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The First 30 Days: Your Guide to Any Change (and Loving Your Life More) Hardcover – May 6, 2008

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Product Details

  • Hardcover: 240 pages
  • Publisher: HarperOne (May 6, 2008)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0061472832
  • ISBN-13: 978-0061472831
  • Product Dimensions: 5.5 x 0.8 x 8.2 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 6.4 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (53 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,619,684 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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Has a change happened in your life that you are having trouble accepting? Is there a change you would like to make to help you love life more? If you answered yes to either of these questions, this is the book for you.

This year alone, many of us will fall in love, get in shape, and start new companies, while some of us will lose a job, deal with health complications, or get divorced. Although we often try to ignore change, whether good or bad, it is the one constant. Now, with The First 30 Days, we can learn how to embrace change, move through it, and successfully navigate the twists and turns of life.

The First 30 Days reveals how the beginning of any change is a pivotal time that can either leave us stressed and stuck or lead us forward in our lives with clarity and hope. Change coach Ariane de Bonvoisin provides the tools to make each change a new beginning, whether it is a change you want to make or one brought on by a situation out of your control. Ariane introduces nine principles that will help you develop an optimistic mind-set toward change, an attitude that encourages you to see that life is on your side and that good can come from even the most difficult circumstance. With real-life stories, practical exercises, and inspiring action points, The First 30 Days teaches the skills you need to face any change--skills that will help you today and for the rest of your life.

Inside, discover:

  • How to develop a positive approach to change--it can make all the difference.
  • The Change Guarantee--from any change, something good can come.
  • Your Change Muscle--you have one! Find out where it is and how to use it.
  • How to combat your Change Demons--the negative emotions that want to hold you back.
  • How to build a Change Support Team--who and what makes the most difference.

A Letter from Ariane de Bonvoisin

How good are you at change? Big changes? Small changes? Professional changes? Personal changes? The fact is, everyone experiences change. It’s the one constant in life. Be it a job change, relationship change, health change, or changes in the world we live in, change is unavoidable. What change are you or someone you love dealing with? A first time mom, recently divorced, caring for a sick parent, adjusting to a new job, or a recent graduate?

Whatever change you're experiencing —whether unexpected or planned—the first few days and weeks are often the hardest, most emotional time. It is the time when we have the most questions, emotions, doubts and fears. It is also the time when we are most in need of direction, information, inspiration, and support. Thirty days is enough to get started in the right way, to begin to understand what makes change easier and most importantly, how to stay on the right track.

I’ve interviewed hundreds of people and seen a pattern in what helps someone get through change with less stress and anxiety. The things we do, say, and feel directly affect our reaction to change. Through these interviews, I’ve seen that it’s possible to become better at change, to embrace and look for the positive in the transitions that will inevitably arise. The First 30 Days includes real life stories of people who have lived through many types of change, along with clear action points (look for the Take Action sections in the book) that will help you move through the changes in your own life.

The First 30 Days is for all of us who have always wanted to make a change, but didn’t know how to start; for those who have tried over and over to initiate a change with little or no success; and for those who are overwhelmed by the changes that have come into their lives. The First 30 Days will not only kick start your life of change, but it will also help you reach your goals by keeping you focused, directed and inspired.

I believe anyone can change. I believe there is always something good that will come from change, even if you can't see it right now. I believe that when we stop resisting the changes we are going through and simply embrace them, we realize that life is on our side. We all have a part of ourselves that doesn’t change —and, when we find that part within us, whatever change we are going through becomes easier. The First 30 Days can show you how.


“This beautiful book is like having a compassionate friend guiding you through the beginning stages of any major change in your life. I loved it.” (Wayne Dyer, New York Times bestselling author of Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life)

“This book is full of practical information that will both inspire and inform. … a must read.” (Cathie Black, New York Times bestselling author of Basic Black: The Essential Guide for Getting Ahead at Work (and in Life), president of Hearst Magazines)

“Ariane can inspire and inform all of us going through change, whether it be big or small, professional or personal.” (David Bach, #1 New York Times bestselling author of The Automatic Millionaire and Start Late, Finish Rich)

“The First 30 Days can help people change their lives.” (Richard Parsons, former CEO of Time Warner)

“Since change is the only constant in life, it helps to have an expert navigate through the ups and downs of life. The First 30 Days is an excellent guide.” (Deepak Chopra, New York Times bestselling author of Buddha and The Third Jesus)

