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The Self-Talk Solution

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I first discovered Mr. Helmstetter's two books, "What To Say to Yourself", and "The Self-Talk Solution" about seven years ago. For as long as I can remember, I have had very low self-esteem, and never understood why or what to do about this problem, until I read "What To Say to Yourself" by Dr. Helmstetter.
His books helped me to understand the "how" and "why" of my "low-self-esteem" problem, and what to do about it.
I grew up in a negative environment -- mostly everyone I was close to, including my parents, had negative attitudes about life in general, and programmed (inadvertently) my self-conscious to the point where I naturally believed that I lacked the necessary skills and resources to be happy in life.
His books gave me the tools I needed to "reprogram" my self-conscious and gradually become much more self-confident and more capable of achieving success in life.
One of the changes I have used the self-talk scripts to bring about was "quiting smoking" after over thirty years of being addicted to cigarettes. I was totally amazed as to how easy it was to "just quit" out of sheer lack of desire to light up ever again. All that after just reading the "Stop Smoking" scripts to myself over about one week period. As a consequence, I have found the withdrawal symptoms to be very manageable, not a problem to my quest of remaining "smoke (and tobacco) free".
While our youngest son was still in high school, he too found himself having very low self-esteem, as a result of peer pressure at school. I introduced these books to him, and provided him with his own copies -- by using the self-talk solution, he was able develope high self-esteem and at the age of 25 now successful and happy in virtually every facet of his life.
I highly recommend these books to anyone who is suffering from low self-esteem, as well as those who are simply looking for ways to enhance thier lives.
The techniques presented by Dr. Helmstetter in his books are a natural course of events that we all are subjected to while growing up, and these books show us how, using the same technique but with control this time, to change our own self-talk. I know this from my own experience of about forty years of life. What more can I say.

I was frustrated and depressed when I first picked up this book. I was jobless, flat broke, nearly homeless. "I can't do anything right. I should just quit. I should just kill myself."
In fact, I was suicidal.

With a little counselling and "The Self-Talk Solution" I was able to revolutionize my life. Dr. Helmstetter's book offers a practical method to change the patterns of your thinking: what you are saying to yourself, and to consciously take control of your mental thinking- and consequently your entire life. These are more than simple affirmations, or "postive thinking" - instead Dr. Helmstetter shows literally how to re-train your entire mental processes into powerful, enabling, patterns that you choose. What if you could re-program your thinking?

In the five years since discovering this book I picked up my life, got a job I love, found a loving relationship, went back to University and travelled to five countries in Asia. But really, the best part is how I now think about myself, I never again have to deal with the depression and low-esteem that previously plagued my life. I hope you will enjoy this book.

This valuable book contains detailed explanaition of the self-talk techniques and their effectiveness in achieving personal improvement goals. Also included are more than 2,500 personal self-talk phrases for wide variety of self-improvement goals, such as Controling Your Emotions, Improving Your Sleep, Setting and Reaching Goals, Having a Successful Marriage, Taking Responsibility for Your Self, and many, many more! It's literally an encyclopedia of a positive self-talk!

In his follow up to What To Say When You Talk To Yourself, Helmstetter gives you the scripts you need and shows you how to write them. Fantastic and it works!!!!!

Shad takes you through a series of mental exercises to begin new thought processes. These processes allow you to change your self-esteem, sleeping habits, punctuality, weight, whatever you feel needs improvement in your life. It really works.

This book, and its predecessor What To Say When You Talk ..., has been a godsend. It has helped raise my self esteem and my low moods. I spend about a half hour most days reading the affirmative essays in Part 2. This daily practice plus a half hour of meditation have done wonders for my emotional well being. I am almost completely convinced of the author's premise that we can undo our negative programming and live a more productive and enjoyable life by frequently reading the essays. This is a book I will treasure for life. I am giving copies to friends.

The most important person in the world at this very moment is YOU. A lot of people would claim that this is a very egotistical notion and that would be a likely assumption, but I am not referring simply about the small "s" self. I feel that when one really feels good about them-Selves then and only then will we truly be able to change the world.

When we truly love our-Selves, appreciate our-Selves, value our-Selves then we won't become self-centered we will become centered in the SELF...the TRUE SELF...the GOD SELF...and then we realize the true meaning behind Jesus' words, "Love thy neighbor as yourself..."

About a decade back I got this book and it really made me aware of how I was talking to myself. Most of us follow this inner script that has been primarily written by other people and it tends to be a compilation of the most negative and horrendous things we have ever been told and if that's not sad enough, most of us accept these negative comments because we thought that authority existed outside of our control.

It is true that we heard a lot of stuff when we were young and innocent and that we may not have been SELF-empowered to stick up for ourselves, but we are no longer young, impressionable children. People may have said terrible, terrible things to us BUT we are the who keep it going. Speaking from experience, I was told many, many things that were very damaging and crippling but I continued to damage and cripple myself with these old messages until one day I had the ephiphany that the only way my life is going to change is if I change myself.

Now if you've read any of my other reviews, you will find that we really can't change our life per se, because our life is LIFE ITSELF...that which cannot change...but we can change our perspective on who and what we are and when we change our perspective, everything changes.

I once believed I was a failure and I had numerous experiences that may have been valid enough to prove this to be true, but I began having a different perspective on life and I realized that I never failed because I kept trying and those things I once considered failures were just necessary steps to get me from where I was to where I wanted to be. You see, your world is 99.9% "made up" and who is making up your world, YOU ARE! In every moment we are deciding what to accept and what to reject and most of our decisions (if not all of them) are based on what we accepted a very long time ago.

You are a very valuable, worthwhile, deserving person. I know this is True of you because this is true of me. Begin now to say kind things to yourself. Begin now to appreciate your life. Begin now to be grateful that every moment got you to right here and right now.

I'm not asking you to pour pink paint over the hurts and pains of the past, I am asking you to simply and gently to let go of what was and realize that you can choose again what you desire your life to be like.

If you are really willing to start being the most important person in your life, you might want to read this book. It gives you an opportunity to put you back in the driver's seat and steer your life in the direction you desire to go in.

Peace and Blessings, You Beautiful Child of Light...

This book is a freaking goldmine of self-improvement. It has been incredibly effective and useful for me. I'll read a script from it when I wake up ("Building Self Esteem") to get my day started. I read the "Freedom from Worry" script if I am feeling anxious. I'll read the "Developing a Winning Personality" script if I'm feeling less than confident before I go out to socialize. I love that positive self talk and successful results create a cycle that eventually becomes natural enough to the point where scripts aren't necessary. This is the most valuable book I own!

Positive self-talk just flat out works and this books provides explicit scripts to use. I've worn out two copies and I'm very disappointed that Amazon doesn't currently carry it in stock. This is one classic that will never be out of style.

I read this book quite some time ago. It is filled with 100's of positive affirmations to be used in almost any situation. I have used it to create personal change and would suggest it.

Donald Ryles PhD, CH
Author of Hidden Secrets of "Many, But One"