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A much-needed book for moms
on April 7, 2011
I stumbled upon this book when browsing a bookstore during my lunch break. On that particular day, I was feeling really down on myself. Was I being the best mom I could be? Did my friends and family hate me because I wasn't as available as I used to be now that I had a young child? And geez, when will I EVER lose the baby weight? I nearly cried reading just the first chapter, in which Meeker describes the value of a mother, and why it has nothing to do with her employment status, weight and looks, housekeeping abilities, etc. I simply had to buy this book. Finally, a book about motherhood from an author who GETS IT. I love my son deeply and am so happy to be a mother, but just 16 months into this gig, I felt myself drowning in unrealistic expectations -- from myself and from parenting culture in general. I was constantly beating myself up for not being perfect, and those feelings were starting to crowd out the generally positive feelings I have about parenthood. Meeker does a great job of building women up and encouraging them to understand their value. She coaches mothers to pay attention to nurturing themselves and surrounding themselves with people and activities that make them more resilient to handling the challenges of parenting and give them the energy needed to raise children. I suppose deep in my gut, I knew these things were true, but it felt good to hear it from someone else. Taking time to reflect on the author's words and the questions she asked was much better than the therapy I'd been tempted to seek.