“What could you do to start loving your life more? This book helps you answer that question and provides the tools you need to make it happen.” (Marci Shimoff, New York Times bestselling author of Happy for No Reason, Chicken Soup for the Women's Soul and featured teacher in The Secret)

“Ariane has a wonderful, warm, inspiring approach to life, to changes we all go through and to what’s important. This book is filled with ways to make change simpler, easier and less stressful. I highly recommend it.” (Mike Dooley, author of Notes from the Universe, featured teacher in The Secret)

“The First 30 Days is ideal for anyone going through a change, wanting to make a change or helping someone through a change. There are gems of wisdom in here that will make a difference in how we all get through change and transitions in life.” (Karen Salmansohn, bestselling author of How to be Happy, Dammit)

:”Life coach/trainer de Bonvoisin expands on the change theme by offering readers direction in the changes they want to make…taking an in-depth look at resistance to change (the drive that wants things back the old way) and suggesting ways to surmount it.” (School Library Journal)

“de Bonvoisin found common threads among those who successfully navigated shifting circumstances, whether they were thrown cruel curveballs or desperately seeking something new: They have a positive outlook, a support team and an action plan.” (

“Smart, sane advice to guide you through the first month of any life change...” (Redbook Magazine)

“Good or bad, whether foisted upon us or of our own choosing, change is always tough. Author Ariane de Bonvoisin focuses on the first 30 days in her book and offers nine principles to lessen the pain and nurture the gain.” (Chicago Tribune)

“De Bonvoisin urges readers to believe that change is a good thing, that it’s part of life and happens to everyone. She writes about recongizing negative influences and surrounding yourself with positive influences.” (USA Today)

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I took the time to do the exercises as I read the book and found it very worthwhile.
A Fan
This book will help you look at change in ways you've never looked at it before no matter where you are in life.
Michael Dolpies
From any change good will come.... develop your "change muscle".... build your "change team."

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26 of 27 people found the following review helpful By Simon Sinek on May 6, 2008
Format: Hardcover
No matter what you're going through, this book will help you find the positive side of everything so that you can get more out of your life. I am going through a big career change and Ariane's 9 principles of change have helped my understand what I'm going through. And, more importantly, helped me navigate the change. I am already feeling more confident and positive about the change and I haven't even finished reading the book yet!!
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23 of 24 people found the following review helpful By P. Bergkvist on July 12, 2008
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I met Ariane when she was working for the Boston Consulting Group in London. I was still at the university she had studied at and was interviewing at BCG. I didn't get the job but our meeting sparked a fascinating chain of events in my life...I only talked to Ariane briefly but the next day she came to find me at the university, listened to me, a stranger, moan about my plight and then told me to join her for a walk around London. We talked about life, work, study, travel, finding employment; we brainstormed other options and how my life might be better without the job (how many people put themselves out for strangers like that?).

A few months later when Ariane was traveling through London we met up again. I hadn't found a job and was struggling with my studies. When we said good-bye Ariane announced that she wasn't going to get in touch and didn't want to hear from me until I received the grades I needed. Perhaps, she said, that would help me understand how important it was for me to regain my focus. Then she just walked off. I was stunned but what an effect it had! Eventually I went on to do a Masters in Barcelona and then found a job with another consulting firm in New York. It was perfect and I loved it. A year later Ariane moved to New York after Stanford - I had got back in touch with her via fax (a strange notion, I know). In New York I had the opportunity to really get to know this 'life coach' who had helped me re-frame my thinking so dramatically. I know I'm not the only one with such an 'Ariane story'.

So the book? Well, to me it is Ariane. A reflection of how she lives and what she has seen work in her own life and the many lives she has touched. A reflection of who she is as a person: somebody who helps.
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19 of 21 people found the following review helpful By Du Roy De Blicquy on May 6, 2008
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most of us hate change, or, to say the least, are ill-equipped to deal with it. This book has helped me to use easy tips to improve my life simply on a daily basis, while going through exciting (living healthier) or challenging (death of a loved one) changes. Great format to take notes; will become one of your bedside's favourites. Must read for all!
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12 of 12 people found the following review helpful By Paul Greene on July 11, 2008
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I am very grateful for finding this book. Ariane keeps it simple yet challenged me and reminded me that everything I want lies outside of my
comfort zone...this book offers tools to making changes powerful and pro active.. not scary.
I really enjoyed this book.
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11 of 12 people found the following review helpful By Dee on May 30, 2008
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I LOVE THIS BOOK! A cancer diagnosis, the sudden passing of my best friend of 31 years, job loss and a break-up with the love of my life - all in 4 years time. Talk about change! I wish I'd had this book as I navigated my way through. Still, it's here now and I need it just as much.

