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The Journey from Abandonment to Healing: Turn the End of a Relationship into the Beginning of a New Life [Kindle Edition]

Susan Anderson
4.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (138 customer reviews)

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Book Description

Like Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross's groundbreaking On Death and Dying, Susan Anderson's book clearly defines the five phases of a different kind of grieving--grieving over a lost relationship. An experienced professional who has specialized in helping people with loss, heartbreak, and abandonment for more than two decades, Susan Anderson gives this subject the serious attention it deserves. The Journey From Abandonment to Healing is designed to help all victims of emotional breakups--whether they are suffering from a recent loss, or a lingering wound from the past; whether they are caught up in patterns that sabotage their own relationships, or they're in a relationship where they no longer feel loved. From the first stunning blow to starting over, it provides a complete program for abandonment recovery.

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About the Author

Susan Anderson, CSW, is a psychotherapist who has specialized in helping clients deal with heartbreak, loss and abandonment for more than 25 years. She has led workshops on abandonment recovery, conducts seminars and lectures, and has appeared on radio and television speaking on the related issues of addiction, parenting and abandonment.

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  • File Size: 713 KB
  • Print Length: 356 pages
  • Page Numbers Source ISBN: 0425172287
  • Publisher: Berkley; 1 edition (March 1, 2000)
  • Sold by: Penguin Group (USA) LLC
  • Language: English
  • ASIN: B004HW88LU
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  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #16,738 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)
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338 of 343 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars From a broken-hearted therapist... October 24, 2002
I wanted to take the time out to write a review of this book as I have benefitted from it from two points of view. I have been a psychotherapist for twenty years and as such have come face to face with the pain of abandonment in many forms. The loss of love through betrayal, death, changed family circumstances, ill health, divorce, etc. It is often the root cause of much of the pain that people present to my office with.
As well, being a person in this world, I too have been abandoned and despite the knowledge I hold as a mental health professional, experienced the full impact of that wrenching, soul-destroying, desperate fear and sadness.
As I reflected on my own loss, I found Susan's book uniquely helpful. It was especially useful to learn about the science of abandonment. It helped me to feel as if I was not loosing my mind and that despite all the information I held as a therapist, as a biological being, some of my experiences were natural and primal and although extremely painful...they were understandable. It gave me a real sense of hope and possibility.
Consequently, I have shared this book with many of my patients. Almost universally they have found it both comforting and helpful as a realistic tool toward healing and change. It is a book that I would not be without in the library of references I use to help others.
There will be times when someone is unable to fully utilize this book. When their fear of being hurt again is so intense that they hold on to the pain of abandonment as a way of never connecting again. A book that truly helps to transform is not embraced by anyone who unconsciously holds on to a wish to remain unchanged.
So, as a practitioner and a survivor, I could not recommend this book more highly!!
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130 of 133 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Quality help for abandonment recovery! July 19, 2004
By A Customer
Dr. Susan Anderson has masterfully articulated the experience of abandonment as only a survivor of abandonment could know. She is a survivor herself. Her book, The Journey From Abandonment To Healing, keeps a gentle, respectful tone towards the survivor, and is easy to understand throughout.
This book clearly articulates what I struggled to put into words about the abandonment symptoms I was experiencing. Abandonment is defined as an involuntary separation. Some symptoms include loss of control of the situation, separation anxiety and yearning for the lost love, hoping for the possibility of the lost love's return and the desparation caused by this desire.
The book also covers in great detail the physiology behind emotional withdrawal symptoms of abandonment, including the loss of opioids (hormones) which is similar to heroin withdrawal; the significance of extreme changes in appetite patterns; Post Traumatic Stress Disorder; memory loss; the desire to self-medicate to endure the loss; and how society acknowledges those grieving over a death but not over a lost love.
Finally, Dr. Anderson gives some effective exercises in overcoming the crippling symptoms of abandonment. The exercises are not "pat" answers as found in some mainstream books and magazines. These are extensive, healing exercises requiring vulnerable, self-introspection.
I hope this helps someone else out there, too. It sure saved my sanity and all for the modest price of a book -- not an expensive block of therapy sessions!
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124 of 128 people found the following review helpful
3.0 out of 5 stars My perspective on the book March 21, 2008
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I am a classic abandonment case. Parents separated as a kid, we moved around constantly, was abused by many people, suffered multiple heartbreaks and friendship breaks that I finally became a closed off, untrusting woman.

My life was very unhappy. Not being able to trust people is a vicious cycle and deep down, I really wanted friends I could trust. My social and relationship life also sucked. I was untrusting in relationships but yet needy once I got entrenched and perhaps as a result of that, would subsequently be tossed away, like thrash.

I was very bitter. I joined therapy but couldn't seem to let go of the resentment I felt for all the pain I'd gone through.

