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The Hole [Kindle Edition]

Bruce Derman Ph.D. , Michael Hauge
4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (15 customer reviews)

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Book Description

Throughout the ages, people have searched for that elusive ingredient that will make their lives complete and fill up the "hole within." In their efforts to fill this hole, millions have turned to food, sex, gambling, drugs and alcohol or compulsive spending.
Now, in his insightful new book, "The Hole", author Bruce Derman, Ph.D. reveals an innovative perspective to achieving inner peace in this fable about a seemingly successful couple who suddenly discover the presence of a gaping hole in the floor of their home. At first, they ignore and avoid the hole, which symbolizes the emptiness in their lives. Finally, they try to fill the hole, but no matter what they do to "fix" it, it keeps growing larger. When a mysterious stranger appears and offers to help them with their exhaustive efforts to fill the bottomless hole, they begin to see that they must choose between the endless exercise of filling the emptiness, or learn the skills necessary to accept it.

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About the Author

Bruce Derman, Ph.D. is a licensed clinical psychologist who has been in private practice as a psychotherapist for over 40 years in Woodland Hills and Santa Monica, California. He specializes in high conflict couples, sexual and eating disorders, and divorce mediation and coaching. He has written two other books entitled "We'd Have a Great Relationship, If It Weren't For You" and "We Could've Had a Great Date, If It Weren't For You". Dr. Derman works with many people in his private practice who are struggling with the issue of emptiness in their everyday lives as a result of exposure to different losses. He helps them to move through this dilemma so that they can learn to accept their emptiness as a natural part of their life's journey. He can be reached through his website:therelationshipdoctor.net or via his email:relationdr@aol.com

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  • File Size: 148 KB
  • Print Length: 102 pages
  • Page Numbers Source ISBN: 1450540678
  • Sold by: Amazon Digital Services, Inc.
  • Language: English
  • ASIN: B004ISLO5K
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5.0 out of 5 stars A Well Structured Lesson On Life December 24, 2010
Format:Paperback
This book is a modern day fable written by a psychologist to teach the reader the importance of being one with yourself and not needing the acceptance of others to lead the life you enjoy. Dirk and Dawn are a couple that seem to lead the perfect life. They both have high paying jobs, they entertain friends regularly, wear the best clothes and have an expensively furnished house. As the fable goes along we wonder if their lives are so "perfect." When a mysterious hole appears in their living room floor, their whole world seems to come apart.

One can wonder why a hole could cause so much turmoil but as the two obsess over the hole and try fruitlessly to fix it, they get more dismayed emotionally and incredibly stressed. All attempts to fix the hole from hiring contractors to just covering it up are futile and in fact, the hole continues to grow.

One day a strange little man appears who seems to know their issue and claims to be able to solve their problems. Dirk and Dawn are desperate and let the little man do his thing. However, to get to the solution will definately take them out of their comfort zone and make them realize that all they thought about the world was shallow and not really correct.

This is a very quick and fun read and I greatly enjoyed it. Thank you Mr. Derman for sending me a copy of your wonderful book!
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5.0 out of 5 stars Entering the Unknown and Embracing It December 25, 2010
Format:Paperback
If Dr. Bruce Derman offers therapy as well as he writes then he must be booked for months ahead! This book, THE HOLE, is a clever fable and as Derman obviously knows, people relate to fables well. The story has been excerpted many times on this review site and this reviewer will not repeat the fable as written. But the story behind the fable as presented by Derman, as well written and wise though it is, is not the same experience as reading for yourself. The concept of deciding to embrace the unknown rather than continue running from it in fear is in many ways the basis for therapy. Derman develops this concept by using a 'perfect couple' encountering a threatening other and eventually, together, accepting and actually jumping into that unknown mysterious and terrifying other and finding a better relationship and life because of their commitment shines a light on the path each of us must encounter if we are to grow.

