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I will first express the positive aspects of this book, read below to find out my criticisms and the danger of following these rules. Let me first start of by saying that this book does provide tons of useful information to understand the dating world, females, and males; and how they all interact together. It begins with the philosophy and biology of males and females, which adequately explains a lot of the perceptions that people hold about what "attracts" someone to another person. This is all good information. It then explains the three "traits" that women find attractive in men:
1) Confidence: confidence is the "appearance" of being confident and decisive. The author explains that you do not need to actually "be" confident, but you must appear so through your outward appearance (movements, speech, actions, etc.) Since a woman is unable to actually read your mind, you are able to express exactly the appearance you want if you aware of your actions.
2) Responsibility: responsibility includes being a leader, dominant, and essentially doing what you, the man, wants to do. This borders somewhat on concepts of confidence.
3) Charm: charm is the ability to make others, in particular women, feel good about themselves and comfortable around you. This is done through the way you talk to them, your body language, and the topics of discussion.
Now the author explains that each of these skills will assist in building attraction in a woman. I do not disagree. Matter of fact, I intentionally adopted (over a few weeks of practice) these traits and before I knew it, I had an attractive girl chasing after "me" and begging to date me. My past history: I have never dated anyone seriously, and was afraid of interacting with girls.Read more ›
Those who have seen the movie 'The Tourist' starring Johnny Depp and Angelina Jolie, probably remember the train scene where the two meet for the first time. Depp plays a seemingly very apologetic man (Frank) and Jolie a very attractive and elegant woman (Elise) and she has her reasons to make contact with Frank. She spots him as she walks through the railcar, sits down right across him and looks him straight in his eyes as he quickly closes his book and stops smoking
Frank: I'm sorry Elise: What for? An awkward silence follows and Frank laughs uncomfortably Frank: Mind me smoking? It's not a real sigarette blablabla (explanatory nonsense) Elise: That's somewhat disappointing Frank: Would you rather have me smoking for real? Elise: I would rather you'd be a man who did exactly as he pleased...... I'm Elise Frank: I'm Frank (the conversation continues until Elise suggests something Elise: Ask me to dinner frank Frank: What? .... Okay...Would you like to have dinner? Elise: Women don't like questions. Frank: Join me for dinner Elise: Too demanding Frank: Join me for dinner? Elise: Another question Frank: ....I'm having dinner, if you'd care to join me Elise smiles and accepts
Even though most hollywood movies dramatically misrepresent what women want in men, this scene brilliantly paints what women truly desire in men. And reading this book directly reminded me of this scene. If you want to become the type of man that Jolie describes in this scene, than this book will show you how to become that exact man. No gimmicks, no tricks, no scripts, no bs, only what's truly necessary to understand. What women want is not that complicated, you just have to be presented the right information.Read more ›
Ok, this is my first review and I'm not the best writer, but as a female, I can't recommend this book highly enough.
This book accurately and respectfully describes what we seek in a man and the steps a man needs to take to win us over. I learned a lot about my own behavior in this book (especially when the author talks about social conditioning) and had many 'A-HA' moments. It has validated what I have always desired in a man; the need to have a man that will take control, except responsibility, make me feel special and most importantly one who makes me feel safe. These are the things that make a woman feel confident in love and ultimately in sexual expression.
The other thing I love about the book is that it talks in depth about confidence, respect and taking chances. Something that shy or introverted guys may need to address before approaching girls.
And for the record guys, unlike what society and the media feeds you, you don't have to be a rich, successful alpha male to get the girl. You just have to show your masculine side. So do yourself a favor and stop reading those terrible books on picking up girls by using tacky one liners or even worse; manipulation (eergh!!!)
And if the author is reading this review. Please, please write a book for us women to understand men. We also need to be able to cut through all the media clutter and wrong perceptions out there. I have read a few books on dating now and they all seem to be written by either man haters or men that are players.