Truly the book and website have been blessings in my life and I'm sharing the info with everyone. I wish I had enough words to express what this has done for me. Thank you over and over. It's like a guide book to life. When I don't remember how to navigate, or even that I can, it reminds me. What a precious gift. God Bless you Ariane. I look forward to more great things from you in the future.
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16 of 19 people found the following review helpful By Dave Carpenter on May 7, 2008
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We live in a world where change has become the one constant. Technological changes continue to happen faster and have broader impact. And, the prevalent instant gratification philosophy creates even more change as so many are quicker to shed relationships, whether personal or vocationally.

Author Ariane de Bonvoisin has written a terrific book, full of sound wisdom on how to make change a positive in one's life. Her combination of straight talk and numerous short examples, drawn from her own life and that of people she knows, makes for an enjoyable, quick read. I also liked her choice of quotes as she respects many of the authors and philosophers I like most. (Her use of the Serenity Prayer touched me personally as I use this to close every one of my weekly radio shows.)

With no disrespect to the author, I believe there are better books on how to create a given change using four or five step processes built on well researched, psychological analysis of personal change. And, of course, there are specific books for changing a given behavior that offer far more depth (due to their singular focus). But, in terms of establishing the notion of ways to embrace change, I think this book is an absolute winner.

Given that I am a generation older than the author, I found myself admiring her youthful passion for helping people embrace change, not just through her first book but also through her helpful web site. Critics likely will say she has yet to personally experience some of the more stressful life changes. But, I believe she is building "change muscle" (her term) that will have her handling those stresses very well. And, I love the fact that the likes of her and Tim Ferris (the Four Hour Work Week) are weighing in with thoughtful writings so early in their life.
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Ariane de Bonvoisin is the CEO and founder of First30Days, a New York City-based media company focused on guiding people through all types of changes, both personal and professional and social or global. The company, which launched its web site,, in February 2008 currently features 60 life change subjects, including those relevant to our times such as losing a job, selling a home, starting a business, dealing with depression, smart investing, reducing debt and living frugally.

With a degree in economics and international relations from the London School of Economics, Ariane began her professional career at The Boston Consulting Group and worked in over a dozen countries during her tenure. After receiving an MBA from Stanford University, she moved to New York, working with media companies Bertelsmann and Sony.

In 2000, she joined Time Warner as the Managing Director of a new $500 million digital-media venture fund. The Fund's mission was to take equity stakes in early-stage, potentially strategic, technology companies.

Prior to her launch of First30Days and time at Charlie Rose Productions, Ariane spent a year as a Senior Advisor on a Humanitarian Project, A DAY IN THE LIFE OF AFRICA. The project involved the top 100 photojournalists placed in the 53 countries of Africa on a single day.

Ariane has a monthly column in Redbook magazine and AdAge, is MSN's Life Change Expert, a contributing editor to, a Life Balance expert for Health Magazine and has appeared on dozens of TV and radio shows, including NBC's The Today Show, the CBS Early Show, Fox and Friends, CNN Radio and ABC News Now. She is a Huffington Post contributor and has written articles for media outlets including Town & Country, the New York Daily News, Reader's Digest, Women's Health and Media Bistro, among others.

Ariane speaks frequently around the country and abroad on issues of change. In 2008, she spoke at events including Maria Shriver's Women's Conference, the Pennsylvania's Governors Conference, the Houston and Boston Women's Conferences, the Health Conference in NYC, and international conferences.

Ariane's book entitled, The First 30 Days: Your Guide to Making Any Change Easier was published by Harper Collins in May 2008. Ariane embarked on a national media and speaking tour for the book. A Spanish edition was published in December 2008 by Spanish by Rayo, a division of Harper Collins and the paperback edition of First30Days is due in early May 2009.

She is also an accomplished athlete, having been a competitive swimmer, a ski instructor, and a runner in a series of marathons and triathlons. She also reached the summit of Mt. Kilimanjaro in January 2001 and accompanied a group of students to Antarctica in December 2002.

Ariane currently serves on the advisory boards of the following companies she is passionate about: Smart is Cool (an organization dedicated to empowering young girls) and Call and Response (an organization committed to ending child slavery around the world).