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The Reverent Surrender: A Memoir [Kindle Edition]

James W. Finster
4.4 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (69 customer reviews)

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Book Description

My father chose to end his own life.
That is the elephant in my room...

So begins The Reverent Surrender, James Finster's deeply touching memoir about his father's suicide. It's a brutally honest perspective, but it's also refreshing, skillfully avoiding an angry, self-pitying position on this painful and often taboo subject.

Everyone dies, it's a truism in this life, yet many choose to go on their own terms. Is there not some form of honor to be found within this selfish act?

When he first set out to write his memoir, Finster's goal was to help others who'd experienced the same heartbreak, but as the book evolved, he realized that everyone faces death with a different perspective, and each person's response to suicide--and their grieving process--is unique. Ultimately, this beautifully written book is dedicated to the memory of his father. It encourages the survivors of suicide to reflect on the life lost and embrace their loved one's memories--while learning to let go of anger or blame and ultimately changing the underlying core of grief to one of acceptance...and healing.

My father's time on this earth was but mere seconds in the scheme of the world. A small pivotal role played out on a stage for a select few. His life encompassed comedy, romance, satire, and tragedy. All the genres to have made for a beautiful performance. And therefore as my reflection ends and the curtains set on that stage, I shall rise from my seat, applaud vigorously, and shout "encore."

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From the Author

When I first set out to pen my experiences to paper I thought the finished product would be more of a self-helper than a memoir. As I wrote I realized I was entering into a very cathartic journey into my own mind. Having sought no help in my grieving process but that of my closest friends and family, I realized these words were my therapy, that in fact my keyboard became my therapy couch. I ended up with a memoir documenting my father's life lessons and legacy that included humor, tragedy, satire, and the love that can only come from Father to son. I wish I could have helped guide someone that finds, or has found themselves, in my shoes with a concrete guideline to grief, but this is my story, my lessons, my pain, and my rise to what I have now become, a Father. I feel everyone faces death with their own perspective, I only hope the reader can find solace within the ink that spewed forth from my heart and soul...

About the Author

James Finster studied Literature at California State University San Marcos. He resides in Flagstaff, AZ with is wife Jerusha and two daughters Vivian and Reagan.

