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12 of 13 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars My Favorite Book of 2012
I adored this book.
Sparing the readers from the orientalist cliche's Middle Eastern writers are often forced into, The Girl Who Fell to Earth is a beautiful coming of age story that will resonate with anyone who has wanted to rebel and LIVE at the same time. Al Maria's writing style incorporates cultural complexities the author navigates with sensitivity and a...
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3.0 out of 5 stars Authentic cultural identity struggle
Can't imagine how difficult a real life would be for kids born of US girls and Gulf guys, but this had to be very close to what it would be like. The story included 9-11 from the Arab side, an I cringe to think of the struggle a girl would go through especially between Qatar and Egypt. However, I wanted more from the ending.
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12 of 13 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars My Favorite Book of 2012, December 5, 2012
This review is from: The Girl Who Fell to Earth: A Memoir (Paperback)
I adored this book.
Sparing the readers from the orientalist cliche's Middle Eastern writers are often forced into, The Girl Who Fell to Earth is a beautiful coming of age story that will resonate with anyone who has wanted to rebel and LIVE at the same time. Al Maria's writing style incorporates cultural complexities the author navigates with sensitivity and a unique perspective only those who cradle the thin line between two culture can present. Between her love for David Bowie and a desire to read the stars from the desert, Al Maria spoke to my heart.
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13 of 15 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars "I wanted to find myself.", December 17, 2012
This review is from: The Girl Who Fell to Earth: A Memoir (Paperback)
Sophia Al-Maria's memoir, "The Girl Who Fell to Earth," opens in the Arabian Peninsula in 1969. A Bedouin boy named Matar, of the Al-Dafira tribe, is mesmerized by a portable television that the members of his tiny settlement watch communally. When Matar is eighteen, he announces to his mother that he is going to Seattle, Washington. The fact that he speaks no English does not deter him. He dons a ridiculous "used polyester suit" (the slacks are salmon pink), flies to America, and ends up in a Tacoma, Washington bowling alley. There he meets Gale Valo, who happens to be sitting around waiting for a cousin. Improbably, these two people, who have nothing in common, end up marrying and having children, one of whom is the author.

Gale, who grew up on a farm in the Puyallup Valley, where her mother, Sophia, still lived, had no idea what she was getting into when she set her cap for Matar. Only later does Gale realize that she and her husband, whose background, language, and customs are radically different, could not realistically expect to live happily ever after. Not only does Matar insist that Gale convert to Islam, but he returns to the Gulf to seek his fortune. Gale and the kids eventually join him in Qatar, a move that proves disastrous. She says in a telephone call to her mother from the capital city of Doha, "I keep thinking this is how it must be for astronauts. All cooped up for months on end, not knowing which way is up."

"The Girl Who Fell to Earth" is about Sophia's efforts to fit in either in Qatar or Washington. When she was five and saw a video that her father sent from overseas, Sophia said, "having a second world to belong to immediately made me cast doubt on my place in the first." As she grows older and becomes rebellious, it is increasingly clear to Sophia that she is an alien, in the sense that there is nowhere on earth where she feels at home. In desperation, Gale, who is back in Washington, sends twelve-year-old Sophia to visit with her father's Bedouin family. After a few months, Sophia says, "I was convinced that all the women in my family had forgotten what it was like to be fearless and what it had once meant to be free."

In this sad, touching, funny, and sometimes lyrical work, Sophia is stunned by the contrast between life in America and Qatar. She learns that Muslim women must dress a certain way, are kept segregated from men from the time girls reach puberty until they marry, and have limited educational and professional opportunities. If this weren't enough to make females feel inferior, Bedouin men practice polygamy.

Sophia is a lost soul, struggling to grow up with no sense of direction or proper support system. On that fateful day when Matar met Gale, they did not realize that they were about to take a step that would lead to heartache for all concerned. "The Girl Who Fell from the Sky" is about feminism, culture shock, love, and parenting. Al-Maria's experiences reinforce the idea that children need stability, a clear set of values, and consistent guidelines in order to become secure and self-confident adults.
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5 of 6 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars "Having a second world to belong to immediately made me cast doubt on my place in the first.", February 23, 2013
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Snaring the universal adolescent snarl of finding one's place in the world, is the marriage of her American mother and Bedouin father. Counter-intuitively, she often found the segregated world of the Bedouin culture to be more free for her, even within the folds of the abaya. Al-Maria split her childhood between poverty blighted Tacoma and Qatar. For some reason she found it more binding in Tacoma where people assumed they knew her.

Her memoir is deeply intuitive, with warm empathy toward her split family. She expresses the fears of being the outsider in both her cultures. Her language is erudite and witty. At one time, her father and mother lived together in Dakar. When he brought his second wife home, her mother used "germ warfare" to cope by sending in the plagues of her young daughters into the other wife's bedroom. It is this type of description,: sparing, witty, succinctly structured; that makes this book a joy to read.

