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The Primal Wound: Understanding the Adopted Child Paperback – March 14, 2003
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It felt as though Verrier took the hand of my young adopted self and walked me through my entire life. My copy is severely highlighted with "yes", "yes" written at least once in each margin. If that weren't enough, Verrier then guides us through the search and reunion process, which was the area I had been looking for help with. It seemed as though she had witnessed the intricacies of my own reunion process...for there it was spelled out on the page. The book also provides some great insight into the delicacies of the triad relationships (adoptee/birth parents/adoptive parents) during the reunion process, suggesting ways to move toward solid relationships. Finally, Verrier offers the adoptee real usable tools for mourning his/her deep loss so that he/she can slowly remove adoption related roadblocks in his/her adult life.
To the non-adopted eye, the book may seem repetitive in places, but this book was built for the adoptee. The repetition is reassuring and appropriate.Read more ›
This book is a definite "must read" for all parents of adopted children. I know that as a parent you will resist believing in the Primal Wound but you must for the benefit of your children. You will learn to understand your adopted children and will be able to help them throughout their lives - sometimes even in the smallest way, i.e. the simple reassurance that you WILL return home after work.
I met my birth family at 30 years old. Then I read this book a few years later. This book made a difference in my life. It will make a difference in your life, too. Enjoy!
Thank you Nancy Newton Verrier!!
Verrier has a good thought on this whole adoption thing. For those of us that were adopted during the dark ages of secrecy and the idea that adoption should be kept secret, this is a good book for those of us with conflicting feelings.
While this may not apply to all adoptees, and it certainly doesn't, it does ring true for many of us left with many unanswered questions as to why we are the way we are, who we are and why we may act out in ways our adoptive siblings and parents don't.
In all it's a good book to consider for the adoptee seeking answers, the adoptive parent who may need some insight, the sibling not connecting with their adoptive brother/sister, the spouse of an adoptee, etc....
Again, it doesn't fit everyone, no book like this does but for many of us this book explains a lot to our mental outlook. I don't think in life you can find any book that really can put people (whatever the classification) into one-size-fits all but this book fit me to a "T". Others may or may not be able to relate but worth the read if you are a member of the adoption triad.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
Finally a book that says all the things I have felt/known all my life. Thank you Nancy for courageously putting it in words. Thank you for speaking the truth.Published 7 days ago by dd
As someone who was essentially "given away" at less than a year old and then later on adopted by family members, I found this both intriguing and oddly comforting. Read morePublished 18 days ago by Brooke
I am only a few chapters into this book and it's literally given me nightmares. My husband and I are about to adopt our first child. Read morePublished 1 month ago by Sarah
Very eye opening...I just used as a resource to help me understand what could be a possible aspect of a friend's personality. Read morePublished 1 month ago by Tiffany Rossi
This book should be mandatory reading for all prospective adoptive parents.Published 2 months ago by Benjamin Jurado
As an adoptee I found this book very helpful in understanding and integrating my feelings as they stem from the initial painful separation. Read morePublished 2 months ago by David A. Hamel
I was refunded this book by some birth mom's I know. It's helping me understand my own birth daughter and my foster son. Thanks for the insight.Published 2 months ago by Annie
This book is my bible. I am an adoptee and I now have a better idea of what's been going on with me for over four decades. Read morePublished 2 months ago by Khro
I am an adopted adult, and this book made me understand where all my childhood insecurities and how I grew up stunted emotionally came from. Read morePublished 3 months ago by Pookie