In contrast to its tabloid title, The Sex-Starved Marriage offers candid and sensible counsel for couples with mismatched libidos. Seasoned sex therapist Michele Weiner-Davis skewers two stereotypes about sex in marriage. First, she jettisons the idea that husbands are hot and wives are not, giving examples of "low-desire" men in her practice. Next, she upends the longstanding model of sexual response and advises readers: "Just do it. Desire is a decision. Once the low-interest partner allows him/herself to be touched and aroused, this will trigger a strong desire to continue being sexual." The strength of her approach to the causes of sexual stalemate lies in her insights about the struggles of both partners. Her suggestions (how to break the ice, how to court your partner, nag busting, and the Hallmark solution) are not gimmicky and are presented as techniques for couples, not individuals. Weakened only by a final chapter--one that discloses too many details about the authors marriage--this perceptive book will inspire couples to add heat and light to their marriage. --Barbara Mackoff --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
Author (The Divorce Remedy), therapist and Oprah regular Davis offers a frank and reassuring guide for couples struggling with the "desire doldrums." It's been estimated that one-third of couples face issues of low desire, the impact of which is felt beyond the bedroom: "Unsatisfying sexual relationships," Davis writes, "are the all-too-frequent causes of alienation, infidelity and divorce." Unfortunately, libidos are rarely equal; most marriages have a low-desire spouse and a high-desire spouse. Davis offers advice for both, bolstered by numerous examples of how that advice has worked for couples she's encountered during her two decades as a marriage counselor. Court your partner the way he or she wants to be courted, Davis tells high-desire spouses; for low-desire spouses, sometimes the best idea is (to borrow a line from Nike) to "just do it." Her "field-tested" tips are sensible rather than earth-shattering-talk openly, be kind, commit to making a change for the better and set concrete, attainable goals-but in the hard-to-talk-about realm of sex, very welcome indeed.
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My fiancé and I do not like the "Just do it!" approach to our sexual issues. I don't feel that this book asks individuals to go deeper into understanding themselves... Read morePublished 21 days ago by P. Powell
Loved the books perspective from the low labido and highly sexed person and the author's personal stories. The stories gave me a sense of perspective and hope. Read morePublished 23 days ago by MMZG
I am not a reader of self help books, but this book came recommended to me as a text that is helpful in the areas of communication with a lover or a spouse and can have a drastic... Read morePublished 1 month ago by Garrett Zecker
Very helpful and thoughtful perspective from both sides of the equation.Published 1 month ago by thriller fan
As the title implies, this is for a couple who has sexual desire discrepancy – when one person wants more sex than the other. Read morePublished 1 month ago by Martha Tara Lee
Didn't care for this book too much. I learned a couple of things in the first two chapters, but after that I found it to be quite boring.Published 2 months ago by Atoya Garner
I decided to read this book due to the lack of affection and sex in my marriage. I will say for myself it has opened my eyes to a lot of different issues that others have gone... Read morePublished 2 months ago by Amazon Customer