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Q. Tell us a little about your relationship as quarterback and pastor/mentor. What made you decide to write a book together?
A. Colt and I met through our shared love of hunting. It’s something we’ve always enjoyed doing together, and it’s allowed us to have some pretty honest conversations about struggles, areas we’ve failed, and where we are weak. There was one trip in particular when we were discussing some areas of our marriage that we wanted to strengthen, and we realized that the issues we faced were all-to-typical for men. So it was out of these hunting trips that we were able to be honest about our lives, and come together on how the Bible speaks to these areas of sin and failure. It was actually Colt’s idea to put all of these truths we’ve learned into a book that would help other men avoid some of the typical pitfalls they fall into because of their God-given desire for success and winning.
Q. Why do so many guys invest their entire lives striving for the wrong kind of success? And what is the fall-out when that happens?
A. As we discuss in the book, success and winning is not inherently wrong, and the desire for those is God-given. But so many men chase after “the win” – whatever it is – instead of God because they think that having the win is going to bring them ultimate joy and fulfillment. Biblically this is called idolatry, and it happens because we have an innate sin problem that causes us to have a worship problem. The fall-out from this is any number of marital, familial, vocational, social, or spiritual ills. It’s wives that feel ignored by their husbands who are obsessed with work. It’s children that are raised as spiritual orphans because their dad never thought to leave them a spiritual legacy. It’s only when our focus and goal is set on worshipping Jesus and believing the gospel that we’ll begin to see real success in these areas.
Q. Can you describe a time where God showed you that what you thought was winning was actually losing?
A. One of the major regrets of my life so far is that I almost completely missed the first years of my daughter Annie’s life because of my relentless pursuit of growing a successful church. When she was born, things in our young church plant were really ramping up, and my time was more and more being consumed by my pastoral duties. I made a decision in that season to worship the recognition and approval I would get in having a great church, and as a result I sacrificed precious time with my baby girl and lost years with her that I’ll never get back. My pursuit of winning in my career actually meant losing the joy and success I could have had had I stuck with my primary calling from God to pastor my family.
Q. For our women readers, how can she encourage the men in her life, whether it’s a husband, father, or son, to pursue godly manhood?
A. Women have a huge role to play in the lives of the men they love, and they need to realize the weight that their voice carries in men’s lives when it comes to success and failure. Women can begin by seeing their men as leaders and treating them as such regardless of a man’s leadership track record. A lot of men I know have an “if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it” mentality. Plain and simple, men will continue on autopilot unless they are faced head on with a problem to solve, a hill to climb, or a challenge to win. Women have the unique ability to present these challenges in marriage, family, or career to their men with a heart that believes in them and is there to cheer them on as they work toward success in what God has called them to. If men are presented with these challenges but instead are made to feel like a failure by the women they love, they will shrink back from their callings in discouragement and despondency.
Q. What does the real win mean for husbands? How do they successfully love their wives?
A. The ultimate picture of the real win for men is Jesus Christ, whether it is with work, church, family, or marriage. Because we have Jesus to look to in all these areas, we see that Jesus perfectly demonstrated how we are to love our wives. Jesus pursued His bride, the Church, even when she was ugly with sin. He pursued her to the point of laying his life down for her to make her holy and blameless and to demonstrate His love for her. This is the picture of success for husbands in loving their wives. To win in marriage means to pursue and lay down your life for your bride, and in effect, win her heart over and over again with the love with which Jesus has loved us.
Q. You write, “If you desire the real win, that means grabbing a shovel and going to work on your heart.” You then list the four main idols men struggle with. What are these, and how can God heal these empty pursuits?
A. The four main idols we struggle with are comfort, control, power, and approval, and the Bible talks about this as being the root of all of our problems be them workaholism, or marital strife. We desire the temporal comfort, control, power, or approval that the things and pursuits of this world entice us with more than we desire God, and they always lead us to emptiness and dissatisfaction. They promise a whole lot, but never deliver. Thankfully, God has promised our healing by sending us Jesus to pay the penalty for our idolatry and to give us a new heart with new desires if we repent of our sin and place our trust in Him for satisfaction. The more we turn our worship and focus over to God in every area of our life, the more we will see the areas that are broken become restored and whole.
Excellent guide to living life on purpose and leading those around you.Published 19 days ago by Lacey Mann
An amazing book. It's even better when read alongside the accompanying video series. There's a workbook available as well. Read morePublished 1 month ago by Bryon Zablotny
Sent two as gifts, then joined a study group using the book. PerfectPublished 2 months ago by Patricia Coombs
A very inspirational book with shared experiences of both Matt and Colt. Many scriptures are given in relation to life situations.Published 4 months ago by Doris Rose Crenshaw
He enjoyed reading this very much!!!! We love Colt McCoy andall he has accomplished in football and in promoting Christianity!!!Published 6 months ago by M. Baugh
The contains of the book are good to read as they do point you in the right direction. The book itself is not really professionally written, but I did not expect it to be a best... Read morePublished 7 months ago by Scott
It's awesome how Colt and Matt have used their life experiences to help in us in our everyday lives. This is a great read and a even greater study guide for men.Published 10 months ago by GaryR6061
I am a husband, father, pastor, and, obviously, a man. There are perhaps hundreds of books available that attempt to define what it means to be a man in this day and age with only... Read morePublished 11 months ago by T. Carroll