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The Queen of My Self: Stepping Into Sovereignty in Midlife Paperback – November 30, 2004
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"Insightful, funny, a treasure, from one of the best 'goddess gals' around." --Olympia Dukakis
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'For 35 years Ms. Henes has been putting city folk in touch with Mother Earth.' - New York Times
'Part performance artist, part witch, part social director for planet earth.' - The Village Voice
'A-List exorcist!' - NY Post
'The Original crystal-packing mama.' - NY Press
'Insightful, funny, a treasure. One of the best 'goddess gals' around.' - Olympia Dukakis
Donna Henes is an internationally renowned urban shaman, ritual expert, award-winning author, popular speaker and workshop leader whose joyful celebrations of celestial events have introduced ancient traditional rituals and contemporary ceremonies to millions of people in more than 100 cities since 1972. She has published four books, a CD, an acclaimed Ezine and writes for The Huffington Post, Beliefnet and UPI Religion and Spirituality Forum, and serves as a ritual consultant for the television and film industry. Mama Donna, as she is affectionately called, maintains a ceremonial center, spirit shop, ritual practice and consultancy in Exotic Brooklyn, NY where she works with individuals, groups, institutions, municipalities and corporations to create meaningful ceremonies for every imaginable occasion.
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Top Customer Reviews
For centuries, women fell into three, well-defined categories, following the hormonal curve from first menses through menopause and straight on 'til death.
Times have changed, and our need to redefine womanhood seems to be following. No longer do post-menopausal women instantly enter 'cronehood' with its stooped and wizened imagery.
In fact, enlightened and powerful women in mid-years often begin new lives with a sense of freedom, following changes in family and lifestyle.
They become, author Donna Henes says, The Queen of My Self.
Subtitled Stepping into Sovereignty of Midlife, this 2005 release begins by delicately weaving a convincing fabric of wisdom and logic, describing the ancient archetypes and why they no longer apply. Everything here we already know to be true, whether we are Queens or members of her court.
A noted urban shaman and ceremonialist, Henes presents evidence showing the sacred nature of the number four, and how it relates to aspects of Queen: Consolation - caring for yourself, Contemplation - noting the process, Seclusion - being alone with your feelings and Creation - harnessing the power inside.
Embedded in the advice about each stage is the central message of Henes' work: That women must honor this sacred time of our lives in a way women before us could not.
The Queen of My Self is an entertaining and inspirational read, thanks to Henes' engaging voice and soft humor. And most women approaching their mid-life years should find themselves in its pages.
You may already be implementing Henes' suggestions and ideas, without having a hook to hang them on. You may be unaware, locked into traditional archetypes and afraid of what you imagine your future will be.
The Queen of My Self will touch you, either way.
Henes uses the classic "Queen" as a continuous theme throughout the book. Each of the eight chapters has a heading befitting the regal premise, plus a sub-heading of real world methods toward fulfillment. For example, Chapter 5 is titled "The Queen and I" with a sub-title of "Embracing Her Majesty." The readers are encouraged to "design our own roles and ideals, compose the scripts, and author the sagas of our own futures." The author presents personal experience and case studies of women who have successfully reinvented themselves in middle age; readers can easily relate to these examples.
Each chapter offers multiple suggestions to help readers identify their own wishes and wants. The author has a way-with-words in taking a topic to the top with lists, affirmations, alliteration, quotes, clues, metaphors, similes and analogies. If one style of story telling is not suitable for a specific reader, another style for the same subject is sure to meet the reader's needs. Henes even uses her own poetry to get the point of self-improvement across to the reader. The result is a book that is well-crafted, engaging, and entertaining.
Henes also gives the readers practical applications within the context of The Queen.Read more ›
Welcome to my life--and the millions of mid-life, post-menopausal women living life strong and loud. This time of life is a mixture of new things, exciting and thrilling--and troubling and frightening things--all tied up in the radical changes called midlife.
The Crone is the ancient one, the wise one, the all-knowing, all-giving one who dispenses her knowledge with patience and largesse. Without the role model, we have to invent one for ourselves.
"The old woman I shall become will be quite different from the women I am now. Another I is becoming, and so far I have not had to complain of her." --George Sand, French writer (1804-1876). An FYI, George Sand was French romantic woman writer using a man's name. She was known for her numerous love affairs with such prominent
The author explains that many women are having Croning ceremonies to celebrate the end of their childbearing years. A recent Gallop Poll of women 50 to 65 revealed that: 51% felt the happiest now than ever before; 10% felt their happiest time was in their 20s; 17% in their 30s; and 15% in their 40s. Hmmm, most of us are happiest since we lost what society seems to value most: sexual allure and childbearing capabilities.
Many Baby Boomers didn't marry well into their 30s, much different that the generation before them. Then came love, marriage and motherhood, a change from being a maiden.
At 50 or 60, today's woman is not retiring, is not old, but is looking forward to living the golden years to the hilt. Today she is powerful and just coming into her prime.Read more ›
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This book has been suggested by a friend and its really very interesting. One of the bests in this subject.Published on November 1, 2013 by Luiza Frazao
Henes enlightened me and expanded my understanding of what it means to be at the point in life where you are 'neither young nor old'. Can't wait to read the whole book.Published on August 1, 2013 by Barbara Elgin
I would recommend this book to any woman over the age of 40 and perhaps for women even younger to show that growing old can be glorious.Published on April 18, 2013 by Lisa A Shaw
I was a lucky winner of this book, and was truly enjoying reading it - very interesting and validating work. And then it DISAPPEARED! That book sprouted legs and walked off. Read morePublished on March 21, 2012 by T Miller
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Who doesn't like to feel special? Most people you meet in your day-to-day life want to made to feel as though they matter, and that they have something to contribute to life. Read morePublished on July 10, 2011 by Cyrus Webb
I bought this book from the author's website and have sinced purchased two copies from Amazon to share with sisters who are around my age. Read morePublished on May 14, 2011 by Sheila999