Most helpful critical review
34 of 47 people found the following review helpful
Overly simplistic and negative, but many truths are told.
on November 3, 2007
I was looking for a book to inspire me and give practical examples/strategies on how to improve communication and understanding.
I would've enjoyed some inspiring insights into how romance is beautiful and how wonderful it would be to use some practical strategies to help honor eachother with respect and love. This book basically says just find someone you can get along with and don't worry about communication and understanding. Just accept them for who they are and don't try to change them.
Don't try to change people? What about improving listening skills or other practical strategies that strengthen compassion and self improvement? What about if that person is on drugs and you want to try to help? To that, the book will just say don't bother. That is their problem and if you feel sorry for them, you are being disrespectful of their being. If to change people is bad, why does he write this book? Doesn't this book change people? So, the book is to me very confusing, and I think it is only good for some people.
Also, I felt there was too much of a negative overtone in this book. It took up a lot of writing space talking about how people are so fake, fearful, and delusioned about love. He makes it sound so negative. I think fear was an important part of human evolution to keep us alive. It is something to understand, use, and control, but not hold in disgust. He makes it sound like it is some useless dark force that is not supposed to be and I personally think that causes an unhealthy mentality. Fear can be a great teacher if used right.
But otherwise, it is actually genuinely very insightful in terms of understanding unconditional love. I think his way is only one kind working model out of many that still adhere to the rules of the ultimate truth. So, in conclusion, this is a relatively horrible and great book at the same time.