Al-Maria writes about herself with compassion but also self revelation. I like her tremendously in her resistance to self pity and acceptance of her own shortcomings without self hate. She will often pull back at first, but watching from sidelines, eventually chooses her part to play. Sharing these two cultures is difficult to live and harder to expound upon without alienating the reader or making inane generalities. She is successful in escaping both these pitfalls. I recommend this book to you and await her future work.
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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Vivid and fascinating, December 17, 2014
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When Sophia Al-Maria's father was a boy his family still lived a traditional Bedouin lifestyle, traveling around the deserts of Qatar and Saudi Arabia and sleeping in tents under skies dark enough to be filled with stars. After being forced by boundary-loving authorities to settle in a gender-segregated family compound her father's wanderlust remained, which is how he ended up in Seattle unable to speak English but still managing to meet and marry an American girl, giving Al-Maria the dual or maybe triple or even quadruple cultural heritage that makes this memoir so mind expandingly and eye openingly interesting.

Al-Maria spent part of her childhood in her grandmother's small, isolated house in rural Washington state, where the protective paranoia of her mother made Al-Maria feel more trapped than when she stayed in her father's crowded multi-generational and now stationery home in Qatar. Even though while in Qatar there were substantial cultural and religious restrictions on her ability to move around freely and meet with whomever she wanted, being part of a larger family crowd felt liberating.

While she lived in Qatar Al-Maria spent her time getting to know her substantial Bedouin family, attending an international school mainly for foreigners, brawling with her male cousins in the wrong side of their gender divided home because she couldn't stand that being older meant she was no longer able to play Mortal Kombat with them (well, this happened just once), assisting her uncle's carefully choreographed subterfuge as he sneak-courted a non-Bedouin girl unacceptable to their family (which helped her figure out how to spend forbidden time with her boyfriend when she fell in love), and attending rowdy, sexually charged all female parties that seemed to be part of the insular culture of women. Al-Maria also got to experience a little of her traditional Bedouin heritage when the whole family would take off to camp in the desert.

Several of Al-Maria's perspectives and insights on hot topics like burka wearing are not what I've encountered anywhere else, and she experienced class divides I knew nothing about. The book presents a fascinating almost disorienting set of interrelated worlds and Al-Maria's vivid energetic writing sweeps the story along, allowing me the deep pleasure of being able to visualize that wide, star-rich desert sky but leaving me hanging a little at the end wondering what she did next. I'm hoping for a follow up book.
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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful
4.0 out of 5 stars The Girl Who Fell To Earth, December 29, 2012
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Straight from the heart. Sophia's memories of splitting the difference between two very different worlds growing up and Synthesizing them to form a her world view was an entertaining, often humorous read as she looks back at her formative years.
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3 of 4 people found the following review helpful
4.0 out of 5 stars Coming of age in two cultures, February 18, 2013
This review is from: The Girl Who Fell to Earth: A Memoir (Paperback)
This is a coming-of-age memoir from a woman with an unusual dual cultural background. Her father was from a Saudi Bedouin tribe who received a scholarship from Qatar to study in America, landed in the Seattle area where he was befriended by a young woman who helped him learn the language and culture. They developed a romantic relationship, she became pregnant, she converted to Islam and they had a civil marriage ceremony.

After the birth of two daughters he returned to Qatar where his English speaking skills earned him a job on an oil rig in the Persian (Arabian) Gulf. A couple of years later he was able to send for his American family, but his wife discovered in the meantime he had married a Saudi cousin and had a child with this second wife. She could not handle this, although it was commonly accepted in the Muslim culture, and returned to Washington state and her mother's home to raise her two small daughters.

Sophia, the oldest daughter, with dark skin and the physical features of her father's Bedouin ancestors and never felt completely comfortable among her American peers. In middle school she was sent by her mother to spend a summer and later to finish high school with her father's family in Doha. She kept in touch with both parents, attended American University in Cairo, where she discovered a book in the library on her father's Al Dafira tribe, met with the anthropologist author and began to reconcile her two worlds.

All of us can relate with a teenager's stuggle for self identity, but Sophia's story illustrates the complex struggles of living in the dramatically different environments and cultures of the lush green northwestern USA and the sandy Arabian peninsula, the free interaction in coeducational schools and the covert efforts of boys and girls under strict family supervision trying to meet and know each other. Sophia uses her personal story to illustrate a widespread reality of two worlds trying to understand each other.
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars A Great Biography, April 2, 2013
This review is from: The Girl Who Fell to Earth: A Memoir (Paperback)
The author's fearful mother sends her to live with her estranged biological father in Saudi Arabia in response to discovering her normal budding tween sexuality. He, in turn, shunts her off to female relatives of his Bedouin (formerly nomadic) clan. In this setting, the extreme taboo of genders mixing makes what would probably have been casual interest in a boy into an exciting chase from prying eyes.

