From the Publisher
In The Happiest Mom, you share 10 secrets to enjoying motherhood. What do you think is the most important secret?
We decided to open the book with this secret: Take The Easy Way Out. Of course, good parenting requires a lot of effort--but you won't score extra points for difficulty, so there's no point making motherhood harder than it has to be. That doesn't mean you do everything by halves or don't bother trying, it means setting up your life so that you're putting effort into the things that really matter to you. Also, the tips we give throughout the rest of the book will actually help your life as a mom feel easier. For example, if you have a good support network in place, motherhood will feel easier. If you learn systems that help you stay reasonably organized and on top of your kids' homework and calendar, motherhood will feel easier. If you focus on the things that matter to you - and not necessarily the ones that matter to other people - motherhood will feel easier. If being a mom seems hard all the time, The Happiest Mom will definitely help you zero in on the areas you could take the easier way out. The end result is that you'll be happier, and so will your kids.
From the Author
A lot of mom-oriented books focus on the struggles and frustrations of motherhood. Why did you take a different angle in this book?
When I became a mom over 13 years ago, books about parenting seemed mostly preachy or unrealistically soft-focused. I can still remember how ground-breaking the "Girlfriend's Guide" books were in the 1990's! It was the first time many new moms could remember reading anything that gave the straight dirt about what motherhood could do to your body, bank account, you name it.
The 2000's ushered in a slew of "keeping it real" books and blogs about motherhood that shone a light on the darker side. That was great, but the pendulum swung so far in that direction that it started to seem like motherhood is nothing but 24-7 misery, and worse, that there's nothing you can do about it but hang on, pour a drink, and wait for high-school graduation. It became almost uncool to admit to being a happy mom, or to share positive stories about motherhood. People thought you were either lying, or worse, bragging.
But I wanted to tell the other side of the story. Yes, motherhood is tough at times, but moms can be happy. What's more, there are small, simple things we can do every day to make our lives a little easier, a lot better, and way more satisfying. I wanted moms to know that yes, you can use the words "happy" and "mother" in the same sentence! And I knew that as a mom of five who was once pretty unhappy but who has gotten happier through the years, I had a lot of advice to share.