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The Living End: A Memoir of Forgetting and Forgiving [Hardcover]

Robert Leleux
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Book Description

January 17, 2012

The Living End is a tribute to an unforgettable woman, and a testimony to the way a disease can awaken an urgent desire for love and forgiveness. Told with sparkling wit and warmth, The Living End will resonate with families coping with Alzheimer's, and any reader looking for hope and inspiration.

 

Robert Leleux’s grandmother JoAnn was a steel magnolia, an elegant and devastatingly witty woman: quick-tongued, generous in her affections, but sometimes oddly indifferent to the emotions of those who most needed her. When JoAnn began exhibiting signs of Alzheimer’s, she’d been estranged from her daughter, Robert’s mother Jessica, for decades. As her disease progressed, JoAnn lost most of her memories, but she also forgot her old wounds and anger. She became a happy, gentler person who was finally able to reach out to her daughter in what became a strangely life-affirming experience, an unexpected blessing that gave a divided family a second chance. 


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An affectionate grandson recalls his grandmother’s tussle with Alzheimer’s dementia. After JoAnn, headstrong at 74, has surgery to remove her ruptured silicon breast implants, she is not quite right. Either a small intraoperative stroke or maybe the anesthesia itself has triggered Alzheimer’s. From the diagnosis in 2004 until her death in 2010, JoAnn experiences progressive problems with cognition, ambulation, and disposition. Despite her declining condition, the narrator envisions his grandmother’s illness as liberating. JoAnn is now unfettered by the past and undaunted by the future. A wobbly relationship between humor and suffering is suggested. Humor can be an antidote to misery or possibly a by-product of it. The author spins some sumptuous similes (“suddenly seemed fragile in her hospital gown, packed away like bone china in tissue paper”) but also resorts to cliché (“she seemed to be vanishing before our very eyes”). Although this thin memoir presents too rosy a picture of Alzheimer’s dementia, it does score points with its emphasis on notions of identity, belonging, and family ties. --Tony Miksanek

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The Living End is Robert Leleux's exceptionally moving memoir about his beloved grandmother and his heroic caring for her as she slipped into the grip of Alzheimer’s. The book is at times hilarious, tender, and heartbreaking—further proof that Mr. Leleux is ripening into one of the best prose stylists in America.”
—Pat Conroy

“Robert Leleux sets off on a journey that will be familiar to many Baby Boomers - watching a beloved elder painfully slipping away - but his version of the tale is singularly bittersweet, funny, and empathetic.  It's a rare thing to find a memoir of illness that can be described as cheerful, but this one is that - and much more.”
—Mark Childress, author of Georgia Bottoms and Crazy in Alabama

“Robert Leleux's hilarious and poignant memoir of his fractured family takes an unexpected, wholly satisfying turn at the end: as lives ebb, memories fail, and long-withheld loves emerge.” —John Berendt, author of Midnight in the Garden of Good and Evil and The City of Falling Angels


 ”Not many people are able to find a silver lining in Alzheimer's, and few writers are gifted enough to make you see it and believe it.  Leleux relates his family's story with love, humor, and hope.”—Margo Howard, “Dear Margo” columnist

“You will never forgive me if you don't read this book and you will never forget the author, Robert Leleux either. Leleux reminds us that the magic of our relatively short time on earth, only exists in a world of forgetting and forgiveness! I believe that Auntie Mame herself would have put her STAMP OF APPROVAL on this book as I have too!”
—Kathy L. Patrick, Founder of The Pulpwood Queens Book Clubs

“This spare, extraordinary book by turns splits the sides and breaks the heart, but it is the healing vibration of laughter you're left with — what comes when one sees existence whole and luminous, and with it the daunting logic of human love.”
—Honor Moore, Author of The Bishop's Daughter

“In a wonderfully engaging heart-of-the-matter voice, Robert Leleux chronicles his chic Texas grandmother's descent into the gloom of Alzheimer's.  He is circumspect in recording the many indignities the disease brings and equally faithful to praise the joys of a happy marriage, of good wigs and zinger punch lines.  Leleux's writing is as bright and elegant as one of his grandmother's hats, his love of family and faith in their enduring strength a rare and refreshing thing.” —Janis Owens, author of The Schooling of Claybird Catts

“Robert Leleux tickles his way to triumph yet again. With his trademark wit and colorful southern charm, The Living End transforms Alzheimer's from a disease associated with loss into a blessing of myriad gain.”
—Josh Kilmer-Purcell, author of I Am Not Myself These Days and The Bucolic Plague

The Living End is as funny as it is heartfelt.  Robert Leleux is among the great emerging talents of his generation; I'm bowled over by the beauty of his writing.”
—Sarah Bird, author of The Yokota Officers Club and The Gap Year

“The Living End is terrific! I could not stop reading this family journey of loss, hope and redemption. With humor and poignancy, Robert Leleux does a magical job of capturing the beautiful and often complex relationship between grandparent and grandchild.”Michael Morris, author of Slow Way Home


“A fascinating Southern tale of an estranged mother and daughter — and the unlikely fate that brings them together. Affably narrated by Robert Leleux, a man who loved both women, The Living End is a touching reminder that, ultimately, we are not defined by our memories. But our commitments to dwelling on the past and resentments can keep us from becoming the person we want to be. Even for those we love the most.”—Neil White, author of In the Sanctuary of Outcasts

"[JoAnn] emerges not only as a beloved figure, but as a larger-than-life character who was eager for the spotlight, funny, gracious, occasionally biting in her assessment of others and altogether inspired.
Leleux sweeps readers from New York to Texas to rural Tennessee on a family pilgrimage—an understated work that highlights the emotional rewards of caring for a loved one." --Kirkus Reviews



"Perceptive as well as funny and poignant, Leleux’s book explains that Alzheimer’s can be a kind of gift; certainly, it allowed JoAnn to forget enough to reconcile with the daughter she hadn’t seen for decades. 'Sometimes our memories deceive us and keep us from being who we are,' said Leleux. But JoAnn herself remains memorable."--Library Journal

 

"The Living End" is funny and tender, and a page-turner. Robert Leleux is witty and wonderful at the putting on the southern charm. His writing is sharp and colorful, and he puts the reader in the thick of the family’s journey with vivid descriptions and dialogue.

