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The Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children Paperback – January 23, 2001
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Dr. Greene was on the faculty at Harvard Medical School for over 20 years. He is now founding director of the non-profit Lives in the Balance (www.livesinthebalance.org), which provides free, web-based resources on his approach and, through its Kids Advocacy Action Network, advocates on behalf of behaviorally challenging kids and their parents, teachers, and other caregivers. He is also adjunct Associate Professor in the Department of Psychology at Virginia Tech. The many research papers documenting the effectiveness of the CPS model can also be found on the Lives in the Balance website. He consults extensively to families, schools, inpatient psychiatry units, and residential and juvenile detention facilities, and lectures widely throughout the world (visit www.cpsconnection.com for a complete listing of learning and training options). Dr. Greene has been featured in a wide range of media, including Mother Jones magazine, The Oprah Show, Good Morning America, The Morning Show, and National Public Radio. He lives in Portland, Maine with his wife and two kids.
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Top Customer Reviews
The problem with that line of thinking, and the subsequent "strategies" it produces, is that no matter how much I punish a child, if he/she is incapable of doing better, the issues we face will persist. It is akin to punishing a child who needs glasses for not being able to see. A much better solution all around would be to get him/her glasses.
My daughter, in the Riley worldview, would be "punishing me" or "controlling" and "manipulating." What I saw was a little girl who was so very overwhelmed by various aspects of her environment, that she had no adaptations, no ability to cope. I can't imagine what it must be like to live in a world where the way your plate is turned at dinner, or which direction your socks are facing, is so overwhelming a proposition that you lose the ability to function and/or think rationally. That's the little girl I was living with. The little girl who could blow up over the most incomprehensible thing, and for whom most of life's daily situations and frustrations were just more than she could bear.
In the calm between storms, she was (and still is) a delightful girl - funny, bright, loving, and always, always remorseful after an explosion. I knew she knew what she was doing was wrong, and moreover, she didn't want to be doing it at all.Read more ›
I spotted this book on vacation, and read it on the road. Some parts were hard to swallow at first, like dropping the consequences. But I found I couldn't argue with the logic! If it isn't working, why keep doing it? Do something else with that energy!
We're not perfect at implementing it - I still forget and start off with 'No, you can't...' and then as I see my son's brain start to lock up, I backtrack to 'Wait, wait, yes, you can, let's figure out how to make that work, we can solve this problem together!' (Quick, which basket was that???!) But even with my admittedly slow progress, my son's progress was STUNNING. We went from daily screaming fits to definite improvement (a day without any fits) in THREE DAYS. On day three, he stopped himself in mid-vaporlock and started to calm himself down on his own! He needed help to complete the process, but I was so thrilled, I cried.
Since then (now six months), we've moved to not having any big huge hairy fits at all. The fits that do happen, even when there's an additional stress (sick, allergic reaction, etc.), fits that were managable, he can almost always de-escalate himself. We've progressed steadily to moving more things into their 'normal' baskets, and we're constantly moving (if not always quite as fast as those initial few days) toward him managing himself, instead of me serving as part of his brain.
It takes work.Read more ›
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Good tips for ALL parents- it applies to all kids - not just ones with defiance issues or ADD. I have referred back to different chapters depending on what issue comes up with my... Read morePublished 27 days ago by Local Lady
I have a 7 year old boy who is 90% smart, sweet, funny, kind, and giving...and who is 10% Hulk. We tried a family therapist (who told us to stop being so perfect-I'm pretty sure... Read morePublished 1 month ago by Diane Zikowitz
Just read the book and really give you relevant points to focus your energy into an approach where parents have much better chances to help an explosive kid to develop the skills... Read morePublished 1 month ago by GILBERTO GONZALEZ
This book was a godsend in confirming that I needed to parent my third child differently from my first two. Read morePublished 3 months ago by Leanne Farmiloe
Love it.....before this book I had actually thought about having my daughter institutionalized... She was physically assaulting her sisters both in their20's. Read morePublished 4 months ago by Amazon Customer