Product Details

  • File Size: 234 KB
  • Print Length: 134 pages
  • Page Numbers Source ISBN: 1432797506
  • Publisher: Outskirts Press, Inc. (August 14, 2012)
  • Sold by: Amazon Digital Services, Inc.
  • Language: English
  • ASIN: B008Y4TJ0G
  • Text-to-Speech: Enabled
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  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #575,735 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)
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19 of 20 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Love and Loss September 16, 2012
Having lost someone very close to me to suicide, it hit close to home to read this book. Each chapter detailed an instance in the author's life where his father tried to impart some everyday wisdom to his son. The book is both touching and honest. I laughed, I wept. There were things that I could completely relate with, and there were aspects that I never experienced in my grief journey. I think that speaks to an important truth when it comes to grief- every person grieves differently, everyone has their own grief journey. A great book to read if you've ever lost someone you loved.
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17 of 18 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Great memoir October 19, 2012
What an amazing heartfelt story. It's nice to read something so truthful and positive about an unfortunate and extremely sad situation. Would definitly recommend to others.
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17 of 19 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Life... Love... Loss September 18, 2012
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The much anticipated first book from newcomer James Webb Finster was truly a great read. From start to finish James finds a clever way of illuminating the silver lining of the dark clouds in which we all face. A great memoir of the life lessons learned between a father and his son. I appreciate the honesty and courage it took for James to share his story with us all. Thank you.
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9 of 9 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars A Must Read September 16, 2012
By Ho Ming
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In writing this memoir, the author has inevitably conquered his biggest fear and proven to the world that suicide does not define his father. He has demonstrated through personal experience that his father's life is defined by the way he tirelessly and selflessly lived for others. Most importantly, the author has shown that despite the deep water his father was want to tread through in this life, he never lost sight of what mattered most to him, namely his son. In essence, this work proves that the love between a father and son endures beyond the grave, and transcends the bounds of mortality as we know it. I highly recommend it to all.
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9 of 9 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Heals the Soul September 16, 2012
By R Smith
A beautifully written trip down memory lane. I could not put this book down and read it in one sitting. This book will help those struggling with sadness, loss, heartache, and guilt. The author has a unique way of opening up to a pain that many will never experience. This book has the ability to heal a broken soul. The love shared between James and his father is beautiful and the way he honored him in life and death speaks to this great love. Thank you for sharing your heart with us.
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10 of 11 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars A Heartfelt story September 23, 2012
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This book is certain to make you smile, laugh, cry, and reflect on past experiences with your own family. James writes a beautiful account of memories of his father, that have clearly impacted his life. Through the story, your can see how much James loves his father and the wonderful man his father was. He inspires others to put family first and give everything they can for their family. I can't recommend this book enough for anyone that wants a good read, or some words of comfort and encouragement from another's point of view. Amazing book, James! Congratulations!
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10 of 11 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Thank you for your words September 16, 2012
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I believe certain books come into your life for a reason. This book came at just the right time. Its a reminder to all of us to love oneanother everyday because you never know what tomorrow will bring.
Thank you from a mom with a teenager who is struggling with depression.
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5.0 out of 5 stars loved this book September 16, 2012
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I laughed and cried all the way through. Relationships are everything. Let go of those things you cannot change and cherish what you had.
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Most Recent Customer Reviews
2.0 out of 5 stars A walk through good memories!
James finds the great man that his father was in all the stories he shares with the reader. So often we don't think of these things until the one we love is gone!! Read more
Published 4 months ago by Gail Joramo
3.0 out of 5 stars Interesting read
Very interesting book. I enjoyed reading about the author's experiences with his father. Suicide impacts many people. Good insight into their relationship.
Published 4 months ago by Christina L. Cromley
4.0 out of 5 stars Memoir of a son for his father
This book was OK. The writing was not that great, but I have to give respect to the author, because he thought his father was so great. Read more
Published 6 months ago by Jeannie L. Stuckey
4.0 out of 5 stars Seeing the Past in a Different Light
In order to understand his father's actions at the end of his life, James Finster had to delve into his memories. Read more
Published 6 months ago by Denise Fitzgerald
2.0 out of 5 stars not a very good read
Not everyone who endures a terminal disease or loses a loved one in tragedy can write a book. This is one such story by a young man whose father killed himself. Read more
Published 7 months ago by Chris Cennedy
5.0 out of 5 stars Heart-touching account of a father and son
I loved this book....if one can love a book about such a grievious subject. Though the words of a son, I came to love a father. I wish I had known him. Read more
Published 9 months ago by Carol Byars
5.0 out of 5 stars It is very difficult to share our most intimate feelings with others....
outsiders. There is just not any way for them to understand. The author has accomplished the feat. Thank you for helping me get there also.
Published 10 months ago by LInda Tolle
5.0 out of 5 stars A touching story in James's life:
As a survivor of the suicide of my husband, this book touched my heart. Reading books about suicide loss not always helps what you are going through personally. Read more
Published 11 months ago by Inkedchic
3.0 out of 5 stars Just okay.
It seems like I was ready a journal of memories, which I guess I was. The value in the book lay in the cathartic healing of the author. Read more
Published 12 months ago by Barbara L. Stephens
4.0 out of 5 stars A Loving Tribute
Beautifully written by a son who obviously deeply loved and respected his father, this tribute touched my heart. Read more
Published 13 months ago by Janice Rolecki
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More About the Author

James Finster, born in Escondido, CA studied Literature at California State University San Marcos. He resides in Flagstaff AZ with his wife Jerusha and two daughters Vivian and Reagan. James enjoys writing fiction, children's shorts and published a non-fiction memoir entitled The Reverent Surrender in 2012, dealing with the suicide of his father.

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