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The Gaggle: How to Find Love in the Post-Dating World [Kindle Edition]

Jessica Massa
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Who cares if he’s just not that into you? You’ve got a gaggle.

It’s easy to feel like your love life is nonexistent. You know you’re great, so why haven’t you been on a classic dinner-and-a-movie date since . . . well, forever? Because as it turns out, you are now living in a post-dating world, where the old rules for sex and relationships no longer apply. Suddenly, everything and nothing is a date. But this means that you have much more going on in your love life than you realize.

Think about all the ambiguous interactions you have with guys: from a brainstorming session with a coworker, to a drink with an old friend, to a late night Skype session with an ex who’s still in your life. Once you open your eyes, you’ll see that you’re already exploring all sorts of connections with the men in your life via these non-dates. And who are all these guys you’re non-dating?

Say hello to your gaggle.

The gaggle is the group of guys in your life who play different roles, fulfill different needs, and help you figure out who you are, what you want, and what kind of relationship you ultimately desire. Though no two gaggles are alike, there are ten types of men a gaggle might include, such as the Ego Booster, the Hot Sex Prospect, and the Boyfriend Prospect. Romance, excitement, self-discovery, love . . . all this will be yours, once you stop stressing about dates, labels, and expectations and start thinking of each man you know and meet as a potential guy in your gaggle.

In this clever and groundbreaking debut, based on interviews with women and men across the country, Jessica Massa reveals the ways in which the potential for love is all around you. The Gaggle is the ultimate guide to figuring out what you want—and finding your match—in a world that has left traditional dating behind.


Editorial Reviews

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Jess Massa and [Gaggle co-creator] Rebecca Wiegand are…poster girls for modern-day dating.” (Entertainment Weekly )

"Dating sucks. We all agree, it’s a job interview. It’s the worst thing ever…That’s why the gaggle is important…Guys are equally confused by the dating process, if not more…I think it’s wonderful.” (Patrick Meagher, Cocktails with Patrick Cosmo Radio )

“Every woman needs a gaggle of guys to fill different roles in her life. I do believe that! Yes, I do!” (Lara Spencer Good Afternoon America )

About the Author

Jessica Massa graduated magna cum laude from Harvard with a degree in psychology. Her work has been featured in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Elle, Variety, CNN.com, The Times of London, and Glamour.com, among others. She lives in Brooklyn.

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  • File Size: 641 KB
  • Print Length: 290 pages
  • Page Numbers Source ISBN: 1451657528
  • Publisher: Simon & Schuster (June 12, 2012)
  • Sold by: Simon and Schuster Digital Sales Inc
  • Language: English
  • ASIN: B005GG0NBY
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14 of 14 people found the following review helpful
3.0 out of 5 stars Not Bad August 21, 2012
Format:Kindle Edition
Posted on Romancing the BOok's blog
Reviewed by Marissa
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I admit, it was the title that caught my attention. Since I have many men in my life - who I am not romantically involved with - I thought, "Why not read it and find out how all these men can help me?" Not quite how it works though.

Turns out that your Gaggle is made up of men who have the possibility of being romantic interests. There are ten types of men who can end up in your Gaggle, and each of those must appear attractive in one way or another. Not superficially attractive but attractive to you, whether it's because he's intelligent, fun, or a great storyteller.

So. Back to my (lack of a) romantic life. In viewing the possibilities for my Gaggle, I find I have The Super Horny Guy Who Happens to Be Around a Lot, The Guy Who Just Blew You Off, The Unavailable Guy, and The Ex-Boyfriend Who's Still Around. Hmmmm... Not looking too good here. But the beauty of a Gaggle is that by using each of the men in yours, you can increase your Gaggle. For instance, let's say The Guy Who Just Blew You Off brings a friend to your next softball game and you two hit it off. Bingo! The Boyfriend Prospect! Or maybe he's The Hot Sex Prospect. Wherever he falls, you've filled another place in your Gaggle.

And it doesn't stop there. Each member of your Gaggle has the potential to turn into The Boyfriend Prospect. Let's say you have a good connection with your Accessory (he's the guy you call when you need a plus-one for that business dinner or your cousin's wedding). You laugh, commiserate over past loves, you like the way he makes you feel. The Accessory could turn into The Boyfriend Prospect.

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5 of 5 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Forget "Girls", this is real June 29, 2012
Format:Kindle Edition
In the last few months, I've heard more about the sex lives of twenty-something girls than I ever have in my life. And as a proud gay best friend to a number of NYC twenty-somethings, that's really saying something. Books, magazine articles, blog posts, HBO's "Girls", endless interviews of people related to HBO's "Girls", it's been all young women, sex, and millennial romance, all the time. No escape.

