on February 8, 2015
I AM A MAN who bought this book as a gift for a female friend who does not have an Amazon account. I read the book because the title caught my eye and because I wanted to determine if the author was on target in terms of defining men, etc. Overall, I think it's a good read, funny, and to the point. I didn't agree with everything because I think the book could have shined a better light on men, but I will agree with one statement that stuck out for me on page 129 under the heading MEN LIE ABOUT LOVE. It's true that men sometimes lie about love. If we tell you that we love you and we act otherwise, then we are probably lying. Have I done this in the past? Not me because I have only loved one woman and I told her that. She knows it. But we men (depending on how full of shit we are) will lie to get some pussy. My advice to all women is that if we act contrary to what we say, something is probably up and we have something (perhaps other girls) on our minds. If we are with you and we get lots of texts during our time together, then something might be up. We don't always think with our hearts, which is why men are said to be from Mars and women are from Venus. This is just my little input.
Also, since a lot of women will probably be reading this review I want to tell as many women as possible something important. Please, please, please tell us men what you want. Don't expect us to guess what you want in life and in bed. Tell us what you want. The dilemma for centuries between men and women is that women don't tell us what they want. My girlfriend is the same way and all the women before that. If you want to have sex, then tell us. If you want to go to a certain place, then tell us. If you want us to rock your world, then tell us. As I speak among my male friends their biggest problem with women is that they don't tell us what they want clearly enough and as often enough. If you want to be happy with us, then give us a few hints and tell us exactly what is on your mind. It really frustrates us to keep wondering and guessing.
Ok, well this is my review. I am going to give this book to my friend and hope she gets a bang out of it.
on November 27, 2013
So far I have read a plethora of relationship books and this one is at the top of my list. It's a quick read about 225 pages, all you need is the first four chapters! This book is raw! Kara King tells it like it is. If you are sensitive and have a low self esteem toughen up, get a therapist. She lets you know that lack of confidence in no way will attract a man. If you want to know what attracts and deters men from your path, this is the book for you. For those who have read only a few pages of this book and believe Kara King is a man basher, you didn't read far enough into the book. I highly suggest chapter 6 in which the author tells us ladies that we tend to over look the good guys for shallow reasons. I have to say she's right, both sexes are guilty of choosing a partner with looks over brains.
I do however suggest that you read more than just one book to empower yourself. Broadening your knowledge and communication skills is what will lead you to finding the right man. As of now I have many dates lined up and i'm very much pursued by the opposite sex. I owe it all to developing self confidence and researching. The following books should be read as well: Act Like A Lady Think Like A Man by Steve Harvey, Why Men Love Bitches by Sherry Argov. If you feel you need to work on your communication skills with the opposite sex you must read Men are from Mars Women are from Venus by John Gray. Not only will your communication skills improve you will gain insight as to why men act the way they do. What makes them tick and most of all how to complement a man with positive affirmations, this builds your confidence and his! He's happy your happy, there will be less nagging involved and more peace, I promise! I also feel in todays technologically advanced society females are easily available, when access should be limited to the opposite sex. Learn how to handle yourself via text messaging, e-mailing, and of course social networking sites such as Facebook. A great book that covers these topics would be Not Your Mothers Rules By Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider. And finally if you feel you have been duped, played, etc you need to look for red flags and this advice goes to both men and women. There are people out there who are quite successful at playing others and you need to be capable of detecting such types. They get away with it because their experts and have been for quite some time. I recommend The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene. Not everyone is out to get you but be aware of those who carry these unique personality traits. Detecting BS is half the battle. As knowledgeable as I am now I use my wisdom to the best of my abilities and I do not lead others on. Once you acquire the needed confidence do not forget to treat others the way you would like to be treated. If someone no longer interest you, make sure you state it kindly. Good luck to all of you!
on February 13, 2013
Don't let the title put you of. Concise and utterly accurate, Kara King calls it like she sees it.
