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The Exceptional Seven Percent: The Nine Secrets of the Worlds Happiest Couples Paperback – August 1, 2002
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EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR: PASTORAL SOLUTIONS INSTITUTE:
Through the Pastoral Solutions Institute, he directs a group pastoral tele-counseling practice that provides over 10,000 hours/year of ongoing pastoral psychotherapy services to Catholic couples, individuals, and families around the world.
Dr. Popcak is the author of almost 20 popular books & programs integrating solid Catholic theology and counseling psychology (including; Just Married: The Catholic Guide for Surviving & Thriving in the First 5 years of Marriage, For Better...FOREVER!, Holy Sex!, Parenting with
Grace, Beyond the Birds and the Bees). His work has been translated into Spanish, Polish, Chinese, and Lithuanian among others.
Since 2001, he and his wife and co-author, Lisa Popcak, have hosted several nationally-syndicated, call-in radio advice programs including Heart, Mind and Strength (Ave Maria Radio), Fully Alive! (Sirius/XM-The Catholic Channel), and most recently, More2Life (Ave Maria Radio--Airing M-F, Noon-1pm Eastern).
TELEVISION AND OTHER MEDIA:
Dr. Greg and his wife have also hosted two television series for EWTN (For Better...FOREVER! & God Help Me!).
In addition to hosting Faith on the Couch, a popular faith and psychology blog on Patheos.com, Dr. Popcak's articles appear regularly in periodicals such as Catholic Digest, Family Foundations, Tender Tidings, Columbia, and others.
Additionally, his work has been featured on FoxNews, NPR's Here and Now, The Los Angeles Times, The Washington Post, Ladies Home Journal, and The National Enquirer.
Dr. Greg Popcak and Lisa Popcak are sought after public speakers and trainers and have been honored to address audiences across North America, as well as Australia, and Hong Kong. They are featured speakers at the 2015 World Meeting of Families in Philadelphia, an event which was the occasion of Pope Francis' first Apostolic trip to the US.
In addition to his ministry work, Dr. Popcak serves on the adjunct faculty of both the undergraduate psychology and graduate theology departments at Franciscan University of Steubenville where he teaches Spirituality and the Helping Professions and Pastoral and Spiritual Direction respectively.
He also serves on the doctoral faculty of the Harold Abel School of Behavioral Health in the department of clinical social work at Capella University where he teaches Epistemology of Clinical Practice.
Top Customer Reviews
It is absolutely exciting how radically for the better your married life can change when you systematically follow the principles in this book. It did in my case. And as I changed, so did my wife toward me.
So, what's the secret? Nothing less than living up to the commitment you happened to proclaim publicly on your wedding day--"to love and to cherish in good times and in bad...till death do us part." Is that unconditional or what?
Tall trees can't grow tall in shifting sands. An exceptional marriage is absolutely rooted in the solid ground of unconditional commitment.
Lofty language, but it all boils down to this: so many marriages fail when the participants get caught up in thinking "I'd be nice to her if only she were nice towards me," or "I'd do for her what she wants if only she would act towards me in such a way as to deserve it."
Children! Children! Hey, I used to hear those voices in my own head. I started to grow up when I found the courage to embrace the pain of admitting to myself that maybe I really wasn't the man or husband I wanted to be.
The authors of this book made it plainly obvious to me what I was doing wrong. I wasn't really secure in the person I had become at this point in my life, less than my own ideal. Heck, I had forgotten what that ideal was.Read more ›
Popcak's central theme is The Marital Imperative - sort-of a marital "mission statement" of shared spiritual goals and values - as a Guiding Principle for both spouses to refer themselves and each other to. Or, as Popcak glibly puts it, "What kind of person do you want to be when you grow up?" So that, if I am behaving in a way inconsistent with my own stated goals and values, my wife can 'call me up' to what I've already said is my own vision for the kind of person I want to be. (And it is amazing, isn't it, how we so easily manage to 'make exceptions' to The Kind of Person I Want to Be, when it comes to our spouse? Or our children?)
Popcak very clearly shows how 'Conventional' marriages fall short of what it takes to become Exceptional; how such common tactics as 'Scorekeeping' (a scrupulous focus on 'fairness' and a relentless drive to 'The 50-50 Marriage') and 'Marital Chicken' (a game to see which spouse can make the other one 'blink first' in an argument) have corrosive effects on marriage.
Popcak outlines nine Secrets of Exceptional Marriages - the Marital Imperative, Fidelity (not simply sexual fidelity, but rather fidelity to one's own spiritual values and ideals), Loving, Service, Rapport (a more-comprehensive kind of 'communication'), Negotiation (resolving differences), Gratitude, Joy, and Sexuality.Read more ›
Most Recent Customer Reviews
Frankly, I am not a book reader. It was for my wife and I read it aloud for her until losing interest in it; don't know if she finished it on her own.Published 15 months ago by John2908
This is one of the best books on marriage that I have read. Filled with countless suggestions and much practical advice that can take any marriage from where it is and make it... Read morePublished 15 months ago by mariasmith
Gregory Popcak knows marriage. His advice is extremely applicable without about being totally obvious. This book is great for couples in all stages/levels/etc.Published 20 months ago by Edward A. Rubin
Highly recommend for anyone married, either for many years or newly wed, or anyone considering taking the plunge. Read morePublished on August 17, 2013 by Susie B.
Filled with great ideas on nurturing your relationship! Love it and really enjoy the author's humor, insights and desire to help people have better marriages.Published on May 20, 2013 by Mrs. Pat Muldoon
This is a book that could change your life if you can accept the lessons and change your behavior. It is not an easy 'fix your marriage without effort' book, but rather a way to... Read morePublished on April 11, 2013 by CPTJOHNC
I got so much out of this book. I liked the scientific, data-based approach, but it was completely approachable and useful like his other books. Read morePublished on December 4, 2012 by TXMom
I got this as it was part of a package for our pre-marital counselling. It wasnt mind blowing, it was really common sense packaged. Some may find it useful though.Published on August 30, 2012 by Hags