The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online [Paperback]

Julie Spira (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: February 13, 2009

This romantic tell-all memoir spanning over 250 online dates, is filled with heartfelt, witty, and hilarious stories. Julie Spira, a pioneer in the Internet industry, became the first on her block to post an online dating profile. You'll follow her journey as she skillfully navigates the web, hoping to replace what she once thought was the love of her life with a new Internet mate.

Editorial Reviews

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"Hilariously Funny! Singles of all ages need to read this book." --Joan Rivers, comedienne and bestselling Author

"It's like Sex and The City in a Web 2.0 World." --E. Jean Carroll, columnist, "Ask E. Jean" Elle Magazine

"This book is a must for this generation of singles, both male and female, who are into cyber-dating. It is possible to find someone if you know the rules."-- Dane Robert Swanson, Santa Monica Daily Press

"Anyone who has ever tried online dating will relate to Julie Spira's stories and not feel alone. The Perils of Cyber-Dating gives hope to singles everywhere with an email address that they can successfully meet someone online." --Dr. Pat Allen, bestselling author, Getting to 'I Do'

"I've seen too many women put in jeopardy by unscrupulous Internet dating contacts. That's why this book is your must-have navigation guide to help you safely travel through the perilous landscape of cyber-dating. Plus, Spira's personal stories are a hoot and a half!" --Diane Dimond, journalist and bestselling author

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"Julie Spira tells a compelling story, shares intimate moments, and transforms her experience into means of larger good." - Veronica De Laurentiis, best-selling author, "Riviglio La Mia Vita."

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Product Details

• Paperback: 180 pages
• Publisher: Morgan James Publishing (February 13, 2009)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1600375693
• ISBN-13: 978-1600375699
• Product Dimensions: 8.5 x 5.5 x 0.4 inches
• Shipping Weight: 8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (47 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,133,415 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Julie Spira has lived more than nine lives. She is a best-selling author, online dating expert and advice columnist, social media strategist and branding expert, media personality, netiquette expert, and all around serial-entrepreneur.

Julie was an early adopter of the Internet and has served as an executive for several Internet and communications companies. Today she empowers singles on the dating scene and teaches the Rules of Netiquette on the use of proper digital manners in emails and on social networking sites. Follow Julie on Twitter @JulieSpira.

Julie's dream as a child was to be a radio DJ. She started her career as the first female radio announcer at WAAL-FM in Binghamton, NY and went on to become the youngest executive at RKO Radio Networks, the country's first digitally delivered satellite radio network.

Julie writes about the marriage of love and technology on Huffington Post and is a well sought out guest in the media. Her expert dating advice has appeared on ABC, BBC, CBS, CNET, FOX, Smart Money, The New York Times, Los Angeles Times, Cosmo Radio, Crain's New York Business, E! Entertainment, Glamour.com, Redbook, Woman's Day, Men's Health, Psychology Today, Cyberguy, eHarmony, Match.com, JDate, Your Tango, and Zoosk. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com, for dating advice and to share your online dating stories and NetiquetteExpert.com for advice on Internet etiquette.

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

26 of 28 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars This is a MUST READ FOR ONLINE DATERS March 1, 2010

By LT in L.A.

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Ms. Spira's book is a MUST READ FOR ONLINE DATERS. There are various books out there about online dating. Some of them are very mechanical, others purely anectdotal. This book seems to have the best of both. The Perils of Cyber-Dating does a great job of not only discussing how to navigate the online dating world, but also shares the joy and heartaches that people will experience in dating in general.

The author is extremely brave: her candor is so "out there" that you can't help but feel vicariously her ups and downs as she sifts through the myraid of dating profiles. These personal stories and episodes really "tell it like it is" for those of us who are trying to find love in an Internet world.

As a guy, I came away with lots of insights about how to write a profile that will attract more responses from women. I also learned about what kind of things you don't want to put into a profile. In addition, I found the book to be very helpful with guidance on handling the first 2-3 dates with someone who you meet online.

Indeed, the book discussed a great deal about dating etiquette in the 21st Century. In some ways, this books shows that many of rules or "best practices" about dating have not changed. On the other hand, the book also spells out the "new kinds of behavior" that are acceptable, and well as inappropriate conduct, in today's high tech world.

I found the book to be well written. It is well paced: there are just enough relevant details to keep you turning the pages. Moreover, she does an excellent job of laying out the theme or message of a particular chapter or episode within a chapter, by selecting the appropriate amount of detail. Unlike other "tell all" books, Ms. Spira does not bury you or overwhelm you with petty or irrelevant facts.

What really makes the book credible and authentic is the fact that Ms. Spira really tells her stories from the heart without embellishment or exaggeration. Some of her stories reflect great pain, and/or great humor. Some have something in between. This authenticity creates a book that is very believeable, and allows the reader to come away with "real life" insights that can be applied to his/her own online dating efforts.

In addition to baring her soul and talking about her mistakes, Ms. Spira also talks about triumphs or positive experiences that give the reader hope of finding true love in Cyberspace. In that respect it is a balanced, well thought out book.

12 of 13 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars Great Book. Great Insight. September 16, 2009

By Victor De Castro

Format:Paperback

Julie Spira has really done it with this book -- a virtual primer on internet dating, using her experiences as a guidebook for either the uninitated or frustrated. Describing herself as a "hopeful romantic" Spira addresses the topic with both the sophistication of a veteran of the cyber dating scene along with this charming naivete of hers that someday, someway she'll find that special someone through the internet. The book runs a gamut of emotions -- from romance, disappointment, excitement and, of course, humor. Great job, Julie!

7 of 7 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars Love the author, love the book! July 29, 2011

By Natasha Burton, author of "The Little Black Book of Big Red Flags"

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Julie Spira is one of the most charismatic, sassy and smart women I know. I'm a big fan of her website and recently bought her book to read on my Kindle. Her voice is so honest and her anecdotes are both funny and cringe-worthy, a perfect combination for a book about dating. I highly recommend this book for all of my single friends.