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The Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children Paperback – January 19, 2010

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Product Details

  • Paperback: 314 pages
  • Publisher: Harper; Revised Updated edition (January 19, 2010)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0061906190
  • ISBN-13: 978-0061906190
  • Product Dimensions: 8.1 x 5.3 x 0.8 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 8.8 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 4.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (383 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #13,229 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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From the Back Cover

A groundbreaking approach to understanding and parenting children who frequently exhibit severe fits of temper and other intractable behaviours, from a distinguished clinician and pioneer in this field, now updated to include the most recent research.

Almost everyone knows an explosive child, one whose frequent, severe fits of temper leave his or her parents standing helpless in their fear, frustration, and guilt. Most of these parents have tried everything—reasoning, behaviour modification, therapy, medication—but to no avail. They wonder if their child is deviant or just plain bad.

Dr. Ross Greene has worked with thousands of explosive children, and he has good news: these kids aren't bad, and neither are their parents. Rather, explosive children suffer from a physiological deficiency in frustration tolerance and flexibility. Throughout this compassionate book, Dr. Greene demonstrates why traditional treatments don't work for these kids and offers a new conceptual framework for understanding their behaviour, along with new language to describe it. He explains the latest neuroscience findings about the importance of flexibility, and, most important, he shows parents specific, practical ways they can recognize the signs of an impending explosion, defuse tension, and reduce frustration levels for the entire family.

  • For parents, psychologists, educators and ADHD groups.
  • In addition to the scientific foundation of the book, Greene addresses parents in practical ways that will help show results in difficult children and their effect on families.
--This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

About the Author

Ross W. Greene, Ph.D., is Associate Clinical Professor in the department of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and the originator of the Collaborative Problem Solving approach. Dr. Greene consults extensively to families, schools, and therapeutic facilities, and he lectures throughout the world.

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Customer Reviews

I highly recomend this book for parents and teachers of children ages 4 and up.
shana nelson
The Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children This book is an excellent resource for parents.
Diana Lynn McDargh
The book is very well written and gives a lot of examples that are very helpful.
Liesel D. Johnson

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158 of 165 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on September 5, 2001
Format: Paperback
This book changed my life. My child does not respond to "traditional" disciplinary approaches. I'd tried everything short of spanking � time outs, consequences, loss of priveledges, positive reinforcement for good behavior � and NOTHING worked. After reading at least 20 parenting books and struggling to find a way to cope with my child, I discovered "The Explosive Child." What a godsend. This book provides a new way of looking at and helping "difficult" children who respond with anger and aggression when they are frustrated, and explains why traditional methods of discipline don't work with these kids. It then goes on to suggest a new method to teach kids (and their parents!) the skills they need to avoid meltdowns. While perhaps geared more toward the older child and adolescents, I think it would still be helpful to parents of preschoolers. Even if your child doesn't have major behavioral problems, it teaches great basic communication skills. I'd highly recommend it for people who work with kids, especially difficult ones.
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112 of 117 people found the following review helpful By Amazon Customer on October 27, 2011
Format: Paperback
I read The Explosive Child after reading The Defiant Child (and attending a Douglas Riley-esque parenting class). The problem with the premise in The Defiant Child, and in most of the negative reviews on this book, is that there are many adults who cling obstinately to the belief that these children are capable of doing better than they are, and if the adult can just make said child's life difficult enough, he/she will shape up.

The problem with that line of thinking, and the subsequent "strategies" it produces, is that no matter how much I punish a child, if he/she is incapable of doing better, the issues we face will persist. It is akin to punishing a child who needs glasses for not being able to see. A much better solution all around would be to get him/her glasses.

My daughter, in the Riley worldview, would be "punishing me" or "controlling" and "manipulating." What I saw was a little girl who was so very overwhelmed by various aspects of her environment, that she had no adaptations, no ability to cope. I can't imagine what it must be like to live in a world where the way your plate is turned at dinner, or which direction your socks are facing, is so overwhelming a proposition that you lose the ability to function and/or think rationally. That's the little girl I was living with. The little girl who could blow up over the most incomprehensible thing, and for whom most of life's daily situations and frustrations were just more than she could bear.

In the calm between storms, she was (and still is) a delightful girl - funny, bright, loving, and always, always remorseful after an explosion. I knew she knew what she was doing was wrong, and moreover, she didn't want to be doing it at all.
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117 of 129 people found the following review helpful By Chuck on February 3, 2006
Format: Paperback
As a practicing pediatrician there are two books that have changed the way I approach behavior problems: "The Explosive Child" and Mel Levine's "A Mind at a Time." Be wary of the negative comments by reviewers as they miss the point of the book. The advice in this book is aimed a specific type of child personality. Setting clear limits and using time-out and 1-2-3 Magic that rely on removing attention when a child does something dangerous or misbehaves should always be tried first. For the stubborn, inflexible child, implementing time out often makes the situation worse. The initial infraction, like pushing a sibling, which normally would earn a time out, leads to an argument that only escalates until the child has earned enough time in time out to last past past early adulthood. The limits still need to be defined, but the approach to discipline needs to be less incendiary. The situation is often made worse by the presence of an equally inflexible adult. My favorite example is the first grader who kicked snow while waiting in line to come in from recess. It escalated, thanks in part to an inflexible vice-principal, to a three-day out of school suspension.

The best part of the book is the first section in which the author uses multiple examples to describe this personality type. Most parents are able to see their child in one of the examples. Understanding what causes the meltdowns in 90% of battle. This is the book I most commonly recommend to parents, but only after I determine that their child fits the personality type this book addresses.
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93 of 102 people found the following review helpful By L. Blackmore on July 15, 2003
Format: Paperback
For a parent trying to cope with a high-energy, difficult child, Dr. Greene's book reads like a first-aid manual. This is a life-saver. Patiently but not the least bit condescending or patronizing, he provides an intuitive and realistic methodology and framework to try "when everything else seems to have failed." He addresses a wide range of concerns (for ages toddler thru teen, for both the home and school environment), outlines the pitfalls, and compares his ideas with other parenting strategies "on the market." In doing so, he gives a frustrated parent the inspiration for a fresh start on life with a challenging child, thus rekindling and re-emphasizing the importance of the love we tend to forget in the heat of our frustrated struggle to deal with our chaotic family lives.
Dr. Greene's fundamental premise is that "explosive kids" are not deliberately being "difficult" or "attention-seeking" but, rather, are looking for and in need of our parental guidance, often desperately so. An inflexible-explosive child (his preferred term for the unofficial "syndrome" that lies behind the title of the book) may simply not have the ability (for any number for reasons, which Dr. Greene discusses in the first chapters of "Explosive Child") to deal with a given situtation, or express his or her frustration, and instead express frustration in ways that we as parents invariably find exacerbating. The scary process where our negative reaction to their behavior feeds more anxiety and frustration, leading to a meltdown, is analyzed in all its gory detail, with an emphasis on the choices we as parents can and must make to avoid the "descent into hell". Anyone who has been there will cringe with the pain of recognition of the examples he gives.
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