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The High-Conflict Couple: A Dialectical Behavior Therapy Guide to Finding Peace, Intimacy, and Validation Paperback – December 3, 2006


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Product Details

  • Paperback: 192 pages
  • Publisher: New Harbinger Publications; 1 edition (December 3, 2006)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 157224450X
  • ISBN-13: 978-1572244504
  • Product Dimensions: 0.5 x 6 x 8.8 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (51 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #40,855 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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This is a long awaited book! Fruzzetti is a master clinician who does rigorous science in order to provide those of us doing treatment and those in need of it something that works. This is hope for all of us working with individuals, couples and families who suffer. Thank you, Alan, for this timely and important work.
—Suzanne Witterholt, MD, distinguished fellow of the American Psychiatric Associationand director of Ananda Services for Dialectical Behavior Therapy in the Department of Psychiatry at the University of Minnesota

From the Publisher

This is the first book to use dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) to help high-conflict couples regulate out-of-control emotions, tolerate distressing situations, and resolve problems—an approach proven to help even the most highly reactive couples build healthy relationships.

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This was an easy to read book with lots of good examples to illustrate key points.
Tiffany Painter
This book would be helpful for a couple who experiences intense emotional conflicts and for psychotherapists who work with couples experiencing these conflicts.
Joann Sallmann
This is a great manual on practical applications of DBT skills that couples can use.
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92 of 95 people found the following review helpful By Omar Siddique TOP 1000 REVIEWERVINE VOICE on July 30, 2007
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High Conflict Couple is a concise, easy to understand guide for couples seeking to deepen their relationship and ease their conflicts.

Its tone is a bit crisper, cooler, and more analytical than most marriage guides. This is actually its strength, speaking to the analytical half of your relationship in a straight-forward way they will appreciate and understand even if they shy away from most relationship-help books as being too touchie-feelie. The message is the same as many guides, that validation (lingo for healthy supportive loving communication) is the key to a happy, intimate relationship-- and it is the key. This book helps approach that need from the angle of couples or individuals who have already been conflict-prone.

The book has open-ended exercises that are useful if a bit vague, precise examples, and very good flow from chapter to chapter, start to finish. Even the layout is accessible with short measured segments that allow the reader to pause and reflect frequently.

Pair this with The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert for a complete set of paperback marriage counseling: that book contains many accessible examples, detailed exercises, and 2-person activities to try with your partner. I highly recommend the combination of the two books.

Regardless, if you're the emotional half of your relationship, get High Conflict Couple for your emotionally-challenged partner. If you're the analytical half, the guide will speak to you right away, and you'll wonder why nobody ever explained it to you in such a direct easy to understand way.

Highly recommended whether you are in a happy relationship, a struggling one, or struggling to understand why a relationship failed.
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44 of 47 people found the following review helpful By John M. Worrall on November 30, 2006
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This book is full of practical tips on how to make any couple's relationship better. It places a lot of emphasis on validation (what it is, how to validate and how we frequently inadvertantly invalidate each other without realizing it). Each chapter includes exercises to practice what was discussed. The exercises essentially help a couple to start to immediately put into practice what was discussed in the chapter; it's amazing how the techniques, though not complicated, really seem to work. In summary, the book is well organized, easy to read, and an extremely effective way for a couple motivated toward change to move forward in a positive way. Thank you!
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38 of 40 people found the following review helpful By Holly Hazlett-Stevens on January 4, 2007
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This book is an important new resource not only for people concerned about relationship conflict. Anyone struggling with anxiety, depression, or other "individual" emotional problems who is also in an intimate relationship could benefit. More and more, psychologists are discovering just how important relationships are to what we once thought were individual personal problems. This wonderful book is rich with real life examples and straightforward exercises every reader can do. This book is highly recommended for anyone wanting to improve their relationship with their partner!
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28 of 29 people found the following review helpful By Kevin Bringman on January 30, 2013
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This is a good book, provides some interesting insights into the complexities of relationships, especially relationships with long histories, but becomes a little redundant by constantly reiterating the same ideas, sort of a repeat and retain approach. I guess the main theme(s) to take away from this book is embracing this idea of mindfulness, which is a fundamental component of DBT. Basically the idea goes like this: every relationship has flaws. Your partner is going to disappoint and frustrate you. You are going to feel under-appreciated. You are going to argue. Every individual in a relationship maintains some sort of ideal version of their partner, which slowly erodes as the relationship progresses and flaws begin to surface, a history develops, resentments build, etc. However, mindfulness essentially embraces this idea of flaws and promotes this idea of remaining in the present, finding ways to appreciate your partner, finding ways to validate, and developing an effective schema or frame that aids in remembering why you fell in love with that person and why you are still together. This is essentially achieved, as the book would have you believe, through constant open communication, not brooding on past difficulties, and essentially changing the way that you think about and view your partner. Instead of dwelling on negativity and inherent flaws, you look for all of the positive things that your partner does while embracing and accepting the realization that your relationship is not always going to be rosy and full of magic. There are a lot of exercises in the book that could be helpful and there are some different techniques that you can use to emphasize the positivity in your relationship, increase healthy communication, increase intimacy, and `reactivate' the relationship.Read more ›
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25 of 27 people found the following review helpful By Nic on January 20, 2008
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This book really helped me understand some of the dynamics of my marriage that I had previously been confused by. I couldn't figure out how two people who love each other so much could rip each other to shreds in times of conflict. It's written very clearly and the exercises are great for helping you become more aware and less reactive. I would recommend this book for anyone who is struggling in a relationship and seeks to make it better.
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