Every woman who is dating, from teenager upwards, deserves to know about the 'player' men she writes about. Some players are harmless & easy to pick out that they are just after sex. Others are more insidious & predatory - they seduce, mislead by suggestion, lie outright, deceive, manipulate and use women. Learn the difference between PERSONALITY & CHARACTER. Pay attention to any feeling that things do not add up. Beware the 'perfect' guy and the 'perfect' relationship that unfolds too easily. Beware the guy who plies you with alcohol. Although there is no guarantee you will be told the truth, establish the rules upfront; ask what you are; what this is. Then see if ACTION matches his WORDS. A guy who is genuinely interested in a relationship willing puts in effort to build something healthy eg will listen & try to solve problems, respects you/proud to be with you, your opinion and is open and transparent. A player is unlikely to invest effort in a woman, to him she is just a docking station and if he is seeing other women then a schedule (certain days of the week) or secrecy is likely part of the equation. Run if referred to as a 'special friend', haven't been introduced to his circle or if when confronted with professions/promises made he claims he can't recall/didn't say that/you misunderstood.
Best be prepared... Figure out the game, avoid being used. Read the book and apply the principles; she has nailed down the player mindset 100%! A real gift to women everywhere, if you are single and dating, don't venture out there without reading this book first!!
As an added extra, men "checkout" (emotionally or physically) when their interest wanes - accept that HE IS NEVER GOING TO TELL YOU!! Be brave, don't settle for excuses - work etc, blah, blah. Just move on, you deserve better.
on June 16, 2012
I wouldn't say it. But I have to say, I was surprised after reading this book. I've read "He's Just Not That Into You" years ago while after going through long stint of being undervalued by men (um, because I didn't understand how to use the power of the pussy) and Think Like A Man (because I was curious) and I read one recently that I bought for my Kindle by the Millionaire Matchmaker, Pattie Stagler and I have to say, THIS book, The Power of the Pussy, is.. um... I'll say it... simply better than all three of them--for me. Chapters 1-3 is enough, actually! I mean, and the chapter devoted to self-esteem needs to be read by all women. And let me tell you, I made all the mistakes. Divulging sexual history was my biggest infraction!
Point blank, I buy it. Ladies, if you want to understand what the power of your pussy is, then read this book. This is a very well written and well thought out book written in a very unique way. And I'm about to post a link on my FB page, telling all my friends to read it!
It's that good. It's definitely 5 stars.
However, if you're one of those people who are easily offended by straight-talk, real straight-talk, then... um... still read it! Toughen up and get over it! Geesh it's 2012!
on March 27, 2013
I am 41 years old and i've known the common sense stuff, just like every other woman out there. Don't be needy, keep yourself busy, have your own life, blah, blah, blah. This book opened my eyes to something that should have been obvious but no other author has mentioned or at least, hasn't been as clear and straightforward, with BOLD writing!
After the 3rd Chapter, i had to take a break and take everything in because it truly explained to me the reasons my relationships started off strong and eventually waned. I don't care how much confidence a woman has, or how busy she appears to a man, if she doesn't abide by Chapters 1-3, she's pretty much weakened the relationship by her own hand.
I would recommend this to many women who I know have struggled with relationship issues. This would be an excellent follow up to the book "Why Men Mary Bitches" because even that book doesn't spell it out quite plainly as Kara King does.
on March 29, 2015
And I don't know if Amazon sells replacements. For my own safety, I had to stop.
Horrible horrible message..
Teaching women that their value is in their p**** is horrible and not empowering at all. This book speaks of using your p**** to get what you want from a man. Whatever happened to being deserving of what a man has to offer ? Or getting what you want by letting it come to you.
Why should there be a concept or an air of manipulation to find love and happiness ? What is the age of the intended target audience for this book ? This book would appeal to those women who have made mistakes and refuse to accept responsibility, those who can't understand the concept of maturity and equality and those who are just downright delusional in their expectations of men.
The writing style of this book comes across juvenile and this is a clear case of thinly veiled misandry. "Men are stupid", "the illogical mind of a man" basically pushes the reader to see men in a negative light.
I wish the author's idea of empowering women was more driven to self motivation and seeing yourself as queen who deserves a king. I wish she would have encouraged women to become more skilled and knowledgeable in the ways that matter instead of promoting emotional manipulation and reiterating how much men are little s***s or dogs to be trained.
I am not amazed or concerned with the fact that she's married and happy. I'm glad to hear that, but I can almost GUARANTEE you that the logic she employs in this book is not the logic that brought her to that point regardless of what she thinks. In fact, I'm sure her husband chuckles to himself when he reads certain parts of it.