So I picked up this book and FINALLY, someone understood what I was going through. Every "crazy" feeling I had experienced in the past, including wanting lovers that had treated me despicably, were explained in the book. I realized that even though I put up a front to the world, I was still grieving past hurts and some of them went all the way back to my childhood

I felt that I could finally be free of the demons that had clung to me. Susan Anderson really gets it but when it comes down to the exercises she recommends, in my humble opinion, she falls short.

The first two are okay even though the withdrawal exercise makes you feel like you are cultivating a dual personality. The third one for internalizing, was highly, highly disappointing. It was very abstract and I failed to see the connection between dreaming of a house and gaining a stronger sense of self.

I was very disappointed but I was determined to make myself learn the exercise, if it would mean getting better.
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90 of 94 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars EXTRAORDINARILY GENEROUS AND HELPFUL July 16, 2002
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This is the first review I have written on, and I am writing it because I want to urge anyone profoundly heartbroken, devastated, and utterly unsure of how to survive, READ THIS BOOK. There are numerous breakup recovery books out there -- I've read scores of them -- but this is the first one I have found that is actually addressing _profound_ heartbreak, the kind of devastation that is simply not amenable to logic, conscious affirmations, and rational decisions to cope.
If you've tried bravery, common-sense, and straight-out endurance, try reading this book instead - because incredibly, Susan Anderson managed to not only help you understand what you're going through -- she also comes up with five amazingly original exercises that can actually HELP you endure the unendurable. I know. I've been using them. I cannot say enough about this book.
Anderson doesn't ever water down the agony -- twenty-five years of work with heartbroken patients has made her very aware of the intricacies of abandonment grief. But despite this realistic knowledge of the pain, she offers hope -- not the glib, "You'll recover eventually!" hope of most breakup-recovery books, but a nuanced, particular hope specific to each grief stage, and always attentive to the suffering you are undergoing at each moment. An incredible, generous and loving book.
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Most Recent Customer Reviews
5.0 out of 5 stars One of the best books
After reading the first chapter, I felt relief. Then the second and third chapters helped me understand how my past experiences influence my reactions to similar events. Read more
Published 8 days ago by Reggie Adler
5.0 out of 5 stars Abandonment Issues Can Ruin Your Life
I can't say enough about Susan Anderson. Her workbook is a lifesaver! Last year I broke my back at work, missed work and was terminated before I could see a doctor, was denied... Read more
Published 12 days ago by Thomas Meadows
5.0 out of 5 stars Great book!
I like to read many books that help me to understand and learn different aspects of one's life. I recommend this book as well as this seller for they're speedy delivery.
Published 24 days ago by Jennifer
5.0 out of 5 stars helpful
I really found the Akeru steps inspiring and helpful in overcoming stages of abandonment. I found a lot of the information insightful and stories relate able.
Published 1 month ago by Brit
5.0 out of 5 stars helped me in vital moments
I appreciate so much the wisdom and research data in this book. It helped me so much to start making sense of the physical and emotional impact of my loss and grief
Published 1 month ago by Victor M. Perez-zubeldia
5.0 out of 5 stars Priceless!
I purchased this when I was going through an unexpected divorce. Just as studying Kuber-Ross helped me understand my feelings of grief at the death of a loved one, Anderson helped... Read more
Published 1 month ago by Molly Sullivan
5.0 out of 5 stars road map to personal growth.
Excellent book that provides a road map to personal growth. Challenges you to think about the roots of your behavioral patterns.
Published 1 month ago by Amazon Customer
5.0 out of 5 stars very, very helpful...a great book
for anyone that has abandonment issues...whether it be a divorce or childhood issues this is a very helpful book. Read more
Published 2 months ago by Jeanni D.
4.0 out of 5 stars The five stages applied to the end of a relationship.
yes, I have read these before, and yes this book is helpful, but a bit of a drag to read, at least right now.
Published 3 months ago by Susan Ilk0v-Moor
5.0 out of 5 stars extremely helpful
Very useful roadmap, very empowering. Well written and sophisticated. A way to feel better and move past things that have hurt you.
Published 3 months ago by Tess.
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More About the Author
Susan Anderson has devoted more than 30 years of clinical experience and research to helping people overcome abandonment trauma and its aftermath of self sabotaging patterns. Founder of the abandonment recovery movement, she reaches out through her websites, workshops, and media to share her methods of abandonment recovery with abandonment survivors from around the world. Anderson is author of four trailblazing books including Journey from Abandonment to Healing and Taming Your Outer Child which guide people through a protocol specific to healing abandonment, heartbreak, and loss. People can contribute to Susan's ongoing research project by submitting (confidentially) your personal stories to her website The websites and reach out with help and information. You are welcome to contact the author directly.


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