The Living End is a reminder that, in the end, we are not defined by our memories. It’s a must-read for both entertainment and relearning some important life lessons."--EDGE


Product Details

  • Hardcover: 160 pages
  • Publisher: St. Martin's Press; First Edition edition (January 17, 2012)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0312621248
  • ISBN-13: 978-0312621247
  • Product Dimensions: 7.2 x 5.4 x 0.9 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (21 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,119,533 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Hello!

Thank you for visiting my Amazon page. For those of you who don't know, I'm a freelance writer and editor, and the author of two books. My latest, The Living End, a memoir about my beloved grandmother's journey through Alzheimer's, will be published by St. Martin's Press this January 17th. Though it's a difficult and painful topic, I'm excited to share my family's story. For us, forgiving and forgetting were more than usually intertwined.

My first book, The Memoirs of a Beautiful Boy, also published by St. Martin's Press, was a very different story. It gave me the chance to tour the country, meeting fabulous people from every corner of the US. It was great fun and I'm excited to announce that I'll be taking my show on the road again at the start of 2012! Tour dates are being finalized now, so please check back soon.

Now, when I'm not writing books, I'm also the features editor of Lonny Magazine, one of the greatest shelter magazines in the industry. And I also write the Tex in the City column for the Texas Observer, one of the best independent news sources in the Southwest. It's an honor to
write for them, and it, too has offered me the chance to meet amazing people.

So, let's see, what else can I tell you about myself? I live on the Upper West Side of Manhattan, with my gorgeous husband Michael. I consider myself lucky to have such a happy life!

Thanks
XOXO, Robert​

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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Captivating Read January 21, 2012
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This is a love story where love and a memorable sense of humor triumphs over Alzheimer's.This book will make you laugh and then at times you cry reading about this journey forever transforming one's understanding of the living end.
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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars The Nexus of Laughter and Loss January 20, 2012
Format:Hardcover
It would be easy to think of Robert Leleux's THE LIVING END as a narrow story of one young man's relationship with his firecracker grandmother at the end of her life. And while this work certainly delivers on that score with great, rhythmic story telling and wildly funny characters and dialogue it ends up being much more than that. Unexpectedly, amidst the laughter, you realize that you're also reading a broad philosophical work about patience, letting go and love. This is only the second book in my lifetime where, as soon as I finished it, I turned to page one to start over because I wanted the perspective I had gained by its end to inform the early parts - when I was laughing too hard to fully appreciate its import. Reading this book was a wonderful journey.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Life Changing January 17, 2012
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This book is truly a gem, the love that comes out of the writing is truly a thing of wonder. Anyone who doesn't pick this up is doing themselves a disservice.
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Most Recent Customer Reviews
5.0 out of 5 stars Highly recommended!
This book and its predecessor are each marvelous--funny, sad, etc. Very well written, and both books will have a permanent place in my library.
Published 1 month ago by E. Smith
5.0 out of 5 stars So on point
Written from experience, this book is a great description of living with a beloved person with Alzheimers. Read more
Published 1 month ago by Marthagem Whitlock
5.0 out of 5 stars Amazing Read
My father, grandmother, and mother in-law had Alzheimer's. This book gave a voice to many aspects of my life. Amazing writer. You must try if you haven't.
Published 3 months ago by Ann Hite
5.0 out of 5 stars Loving, warm biography of End Things
The author recounts, vividly and with great love and warmth, his beloved grandmother's final days. She is a stylish, outspoken woman, estranged from her daughter, and amidst the... Read more
Published 9 months ago by kcuf uoy
5.0 out of 5 stars Outstanding
This book is a wonderful journey and upends the whole world-view of tragedy in terms of Alzheimer's disease. Read more
Published 11 months ago by Jacqueline Gum
5.0 out of 5 stars Eye Opening
I read this book expecting to just learn more about Robert and his family experiences, and to learn how they gracefully journeyed through Alzheimer's. Read more
Published 11 months ago by Mikki L. Lanclos
5.0 out of 5 stars Great read!
Buy this book. Actually...buy several copies, because you're going to want to share.

On the surface, "The Living End" is a tribute to Mr Leleux's grandmother. Read more
Published 12 months ago by B. Burgess
5.0 out of 5 stars Finding Joy
All serious illnesses are tragic. But if you can search your soul to find joy that also lurks within illness, you have found something remarkable. Read more
Published 14 months ago by Reader
5.0 out of 5 stars You know it is a good book when you write a review that is too...
I so enjoyed this book! I enjoyed it because I think there are so many people out there making better grandparents than they ever did parents and they are getting older by the... Read more
Published 15 months ago by Darla M. McCorkle
5.0 out of 5 stars You will LOVE, LOVE, LOVE this book!
I absolutely loved The Living End. Robert Leleux is an exceptional writer. The Living End is extremely witty and funny with great honesty and depth. Read more
Published 15 months ago by Olivia deBelle Byrd
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