And out of that whole flood of commentary, the Gaggle is the only thing I've really liked, and the only one that rings true.

Rather than bemoan the change of social mores, or advocate manipulative "solutions", or depict young women as sad-sack messes lurching from one mistake to the next, Massa gives us real women, in common yet hilarious situations, who have made their peace with contemporary (non)-dating life and are having a ball. Instead of depicting romance as some separate universe, far removed from the venues where young women kick ass and take names on a daily basis (work, school, the kickball field), she shows us, with deft, funny, and often painfully relatable anecdotes, that romantic potential is an integral part of everyday life. The men in a girl's gaggle - the men with whom she shares some degree of romantic potential, often in very different ways - are all around her, at her office, on her team, at her friends' parties, and she doesn't need to wait around for some quasi-mystical "one," but have fun and make the most of what she has. The Gaggle doesn't advocate some radical life change, but instead gives a girl (or guy) the tools to make sense of what is already happening, and how best to enjoy it.

An actual voice for this generation - sorry Lena Dunham - Massa has written a tremendously funny, accurate, and most of all optimistic guide to making the most of your love life. We might not have all the answers, it tells us, but we're coming up with new ones all the time.
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10 of 12 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Incredibly accurate, illuminating & hysterical June 23, 2012
Format:Hardcover|Verified Purchase
Disclaimer: I would never normally read a book about women and "the end of dating", but my girlfriend forced me to read this when I got upset about some male friends in her life. I had the idea that I'd read the first and last chapters so that I could claim I'd read it, but once I started it I couldn't put it down... which was a bit awkward cause as a straight guy you don't want to be seen on the downtown A train in NYC on the way to work reading a book with the subtitle 'How the Guys You Know Will Help You Find the Love You Want'. I had to eventually put another book cover over it. Anyway: it is such a forehead slapping kind of "why has no one talked about this before?" kind of book. It looks past all the bs of how women try to change themselves so that the "perfect" man will want them, and reorients the whole view and shows how they so clearly have more power over their options, and over the insanity of the whole dating thing, and frankly (since I'm a man, I know) more power in the face of a lot of clueless guys who think they own the world and get to make all the choices, and determine what is attractive and what is not. It reminded me a little of the Japanese martial art of Aikido which I studied a couple years ago, which teaches you not so much to fight (like kung fu or karate) but to use the power of your opponents and merely channel it to your advantage. This really talks about what women face now, and I have to say, I was very impressed by the insights it delivers by way of interviews with real people, and case studies, and the advice it gives. If I had a little sister, I'd buy this and give it to her immediately.
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Most Recent Customer Reviews
4.0 out of 5 stars Constructive
This book had alot to say that was constructive for me, a member of the boomer generation. This book is primarily about and for millennials or members of gen x, and is based on... Read more
Published 20 days ago by RR in DC
5.0 out of 5 stars I gave it as a gift...
and I'm not sure she took it the way it was intended. It's an obvious, elementary but interesting read. Read more
Published 3 months ago by Isabelle - NYC
5.0 out of 5 stars GREAT NON-DATING/DATING BOOK!!!
This is one of the best books I've read. If you're a young or older women dating in this new era you need to read this book. Read more
Published 5 months ago by LM from Florida
5.0 out of 5 stars a welcome change in perspective
I bought The Gaggle for my sister, who is fresh out of college and dealing with the early twenties datingish scene. Read more
Published 10 months ago by lynne
5.0 out of 5 stars Good read and funny
Great realistic and fun!
Recommended for all 20 something single girls and gives us a little more hope that love exists still
Published 13 months ago by Ashley
5.0 out of 5 stars Immensely helpful and empowering
Found this book hugely helpful in navigating the " post dating world"....as a twenty something living in NYC dating can be really depressing... Read more
Published 14 months ago by Goldylocks
1.0 out of 5 stars An excuse to publish her personal judgement
Originally this book started off nicely, I could certainly relate. However the more the book progressed, the more judgmental the author became. Read more
Published 17 months ago by Christinem
1.0 out of 5 stars I was Gaggled...
no comment, but not for me. But I appreciate being a contendor, or even the winner even though I wasn't told I won, until I asked if the party was a gaggle.
Published 17 months ago by Alexander C. Kazerooni
5.0 out of 5 stars Changed my view on dating and men for the better! :)
OK, I have not bought this book YET, but I WILL! i have already read the preview of it on kindle and I have listened to the authors talk about it on Youtube. Read more
Published 20 months ago by beccabewitching
5.0 out of 5 stars relevant read for the fun and unattached ladies out there
I was nodding my head in agreement the entire time I was reading The Gaggle and making a mental list of the friends I need to recommend it to. Read more
Published 21 months ago by CynVan
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