I don't even know how I ended up purchasing this book but I'm certainly disappointed. I don't like the message and I don't believe it is one that will benefit us in GENERAL as women.
My p**** is VERY powerful but its not because of its "powers" or the fact that its a p****, its powerful because its attached to me. I control the power. I generate the power. I AM the power.
This book implicitly and explicitly promotes the notion of sexual manipulation. Which is just another game.. that women will lose. Putting the power in your p**** means that it is your bargaining tool & sometimes men aren't willing to bargain. By encouraging women to use their p****** as leverage, you're lowering the value of it.
Men love sex. Men want sex. Men need sex. So keep it from them until you get what you want. Show of hands every ADULT that has worked for?
I think this book is filled with false promises about life & expectations. I encourage the women who are reading these reviews to look into themselves briefly before purchasing this book.
Do you feel as if you can't get men to see how awesome you are ? Is your power in your p**** ? Is that what defines you and makes you the sexy beast that you are ? Is your p**** is what would make a man want to "wife" you? If any of your answers are yes, go ahead and purchase this book. This is right up your alley.
For those women who are on the journey of self discovery and happiness, I implore you to seek higher heights within yourself. Learn a skill, pick up a hobby, exercise and get sexified for nobody but yourself. Work hard at your job & feel gratified with the results. Buy yourself something nice. Enjoy your personality and do conscious reflections to understand why you do what you do.
That is what will attract the right type of men. The positivity and energy of growth. A man will most likely either try to match your ambition/goals or disregard it and that in itself shows what HE'S looking for.
Women, yes we have the power. But it begins in the mind.
on March 15, 2013
I honestly don't even know where to begin!!!!!!!!
She COVERS EVERYTHING!! Dating, online dating, just friends, sex (obviously), valuing your self,self esteem, keeping busy, PURSUING YOUR OWN GOALS and not throwing yourself away FOR A MAN! How to get a good man and keep him if you so desire!
There's SO MUCH in this book like the big sister you wish you had, along with the therapist, and your older brother, and also the voice of your little low self-esteem self shows up there too. She covers all the CRAP women tell themselves in order to continue putting up with mediocre and downright terrible behavior from men. This is EXCELLENT cause sometimes we don't even KNOW we are listening to little voice with no self-esteem and then make decisions that are terrible for us! Best way to stop is to become aware of it and expose the lies and MOVE ON!!
IN ADDITION, she also makes EXCELLENT recommendations for other resouRces!
MY ABSOLUTE favorite recommendation was the song playlist! I love music! SO I instantly purchased almost all the songs she recommend for girl power, getting over him power, valuing your worth power, etc
BUY IT, LEND IT, BUY IT AGAIN AND GIVE THE WOMEN IN YOUR LIFE A COPY!!
The book tells women that giving "it" away is foolish, and explains how women need to realize the value and power of what is between her legs. It suggests that you go on dates and not feel bad about using a man for free dinner, movies, money, whatever, and the importance of determining and deciding what your "price" is and will be. Its different things for different women. If you have been cheated on in the past, maybe your price is "an honest guy". If you were with a poor guy, maybe its "jewels and cars", or "money". Maybe you have never owned a house, so maybe its a big house on the hill, but (as the book explains), determine what YOUR price will be and don't open your legs until he opens his wallet.
If you are one of these kinds of women, my response is for you to keep what is between your legs and I wish you the best of luck, because I think you will need it. Do not complain that there are no decent men, or that men dump you after spending 10 seconds with you. You see, the guys like me who are decent and honest are not interested in manipulative, abusive women. You know who we are, because we have always treated you and other women you might have known with respect. Maybe you have run into us before--I might be your father, or your grandfather. Maybe a neighbor or teacher, but that doesn't mean that you cannot find one of us who you would be interested in (for a romantic relationship).
