Kerstin Uvnas Moberg, M.D., Ph.D.,--and mother--has given us a gem in this little book about, what may be described as a previously "missing link" in our understanding of stress, in general, and birthing, mothering, breast feeding, bonding & attachment, emotional well being and so much more, specifically. The information shared in this book comes from her--and others'--scientific research--which is usually reserved for scientific journals, read by other researchers and people involved in various types of scientific work. We are so fortunate that this book reports on this important scientific information for all of us to read and learn from--and the information is stated "in plain English"--which has been translated from the original Swedish.
Dr. Moberg tells us that oxytocin is a brain chemical: both a neurotransmitter and a hormone--which means, as a neurotransmitter, it works within the brain to communicate with structures within the brain and other chemicals within the brain (including serotonin and dopamine)--to create various events and outcomes; and, as a hormone (created within the brain), it communicates with structures throughout the whole body and other chemicals that circulate throughout the whole body to create various events and outcomes. As you may have noticed, I am beyond fascinated with all of this information, and my purpose in writing this review is not to restate the information contained in this book. My review needs to be about "reviewing" this book.
If you are interested, either personally and/or professionally, in birthing, breast feeding, mothering, bonding & attachment, emotional well-being, stress and the mind/body connection with health--as well as relationships and what may be some types of relationship difficulties--I believe you will find this a "must read." Oxytocin, according to Dr. Moberg, is the "yang" to the "yin" of "cortisol" and its effects: comparing the "calm and connection" response from oxytocin with the "fight or flight" response of cortisol: how does it happen, what does it do, how can we use it to our advantage--"it" being oxytocin and the "calm and connection" response it produces. While so much had already been written--and our understanding has been so advanced--about cortisol/stress/fight or flight, until this book, our knowledge about oxytocin and its effects were known to very few--and probably only those involved in research and the sciences.
Dr. Moberg's personal experience when she became a mother peaked her curiosity about the new feelings and experiences she was becoming aware of and she realized that little to no information was available about them at that time. She shares with us that this is what sparked her new professional interest and direction. So this also becomes a story of personal "process" and "professional development" and how, being sensitive to and in tune with our own inner "journey" can have a profound impact on our professional one as well.
I cannot praise this book highly enough. I believe it is on the list of the most important books ever written. And bringing our attention to "calm and connection" when so much attention has been placed on stress and the "fight or flight" response it produces--is a huge contribution to our health, happiness and well being.
I, personally, am a Massage Therapist, and my interest in this book started out as professional. Dr. Moberg writes about what we as Massage Therapists see every day in our practices--the huge benefits to health, happiness and well being that massage produces--for children as well as adults. Now we know that oxytocin has a lot to do with that, as massage is one of the simple and easily available ways that anyone can raise their oxytocin level--and gain all the benefits of that. Understanding the role of oxytocin in relationships also helps me understand how some of my personal history has unfolded, as I am always striving for greater consciousness and awareness in my journey of personal development.