The Problem with Women... is Men: The Evolution of a Man's Man to a Man of Higher Consciousness [Paperback]

Charles J. Orlando (Author)

Book Description

Release date: November 6, 2008

Relationships. Marriage. How do they work, and why don't they last? Flip on the TV or peruse the self-help section at any local bookstore and you see the same theme over and over again: Women need to alter their behavior, and should work harder at understanding men. But nothing could be further from the truth. Women in committed relationships are not to blame for men's bad behavior, or 100% responsible for failed relationships. Based on author Charles Orlando's past experience as a "morally challenged" young man, and hundreds of interviews with men and women, The Problem with Women... is Men: The Evolution of a Man's Man to a Man of Higher Consciousness takes readers on a humorous, blunt, tell-all romp through the world of men and their issues. Women can regain their sanity, men can evolve beyond their primal instincts, and perhaps society will start to raise the bar on what the term "man" means.

Editorial Reviews

Review

"If husbands came with handbooks, you'd want it to be this one. The Problem with Women... is Men has all the qualities a woman wants in a partner: It's smart, provocative, astute and hilarious." --Jenna McCarthy, author of The Parent Trip

"Charles is brilliant, clear and makes his case very well. You've got to read him!" --Tina B. Tessina, PhD Redbook Magazine's "Dr. Romance"

"The discourse Charles presents is extremely important. As a woman, I thank him for bringing an atypical male perspective to women's issues." --Karin Anderson, Ph.D, Assistant Professor of Psychology, Concordia University

"A brilliant look into stereotypic men today and the challenges women have surviving with them."  --Carin Goldstein, Marriage and Family Therapist --bethesmartwife.com/

Product Details

• Paperback: 158 pages
• Publisher: BookSurge Publishing (November 6, 2008)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1439205140
• ISBN-13: 978-1439205143
• Product Dimensions: 9 x 6 x 0.3 inches
• Shipping Weight: 7.2 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.3 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (29 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #803,803 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Charles J. Orlando is a relationship expert, bestselling author, and television and radio personality best known as the author of the acclaimed relationship book series The Problem with Women... is Men®, and is the sole voice behind the smash-hit advice and relationship page The Problem with Women... is Men on Facebook.

Since the publishing of The Problem with Women... is Men: Vol. 1, his advice page on Facebook has grown from a small following of 600 Fans (March 2010) to over 640,000+ today, with the increase in awareness driven purely on word of mouth--and with over 65% of fans returning every month. Charles has been working directly with thousands of men and women and indirectly with hundreds of thousands via his Facebook page. His approach is one of reality and balance, steering clear of techniques that might sound good in a clinical book/setting yet nearly impossible to apply when considering the organic reality of life (kids, bills, jobs, shifting dynamics, outside influences, interpersonal relationships external to the central relationship, etc.).

After his article, "Why Women Cheat: A Married Man Goes Undercover on AshleyMadison.com" made the homepage of MSN and Yahoo!, it was optioned for a feature film, and Charles was contracted to write the screenplay. Since, Charles is filming two TV talk show pilots--including the recently launched Game Over Show--and has been tapped to host a radio show, write video game episodic content, represent an online dating site as spokesperson, and much more.

Charles is an active member of Mensa ("the High IQ Society"), is a contributing writer to a variety of online and print publications, and is regularly tapped by the media for his relationship and marriage expertise, including Self, Men's Health, Shape, and The Reporter.

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

18 of 22 people found the following review helpful

1.0 out of 5 stars A former womanizer, instead of playing women, plays the reader August 10, 2011

By Iceman

Format:Paperback

LOL; I can see how this guy was a womanizer; he's very slick and soft in his delivery.

I read this book because I'm very hard on men and thought it would be a revelation but the problem with this book is not all men are total scumbag players; not all men cheat; not all men are disrespectful to women; not all men are tools. He tries to manipulate both sexes to see his point of view.

I watched an hour and a half seminar on him; not for the book but because he's a great marketer. He talked about the book and the stories involved and he's as smooth as silk. All he talked about was manipulating an emotional response from the audience on his facebook page and book, and getting a GREAT support team and fan following on his publication. He even says on his site he has many people that blindly back him and even attack people that disagree with him or question him. This is the king of manipulation. Once a player always a player.

It DEFINITELY is a man bashing book. He is very smooth and soft spoken so it doesn't seem like it. Instead of telling women to take responsibility for choosing the men they choose and be so easily fooled, he softly talks about how men are and how to catch them doing it and pick the right one. He always talks about how a man needs to grow up, or how he's manipulating the woman, or how he only gives to get but to say that all men are that way would be that all women are sleazy and love to be on girls gone wild. He was that way but not all men are.

This is what is very in today; a former player, good looking, who now is married and kisses up to the female population by revealing what a jerk he was and the signs to look at to expose one. Women LOVE this book because instead of them having to take responsibility for their poor choices in relationships, they blame the men for fooling them.

I've never cheated or used a woman; I have manners and a great family and a conscious. But I still wanted to read this book to see any insight on flaws I might have as a man. Instead it was very simple minded and what most men already know; and most smart women know. It pretty much describes how men see women "if" they were a player. It kind of groups that all men think this way. I had a friend read it as well, and he said this guy is smooth but this is very common sense stuff any adult should know. It also views life through the life of a player. Well, we aren't that and could not relate to most of it. It's like the author thinks he's showing women the light.

I think if you are a womanizing jerk, I would read this book. You may see yourself in it. If you are not, then I wouldn't. If you are a woman, it will give you another tool to not take responsibility for your choices in men. Maybe I'm wrong. It may give you some insight though because what I'm finding out in women, is that some never really get men, especially when they are being wronged. We all have choices on who we date, and the main thing isn't the people we choose, it's why we choose them. The author forgets this.

Whats popular isn't always good; what's good isn't always popular.

11 of 16 people found the following review helpful

1.0 out of 5 stars not sure why other reviews were so high September 30, 2010

By deborah

Format:Paperback|Amazon Verified Purchase

I wanted to like this book, but I didn't. It read like a rant from someone's blog. I felt like I slogged through a lot of pages without really coming away with anything of value. It felt too casually written, though the tone might appeal to some, and relies on a combination of stereotypical observations and somewhat strange personal anecdotes to end up with a seemingly random and obviously individual list of things for men to read, know or do to become "Evolved" - although throughout, the author seems to be addressing women. In the right mood I would have been entertained instead of annoyed, but overall I would recommend almost any other relationship book over this one. There just wasn't much valuable, as opposed to conversational, content to recommend it.

3.0 out of 5 stars Limiting May 18, 2013

By Dawn Chisholm

Format:Kindle Edition|Amazon Verified Purchase

This is a wonderful book for someone who doesn't know basic manners. Otherwise it seems to be just a book on subjugation as an art for men.