Automotive Holiday Deals Up to 50% Off Select Books Shop Men's Athletic Shoes Learn more nav_sap_SWP_6M_fly_beacon Prime Music Sweepstakes egg_2015 All-New Amazon Fire TV Grooming Deals Gifts Under $50 Amazon Gift Card Offer cm15 cm15 cm15 $30 Off Amazon Echo $30 Off Fire HD 6 Kindle Cyber Monday Deals Cyber Monday Sweepstakes in Prime Music Outdoor Deals on HTL

Enter your mobile number or email address below and we'll send you a link to download the free Kindle App. Then you can start reading Kindle books on your smartphone, tablet, or computer - no Kindle device required.

  • Apple
  • Android
  • Windows Phone
  • Android

To get the free app, enter your email address or mobile phone number.

Have one to sell? Sell on Amazon
Flip to back Flip to front
Listen Playing... Paused   You're listening to a sample of the Audible audio edition.
Learn more
See this image

The Power of Female Friendship: How Your Circle of Friends Shapes Your Life Paperback – May 27, 2008

10 customer reviews

See all 3 formats and editions Hide other formats and editions
New from Used from
"Please retry"
"Please retry"
$13.89 $0.01

Special Offers and Product Promotions

  • Take an Extra 30% Off Any Book: Use promo code HOLIDAY30 at checkout to get an extra 30% off any book for a limited time. Excludes Kindle eBooks and Audible Audiobooks. Restrictions apply. Learn more | Shop now

Editorial Reviews

From Publishers Weekly

Psychiatrist Dobransky applies the formulaic approach of his first book, The Secret Psychology of How We Fall in Love, to a subject of which he can have no firsthand knowledge: why women need friends for health and happiness. Using the pedestrian prose of his coauthor, Dobransky shares what he calls the secret code of friendship: consistent, mutual, shared positive emotion. The author continues to state the obvious when he says that negative emotion and stress are friendship killers, and he advises his readers to build up their internal self-esteem so that they won't appear needy to others. Dobransky's basic thesis—that women need to make friends in order to belong—is equally simplistic, and a more nuanced version has been expressed elsewhere, such as in Deborah Tannen's You Just Don't Understand, a source that Dobransky refers to but doesn't include in his bibliography. The repetitive and overcomplicated diagrams that appear on almost every page add little to the author's message. (May)
Copyright © Reed Business Information, a division of Reed Elsevier Inc. All rights reserved.

About the Author

Paul Dobransky, M.D., is a board-certified psychiatrist, a former associate professor of psychiatry at the University of Colorado, a national speaker, and business consultant. He has appeared on television numerous times and in a wide variety of print publications including USA Today, Marie Claire, and First for Women.

Hero Quick Promo
Holiday Deals in Kindle Books
Save up to 85% on more than 1,000 Kindle Books. These deals are valid until November 30, 2015. Learn more

Product Details

  • Paperback: 288 pages
  • Publisher: Plume (May 27, 2008)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0452289432
  • ISBN-13: 978-0452289437
  • Product Dimensions: 5.4 x 0.7 x 8 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 9.6 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 3.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (10 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,494,881 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Discover books, learn about writers, read author blogs, and more.

Customer Reviews

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

8 of 8 people found the following review helpful By Hope on June 3, 2008
Format: Paperback
After reading this book, I had such a greater understanding of all of the female relationships in my life! I have worked to improve the type of friend I am to people, and also understood why my friends act in certain ways. Once again, Dr. Paul has encouraged me to take hold of a very important area of my life and make it the best that it can be! Thank you so much!
Comment Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
Report abuse
7 of 7 people found the following review helpful By G. Silva on September 19, 2008
Format: Paperback
A brilliant, original take on how friendships in specific, and relationships in general, work! A wealth of practical information--complex theories explained in layman's terms--for women and men!
And btw, don't listen to the PW review (above). Whoever wrote that petty, sexist tripe is off they're rocker! According to that reviewer, female friendships is "a subject of which he [Dr. Paul] can have no firsthand knowledge". Does that mean that men can have no insight into women? Perhaps that reviewer doesn't think black people should write about white people, or that gay people should write about straight people. How ignorant! Why Amazon even allowed such a so-called professional review written like that is beyond me.
Comment Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
Report abuse
4 of 5 people found the following review helpful By Alice G. Vlietstra on August 1, 2008
Format: Paperback Verified Purchase
Dr. Paul's book gives the keys to female friendship. At the core of his work is description of the evolution of the brain from the Triune Brain Theory.

Throughout his book he shows how the three brains play a significant role in friendship. The most ancient aspect of the brain is the brainstem, (the reptilian brain). This is the center of gender related instincts and is an area where men and women are profoundly different. The midbrain (the mamalian brain) is the center of our emotions, the core of friendship, and the cortex (the higher brain) is the center of our character. On this he cites, "Character is Destiny." You win when your character has victory in guiding your decisions.

Knowing this infomation gives us, as Dr. Paul says, a "Cool Eye." This is the observing eye that knows the optimal path for ourselves so we can make wise decisions.

Dr. Paul has created an "Operating System" to describe how the brain works in friendship to create higher levels of happiness and success. The book is fascinating. He integrates complex concepts in an easy to understand format and has many examples and stories to illustrate his points.

If you want powerful knowledge to to enhance your female friendships, this book is a must.

Even more interesting, is the position he has taken by writing the book. From an evolutionary perspective, my "Cool Eye" says he is a valueable player. Stop and think. It takes courage for a man to step forth and write a book on the power of female friendship. It creates a path for victories of consciousness in the bigger evolutionary game. Moreover, it is done so each of us can contribute-- one moment at a time, right where we are, in our own back yard. It happens with the significant people in our life.
Read more ›
Comment Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
Report abuse
3 of 4 people found the following review helpful By B. Scott on June 23, 2008
Format: Paperback Verified Purchase
Women often spend hours puzzling over relationships with men. I have a feeling that many women will find all their relationships strengthened after reading this book about female friendship. It defines the effect of friendship in simple terms: positive emotion. It also discusses the range of negative emotions that afflict relationships and provides simple guidance for deciding how to handle those tricky emotions that often upend relationships, leaving us wondering what happened. I feel better equipped to handle all relationships after reading this book because it shows me how my supportive friendships with women provide a foundation and attitude for building trust with men, too.
Comment Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
Report abuse
1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By swimdoc on April 27, 2014
Format: Kindle Edition Verified Purchase
Very obscure, with technical diagrams that don't make sense in real life. I have good psychology background, and still could not follow his reasoning.
While he has a few good points, they are overridden by his complicated verbiage and simplistic views (from a male perspective!) on female relationships. If you want a good book on this topic, Check out Shasta Nelson's Friendships Don't Just Happen.
1 Comment Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
Report abuse