The author does not feel completely at home with her anxiety-disordered mother, nor with her father's people, both sides of the family forbidding her to grow independently and find her own way in life. As a young adult at American University in Cairo she finally tastes freedom, which comes with drawbacks such as sexual harassment being routine.

The book is a fascinating ethnography on the similarities of being young
and female in different cultures, and of the influences on perceptions of economic and gender status between and within each.

Her Middle Eastern life was so outside this American reader's experiences that it felt like reading fiction, and was lovely armchair travel. Looking forward to reading more from this author.
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful
3.0 out of 5 stars Authentic cultural identity struggle, May 10, 2013
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Can't imagine how difficult a real life would be for kids born of US girls and Gulf guys, but this had to be very close to what it would be like. The story included 9-11 from the Arab side, an I cringe to think of the struggle a girl would go through especially between Qatar and Egypt. However, I wanted more from the ending.
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful
4.0 out of 5 stars Refreshingly honest and well written, February 4, 2013
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Sophia Al-Maria has a refreshing talent for transparency and bringing the reader into the reality of the moment. Her style and honesty
makes for a very interesting and informative read into the Bedouin culture and the shifting life styles of it's people. It's rare to find an author who is not self promoting or writing with an agenda, Sophia Al-Maria breaks the mold.
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2.0 out of 5 stars Lacks insight and focus, February 17, 2015
This review is from: The Girl Who Fell to Earth: A Memoir (Paperback)
Anyone who reads memoirs knows that a successful one requires two distinct elements: an interesting life, and strong writing skills. By memoir standards, Sophia Al-Maria's life is promising: her father is a Bedouin from Qatar, her mother an American from rural Washington; she grows up in the U.S. but moves to Doha as a teenager to live with her father's family, then attends college in Cairo. That clash of cultures seen through the eyes of a modern teen, interested in sci-fi and video games, provides some potentially great material.

Unfortunately, Al-Maria does little with that material. Other reviewers have criticized the book as self-centered, which isn't necessarily a problem for me; it is, after all, her memoir. The problem is that the one thing that makes Al-Maria's life interesting is her having lived in such wildly different cultures; the activities that make up her life (attending school, experiencing pop culture, discovering boys) are mundane. And when the interesting thing about someone's life is the other people in it, then a lack of interest and insight into those other people becomes a problem. A scene toward the end is representative of Al-Maria's focus throughout the book: she goes on an anthropological expedition, but realizes afterwards that her tapes consist almost entirely of her talking to her subjects about herself. Despite that supposed epiphany, this book does the same thing.

On top of that, too often the story simply doesn't make sense, raising more questions about events than it answers. Here's a small example: "Ma checked us in [to a hotel] under a false name and, having no money, gave them our passports as collateral at the desk." (That makes sense how?) And here's a larger one: Al-Maria's parents meet when her father travels to the U.S. as a foreign student, gets lost as soon as he arrives, encounters her mother in a bowling alley, and takes off with her. It sounds like the plot of a bad romantic comedy, and the author offers no more explanation than such a film would. How does he manage to get a scholarship, when he is long out of school, with no achievements or connections mentioned? When a student arrives from another country speaking virtually no English, wouldn't someone meet him at the airport, or at least instruct him in advance on finding the school? Does no one realize he never arrives at the school, or try to check up on him? Isn't ditching his academic plans a problem for his immigration status and/or stipend? When he's later mentioned to be regularly "visiting" his girlfriend's mother in rural Washington, where is he living, and how can he afford it? There are so many unanswered questions that it feels as if we're only getting half the story.

And then, the author's writing itself can be clunky. The constant pop culture references from the author's childhood are both needless and distancing for those who don't share her reference points, and she never uses a common noun where a brand name will do. Here are several examples all taken from a single page: "The only snippet of incongruity in Joey's look was the fact that he was wearing thick-as-Coke-bottle glasses. He rummaged through his worn-out leather-bottomed Jansport. . . . Tara was skinny with a shaved head like a Tank Girl. . . . [Joey] pulled a pack of Pall Malls out and lit one off a floppy clip of matches. . . . Joey was peeling up the edge of the `hum' part of his Subhumans patch."

In the end, neither the author's writing nor her insight is crisp enough to bring anything but her own angst and pop cultural interests into focus, and the story trails off - not a moment too soon - with no real conclusion. Though I know a bit more about Qatar than before, I was glad to be finished with this book and would not recommend it to others.
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