The Enneagram: Understanding Yourself and the Others In Your Life [Paperback]

Helen Palmer (Author)

Book Description

Release date: April 12, 1991

It would be impossible for most of us to spend a day without coming into direct or indirect contact with dozens of people family, friends, people in the street, at the office, on television, in our fantasies and fears. Our relationships with others are the most changeable, infuriating, pleasurable and mystifying elements in our lives.

Personality types, based on the ancient system of the Enneagram, will help you to enjoy more satisfying and fulfilling relationships in all areas of your life by introducing you to the nine basic personality types inherent in human nature. This knowledge will help you better understand how others think and why they behave as they do, as well as increasing your awareness of your own individual personality.

Written by the leading world authority on the Enneagram, it offers a framework for understanding ourselves and those around us, as well as a wealth of practical insights for anyone interested in psychology, counselling, teaching, social work, journalism and personal management.

Editorial Reviews

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Provides help in understanding the good qualities of a more evolved life. (San Francisco Chronicle )

Palmer’s historical and clinical accounting is solid and her reasoning insightful. The Enneagram system can help us understand people as they see themselves. (Training and Development Journal )

Explores the mysteries of personality and points the way to the cultivation of extraordinary abilities. (Yoga Journal )

A book for both the psychologically sophisticated and for ordinary people as well. (New Realities Magazine )

[Palmer’s] focus on the practical import of this unique personality system gives her book special power, the power to transform. (American Humanistic Psychology Review )

About the Author

Helen Palmer conducts extended workshops, seminars, and training sessions on the Enneagram in the San Francisco Bay Area and around the country. She is the author of The Enneagram in Love and Work

Product Details

• Paperback: 416 pages
• Publisher: HarperOne; 1 edition (April 12, 1991)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0062506838
• ISBN-13: 978-0062506832
• Product Dimensions: 8 x 5.4 x 1 inches
• Shipping Weight: 1.1 pounds (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (33 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #24,576 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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60 of 62 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars Thorough & Informative Coverage of the Enneagram June 24, 2003

By Peter Messerschmidt VINE™ VOICE

Format:Paperback

Along with Don Riso & Russ Hudson's "Personality Types," Helen Palmer's "The Enneagram: Understanding Yourself and the Others In Your Life" has established itself as one of the definitive and most thorough texts available on this subject. I have been a student of the enneagram for a long time, and I frequently reach for this book as a reference.

The book is divided into two main parts. The first 70 or so pages are dedicated to an overview of the enneagram system, both from historical perspectives, as well as in terms of pratical application. The remainder (and majority) of the book's 400-odd pages provides a well organized wealth of information on each of the nine enneagram personality types. Because each of these nine chapters are laid out in a standard "template" format, expect some minor duplication from chapter to chapter.

UNlike most personality typing books, Helen Palmer's book does NOT include any kind of "quiz" to help readers determine their enneagram type. However, the descriptions of each type are so thorough that it isn't difficult to determine which one is the best fit.

The book is quite comprehensive, and goes well beyond merely examining the enneagram as a "personality type inventory," instead also covering the self-growth and life philosophy aspects of the system. Palmer goes into great depth in her decriptions of each of the Nine enneagram personality types-- starting with the childhood "programming" that influences current behavior patterns, then going on to outline the adult "preoccupations," including how they affect that type's behavior in both intimate and "authority" relationships. She relies extensively on the "oral tradition" of the enneagram; that is-- the practice of listening to, and learning from, groups of people of the same "type," talking about their lives and motivations. Many quotes and examples from Palmer's enneagram study groups are included in the book, and they add a nice "live" counterpoint to what is otherwise somewhat "academic" material. Each chapter also includes a brief description of "instinctual subtypes," and concludes with a list of actions/environments that might help each type grow and thrive.

If there is one (minor) complaint I have about this book, it is perhaps that Palmer has a tendency to dwell at length on the negative or "defective" traits of human nature while not really giving equal time to the positive-- or even how to work our way through the negative. In addition, she does not acknowledge the possibility that an "emotionally healthy" version of any type might exist-- which is one of the reasons I prefer the work of Riso and Hudson. In personal growth terms, it is certainly of great importance to identify the pitfalls of life (Our "preoccupations," as Palmer calls them), but it is almost of equal importance to be offered some guidance for self-devlopment-- and this book falls a bit short in that area. Which, in a way, is surprising, since Helen Palmer is a practicing psychotherapist. However, this is trivial issue that really doesn't detract a great deal from the book's overall usefulness.

Final thoughts: An excellent and worthwhile reference (9 out of a possible 10 bookmarks), especially for the more serious student of the enneagram. Provides a nice counterpoint to Riso & Hudson's writings. Perhaps not the best "first read" for someone just beginning to explore the enneagram-- if that's you, I'd recommend Baron & Wagele's "The Enneagram Made Easy" as an excellent introduction.

Thanks for reading!

--Peter

21 of 21 people found the following review helpful

4.0 out of 5 stars A thorough undertaking by Helen Palmer. June 5, 1999

By A Customer

Format:Paperback

Actually, four and one half stars. It is that good! Very thorough. A benefit is Palmer's basing the various indicator points in psychological insight. This is no popcorn and candy book. This takes some work to read and comprehend. One should read something similar but lighter before taking on Palmer's work. Her language is clinical, and may catch off guard the one who is only doing a popular-level satisfying of an interest. At times there does seem to be repetition, or re-iteration of concepts, I would guess so as to enforce understanding. One would be foolish to immediately jump into the sixth chapter, where the different Enneagram points begin to be delineated. Read the first five chapters to obtain the needed background. I recommend this work to anyone who wants a deeper comprehension of this popular tool for understanding oneself and significant others.

77 of 89 people found the following review helpful

3.0 out of 5 stars A good second source for info on the enneagram January 11, 2000

By A Customer

Format:Paperback

Helen Palmer is one of the two leading writers on the subject of the enneagram, a system of personality typing. The other leading writer is Don Riso. There seems to be a dichotomy in the field. You are either a Palmerite or a Riso follower. I find Helen Palmer's writing interesting and valuable but I am more in tune with Riso.

One of the main differences for me is Riso's division of each type into healthy, average, and unhealthy levels. Palmer accuses me and my type of faults that I definitely don't identify with, although I would be the first to admit if they were true. Riso places those faults at certain levels of the type - not my levels. He has much more accurate descriptions of me in certain specific levels of my personality type, while Palmer mushes the whole type together in one beg generic mass to the point where it is unrecognizable to me.

After reading Riso's books in depth I found it interesting to get Palmer's views. She has a lot of valuable contributions to make. I feel that I understand the types better thanks to Helen Palmer even though my basic understanding of the system comes from Riso and from my own observations.