We know who we are, and and we are not interested in being your filler date, and we are not concerned with your "price." We will treat you like a queen, give you all we have, and we will love you faithfully, all we want in return is a for you to love adore and value us. One more important thing, we want you to ALLOW us to love you and to treat you like a queen. Don't make it hard for us to love you, only to blame us if you don't think we do. Don't think the games work, like "make him chase you, or never call him." Take the silly panties off that are sold in this book, put your big girl ones on, and act according to your feelings. (You know,-- if you love me and want to call me, do it. If you want to see me, come over.)===I know its complicated and hard to understand, but try it.
I hear that women want their man to be honest with them. OK here goes. We dont need to "buy" you and we wont. If we wanted to "buy" it, we can get it with no strings--(they say fwb-friends with benefits) in many places. The thing is, we are not into any of that and we don't have those kinds of relationships either. I am sure that there are men who won't mind playing your ridiculous games and I'm sure the two of you will get along great for the short time you see each other. See for him he is out to "conquer" and get into those panties then he is done with you. So yeah--from him get as much as you possibly can then go onto the next guy. I hear bars and clubs are a good place to meet these kinds of guys. Thats where they go to look for you.
For what its worth, I paid the price this book is worth, ZERO. It was on the kindle app of a computer I bought so I started looking at it and read it.
UPDATE: I have thought about this review a little and decided to add the following: --and add two stars. First off, I know from having been married for a long time and having daughters that there are some real losers out there who are just after a one night stand and will tell a woman ANYTHING in order to get it. So if you find yourself in one of those kinds of situations, get everything you can up front. Having said that---this book is not going to cure that problem or fix those kind of guys, they are way too stupid but think they are extremely smart. You cannot fix stupid. However, it might help you to reform a diamond in the rough so to speak. So if you see potential, and you think you have a good guy who needs some manners or instruction on how to treat a lady, use this book with moderation-don't run him off. I just took offense to the comments like "ladies don't feel bad if you use a man for dinners, movies, ........etc" You should feel bad. I would feel bad if I used a woman for anything. Then it says, "Dont give out sex until you get your price"===well your price should be a commitment like a ring or a marriage, and then most of these issues will disappear. If they don't, you have the wrong guy, but at least you are not getting burned for one night stands. Maybe I'm just old fashioned and don't think something like sex should be bartered and bargained for, nor should there be a lot of sleeping around---that is the road to diseases and babies without fathers and we have far too much of that already.
I guess the bottom line is this---I don't want any woman to sleep with me because I spent enough money or bought her some necklace or purse she wanted. I want her to be with me because she has feelings for me, and likes to be with me. See I bought the necklace or purse because I have feelings for you and I want to be with you, not because I'm hoping I have paid the price to get into your shorts. That is where I took offense. I know there are no easy answers or solutions, just be careful with this book. Don't take it too literal--there is no telling who you might scare off, he just might have been a great husband and father.
on May 12, 2014
With the exception to all the rap music references (rap music does not empower women, especially Black women, with its frequent references to b**ches and h**s, regardless of how many times the author "flips the script"!), Power of the Pussy was a decent read. I really liked the author's voice and how she broke the dating game down. Due to a harsh upbringing that stripped away much of my self worth and esteem, I have made every mistake in the book and pretty much hung up my dating boots resigned to live out the rest of my life as one of society's undesirables. I turned 48 this year. I was facing a long dismal end.
Then I read this book and it made me laugh...cringe a lot, too, as it pointed out where I'd gone wrong on so many levels...and, yet, left me with a sense of hope. Immediately after reading it, I decided to put some of her advice to work...namely, fake it to you make it. So I went out into the world mustering an air of confidence I wasn't quite sure of, but I made myself relax, breath, smile and make eye contact. Lo and behold. The first time in over five years, men were flirting with me left and right. And you know what? I felt alright with it! No nervousness, shyness or feelings of neediness. And even though it doesn't happen every day, I am filled with a power of self awareness and respect that has eluded me most of my life.
The Power of the Pussy is a funny, insightful, uplifting read that can change your life if you allow it. I only gave it 4 stars because, on a for real tip, only a white woman could find empowerment in rap lyrics that generally denigrate Black women. But that's for another discussion. Peace.
on March 22, 2015
There's nothing new here, mostly recycled and often offensive ideas. Withhold sex if your man disappoints you? Reward him with sex if he does something you like? Ideas like this are why men think women are disingenuous and manipulative. Don't waste your time with this book.