mean less, or other than first appears. Read through it. We are setting our children up from day one. It had better be a good set-up, or they will not know how to set up their own children for whole and successful lives.
Abuse comes not only in the form of black eyes or broken arms or incest. Abuse comes in forms that we thought were "love" but turn out to be traps.
Read it. Read it. Read it. Think!
Antidepressants work consistently 2-3% of the time. Big whoop. For those 2-3% who get their depression under control with antidepressants, the side effects really take their toll.
Want to really get your depression under control, get some therapy, because there's probably something going on rooted in childhood that caused this malfunction, so says the author. And after reading her book, I tend to agree.
This book won't cure you, but it will open your eyes to the possibility of experiencing joy in your life again via therapy. It will help you to see why a person gets depressed, or in the case of narcissism, feels grandiose - above others because he or she is especially talented or successful - and then heads for a fall into a deep depression when he fails to meet his expectations. The most extreme example of the combination of up and down being bi-polar disorder.
Gifted kids often are so because their own parents have created an environment where the only real validation they receive stems from their talent or academic performance, or their ability to help out with the house/family because they are so grown up for their age. Some times they are valued for their beauty.Read more ›
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This book will change the way you see people - each person has an inner-child running their lives. You'll take a deep inner journey on how you are showing up in life. Read morePublished 2 months ago by Delphine M Ruiz
Very insightful, if not painful book for helping to cope with an emotionally abusive parent. Ahead of its time for the time. Painful and therapeutic.Published 4 months ago by Stacey Ann Winther
No better advocate for children has even existed. Miller has explored the inner life of children and brings new meanings and insights into their world. Read morePublished 5 months ago by mizbehaves
I am a mental health therapist and Alice Miller "gets it!' Wonder how long it will take for more of us in the field to really get it!Published 7 months ago by Jill J.
Great book - I've read it many times, and I bought it on Kindle.Published 11 months ago by Shopping Queen
I've just finished The Drama of the Gifted Child, and I'm feeling quite shattered... As I'd already done a lot of inner work, going through my entire childhood (with the help of... Read morePublished 11 months ago by Cindy L. Nielsen