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The Emotionally Abused Woman: Overcoming Destructive Patterns and Reclaiming Yourself (Fawcett Book) Paperback – January 21, 1992
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Beverly's books have often been honored for various awards, including being a finalist in the Books for a Better Life award. Many of her books have been chosen for various book clubs, including One Spirit Book Club, Psychology Today Book Club and Behavioral Sciences Book Club. Her books have been translated into many languages, including Japanese, Spanish, Chinese, Korean, Greek, Turkish and Lithuanian.
In addition to her professional work, Beverly frequently lends her expertise to national television talk shows. She has appeared on Oprah, CNN, and Starting Over, and many other TV programs. She has a blog on the Psychology Today website as well as regularly contributing to the Psychology Today magazine, and has been featured in a number of newspapers and magazines, including: Oprah Magazine, Cosmopolitan, Ladies Home Journal, Redbook, Marie Claire, The Chicago Tribune, The Washington Post, The Los Angeles Times, The Cleveland Plain Dealer, and The Denver Post.
She regularly conducts training workshops throughout the United States and the United Kingdom, for both professional and lay audiences. Recently she has been conducting trainings on emotional abuse for the United States Army, in both Texas and Georgia as part of their domestic violence training for staff.
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The abused person is often taken by surprise, emotionally involved before the abuse fully takes hold. The abuser often has a two-sided personality, referred to as Jekyll and Hyde - one charming and intelligent and likeable, the other a cruel and perverse tormentor.
Engel writes: "It is often difficult for a woman to admit that she is indeed being emotionally abused, particularly if she is competent and successful in other respects... many women who are being emotionally abused do not even realize what is happening to them. Many suffer from the effects of emotional abuse - depression, lack of motivation, confusion, difficulty concentrating or making decisions, low self-esteem, feelings of failure, worthlessness, and hopelessness, self-blame, and self-destructiveness - but do not understand what is causing these symptoms."
The process seeps into the psyche like a slow poison, rearranging our ability to cope. "She has become so beaten down emotionally that she blames herself for the abuse. Her self-esteem is so low that she clings to her abuser."
Which is perhaps the hardest to understand, by the woman herself as well as family and friends who keep asking - "Why do you stay? Why do you put up with it?" - and never find a rational answer. There is none. Engel explains, "Emotional-abuse victims become so convinced they are worthless that they believe no one else could possibly want them.Read more ›
She helps to uncover the patterns and reasons for abuse,
ways to recover from it.
Like many women in emotionally abusive relationships, it
was very difficult for me to even see it occurring.
Her book is a constant reminder of how to stop the cycle,
both for me and for my children.
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I LOVE THIS BOOK!!! A lot of great insight for emotionally abused womenPublished 20 days ago by Rann
Out of all these types of books, this one was by far the most helpful. Theres nothign glamorous baout it, its small and doesnt seem outwardly like it would be anythign different. Read morePublished 21 days ago by Michelle Krc
This was one of the most empowering and excellent books I have read on understanding one's self. I am a firm believer that in order to begin rebuilding, you must recognize,... Read morePublished 1 month ago by Amazon Customer
Very enlightening for anyone that has been in this situation. It is a must read. I have bought several of these books for friends and they all have got something out of it.Published 2 months ago by Shawna Peterson
this was the most informative book , I learned a lot about myself and I'm not alone in this journey of healing I recommend this book to all women of an alcoholic parent and that... Read morePublished 3 months ago by Amazon Customer
Beverly was able to explain the destructive patterns clearly in order to reclaim yourself.Published 4 months ago by Beverley L. Heinsohn
Great book. It explains things in plain english and the text is very relatable. I love the exercises to help you. Read morePublished 4 months ago by Eva Ortiz