In Dr. Derman's introduction, succinct and to the point and brief though it is, offers some of the warmest supportive and therapeutic advice yet published. If everyone would just simply add this book to their library and offer it as gifts to those about whom we have concern as they face emptiness then this chaotic world would begin to make sense, allowing us all to move on - enlightened. Highly recommended reading! Grady Harp, December 10
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5.0 out of 5 stars The Hole is a profound fable of human existence June 14, 2011
Format:Paperback
Bruce Derman, a clinical psychologist, takes on the root cause of man's unhappiness--the rejection of emptiness. That root cause inspired THE HOLE: A Fable That Takes You On A Journey Through The Struggle With Emptiness. This small profound book, examines both the consciousness and denial of the Void. A modern fable, its story is as familiar as childhood nightmares and as old as human existence. Dirk and Dawn are a young couple who have achieved the life they believe they deserve. Attractive and well-employed, their home with its beautifully polished wood floors and perfectly appointed furniture is a source of pride--a reflection of their status and good taste. Then one day Dawn sees a hole in that floor and worries it will upset Dirk. But hiding it from him becomes impossible. Their distaste for the hole results in it becoming bigger. Dawn, a "pleaser," covers it up, but it continues to widen. Dirk becomes perturbed as the crack in their perfection widens. Soon they can't cover it up with rugs or by rearranging the furniture. They hire contractors to fill the hole, but it's bottomless. And with the pressure of dealing with it, there's a crack in Dirk and Dawn's personal facades. Their images of pleasing and perfection become a distant memory. They argue and bicker, until they hurt each other and in despair, ask for help. Then a strange little man comes to their door and is willing to guide them in the wisdom of the Holes, if they are willing to enter the hole and accept it. The invitation triggers all their distrust and terror and the descent begins. They face eternal darkness, a place without form, the dread of powerlessness. Ultimately, the couple comes to accept the nature of the bottomless pit. Acceptance of emptiness, leads the way to love, passion, and power. Once they stop running from the hole and trying to fill it from the outside, they discover all the possibilities of life. I found this is a touching story, comforting in it's zen way.
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5.0 out of 5 stars An intriguing and recommended read, not to be missed February 11, 2011
Format:Paperback
There is nothing to fear but nothing itself. "The Hole" is a novel exploring the emptiness and void that we all fear at some level. Dirk and Dawn are faced with a hole in their home, with no indication that there is even a bottom to it. Struggling to find the truth surrounding this pit, the confront our own fears surrounding nothingness. "The Hole" is an intriguing and recommended read, not to be missed.
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4.0 out of 5 stars A wonderful fable that will reach all readers! January 22, 2011
Format:Paperback
Day in and day out we encounter people, people from all different walks of life; however there is usually one person or a few people who we encounter that we just think are perfect, they have the perfect life. This is how Dirk and Dawn are perceived in Bruce Derman's fable, "The Hole." Dirk and Dawn have the ideal life - the ideal looks, jobs, relationship, home. This is the case until one day Dawn notices a tiny hole in the floor of their perfect home which she tries to hide until she points it out to Dirk a few weeks later. This hole becomes their obsession, it is the focus of their discussions, actions and thoughts. However, no matter what they try, the hole will not be filled and it continues to grow bigger and bigger. This happens until a man shows up at their door claiming to know of their struggle and that he can help. Dirk and Dawn must stick together and jump into and face the unknown.

Derman, a psychologist, has created a story that will draw each reader in and be thought-provoking. This is a story that will force you to think about your emptiness and fear that your life is meaningless. It will encourage you to take a risk and face unknowns in order to find meaning and fill that hole in your own life.

*I was provided with a complimentary copy of this book in exchange for a honest review.*
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Most Recent Customer Reviews
5.0 out of 5 stars Five Stars
This is an excellent book.
Published 25 days ago by Dr. S.
3.0 out of 5 stars The Hole will be different for everyone
This three star rating is just my opinion and others may find much more value in this book than I did. I had trouble "getting it" the lesson never came home for me. Read more
Published on January 6, 2011 by Steve Burns
5.0 out of 5 stars The Hole by Bruce Derman, Ph.D.
This book is a quick and interesting look at how we can overcome the nagging emptiness we all feel at one time or another. Read more
Published on December 31, 2010 by Kayla
4.0 out of 5 stars A fable that is very much open to personal interpretation
This story is a fable about the feelings of perfection and our reactions when we lose that feeling. It is open to many different avenues of interpretation and that of any specific... Read more
Published on December 21, 2010 by Charles Ashbacher
5.0 out of 5 stars The Hole provides much to digest
My husband and I both read this book together and both highly recommend the Hole! The Hole is an easy read while providing a lot to digest, contemplate and sort through. Read more
Published on October 17, 2010 by East Coast Fans
5.0 out of 5 stars The Whole
The themes, choices, and final path presented in this book are both relatable to all and inevitable in equal measure. Read more
Published on June 24, 2010 by Brahman0Atman
5.0 out of 5 stars A Meaningful Metaphor
The Hole is a meaningful metaphor for how most of us avoid and try to fill emptiness. It's an important lesson on how to
be with, accept, and grow from emptiness -- rather... Read more
Published on June 22, 2010 by Barbara J. Armstrong
5.0 out of 5 stars A witty, thought provoking book
A clever, bright book by Dr. Derman. It just may save you from years on a therapist's couch! "The Hole" uses a simple fable to effectively address that which many find... Read more
Published on June 22, 2010 by N. Berecky
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