While greatly benefiting from Richard Phillip's fine exposition of The Fourth Gospel as it applied to Christ's Gospel witness in his book Jesus The Evangelist, I was quite disappointed in his topical treatment of God's design for men in The Masculine Mandate.
After laying down a theological foundation in the first 5 chapters, based primarily upon Genesis 2, the author then addresses the practical implications in chapters 6 through 13. This section of the book contains many solid truths and wonderful practical applications on being God's man in roles as a marriage partner, father, friend and servant in the local church.
The problem is within chapter 6 where he attempts to convince his readers that marriage is paramount to Godly Manhood. In my view, the title of the book should be properly changed to: The Masculine Mandate for Married Men. The author needs to drop all those extra biblical imperatives to single men in chapter 6. Instead of addressing singleness in an extremely marginal and biased way, he should have left this subject to another treatise or author.
Here are some quotes from the author and my take on them:
"it is imperative for your well being that you be married, to move beyond the "not good" status of single adulthood" (pg59).
This entire presentation in chapters 7 through 13 is based upon the false assumption that marriage is the foundation in becoming God's man.
"And the first step for many of us in becoming the men God wants us to be is to become married, so that we will leave behind our selfish ways and begin fulfilling our masculine calling through our relationship with our wives." (pg64)
He has this wrong, we should leave behind our selfish ways before marriage.
Character makes the marriage, being married does not automatically make character.
"It does not work very well when a man remains unmarried" (pg57)
What an untrue statement. Do we not know many single male Christians who bear much fruit, growth in character, have healthy relations with both sexes and love The Lord?
"to realize how vitally important it is (in the vast majority of cases) that you become married" (pg59).
Here is an imperative command that is extra Biblical.
"Today, when God looks on single males and says, Not good, He undoubtedly has in mind a long list of truly unfit helpers, among them the pornography, video games, sports obsessions, and empty pizza boxes that are intrinsic to so many young adult male lives, even among Christians" (pg60).
While I totally agree with the author that our society promotes a free, anything go, Christ-less lifestyle without personal responsibility, I would suggest that these struggles are not unique to singles, but can be true of married men as well. What we actually have here, in his attempt to combat the problem, is an overreaction to the state of our current culture.
"The best thing a young Christian man can do... is to marry a godly woman" (pg59)
Is not the best thing a young Christian man do is totally immerse themselves in the person and work of Christ?
"If you have shied away from marriage, let me urge you to reconsider and (perhaps)
to commit to the necessary growing up" (pg59).
On a personal level I find these comments quite disconcerting since its effect is to shame. It is not balanced in affirming Paul's teaching that both sanctified singleness and marriage are good in God's sight. Biblically sound books on singleness respect marriage, why could not this author respect singleness the way Christ (Matthew 19) and Paul did (1 Corinthians 7). Instead of expounding on the virtues of a clean and holy single life he just makes token mention of the gift of singleness as if it were possessed by the super especially gifted few.
"God says the same thing about single adult men today. He looks into their apartments and refrigerators and sighs, Not good" (pg57)
I find such a comment to be prejudicial insinuating that single males live in apartments not in houses. All single males are not losers.
"But it is especially good to have to rise up in masculine virtue and strength for the sake of my wife, leaving behind a self-focus that was, at best, only intended for a temporary season of singleness" (pg64)
Is selfishness exclusive to singles only? Are married males really less self-centered?
In questions for Reflection & Discussion at the end of the book the author asks "If you are single, what is keeping you from marriage? Pray for God to enable you to take a wife and for God to provide you with a wife." (pg158)
Such a comment stands in opposition to the Pauline teaching on contentment (Philippians 4: 11-13) in view of the total sufficiency of Christ.
Are we seeing here some parallels to foundational Mormon doctrine?
*A cultish elevation of marriage where singleness is a most undesirable condition.
*A second-tier citizenship for singles, which ultimately results in a denial of eternal rewards.
*That Christ himself ultimately failed in his mission on earth, in that he failed to physically marry and therefore failed to propagate his physical seed to further generations.
This doctrine opens the door to many practical questions including:
Is it therefore wrong to thank God in prayer for one's singleness, if this is an incomplete state?
Is completion found squarely in The Person & Work of Christ alone (Colossians 2:10) or is it found in a marriage partner or in a combination of both?
If marriage is the "first step for many of us becoming the men God wants" would it not logically follow that one should do everything in one's power to make this a reality, and happen as quick as possible including leaving a smaller congregation for a larger church where more opportunities for a partner may be available?
Are all widowed men instantly now incomplete?
Is it "vital" that widowed or divorced men, obviously men who do not have the gift of singleness noted by Paul in 1 Corinthians 7, remarry & remarry quickly?
Is not the 2nd Adam, our Lord Jesus Christ, being fully God and fully man, our ultimate example?
If a partner is so vital and the foundational step in manhood, why do we never find in Paul's prayers, Paul praying for marriage partners for completion?
Why are their no explicit New Testament imperatives to marry?
Is the female, whether called to the mission field or called to her professional career, wrong in being content in her singleness, since she might be depriving some man an opportunity for his completeness?
Does the gift of singleness just apply to those in full time Christian work?
Are there not many single Christians who due to circumstances, physical issues, and personal make up find that marriage is not the best option for them?
Has Genesis 2 become prescriptive for all instead of being descriptive for Adam and
many?
In an age where evangelicalism struggles with the role of singles in the local church and where many singles perceive themselves as 2nd class citizens, that they don't fit the mold, are less-than, or even worse, that something is wrong with them it is most disappointing that The Masculine Mandate only contributes to this false viewpoint in a most explicit way.