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The Smart Step-Family: Seven Steps to a Healthy Family Hardcover – September, 2002


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Product Details

  • Hardcover: 272 pages
  • Publisher: Bethany House Publishers; 1St Edition edition (September 2002)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0764226576
  • ISBN-13: 978-0764226571
  • Product Dimensions: 6 x 1 x 8.5 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 1.2 pounds
  • Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (23 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #119,773 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

Editorial Reviews

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"Comprehensive, common sense discussion of challenges that stepfamilies face, with biblical resolutions. He explodes the myth of the 'blended family.'" -- Moody, Nov/Dec 2002

"Exceptional book... Chapters addressing sexuality, money, discipline, and stepfathers assuming spiritual headship of the family offer excellent insights." -- Christian Home & School, Mar/Apr 2003

From the Inside Flap

"He compassionately abd competently describes the spiritual and relational challenges facing stepfamilies. Ron provides practical and wise instruction for successfully navigating the stepfamily journey. The Smart Stepfamily is the best book available for stepfamilies that I've seen. I'm convinced it will prove to be a valuable resource for stepfamilies. Buy it, read it, and share it with a friend." - Dennis Rainey, Executive Director, Family Life

"Ron Deal has, by far, the best material available on stepfamilies. The insights and suggestions he shares work. Every stepfamily will benefit from reading this book." - H. Norman Wright, Licensed marriage, family, and child therapist, found of Christian Marriage Enrichment, author

"I love this book!" It adds an important dimension to the understanding of stepfamilies and reads as if sitting with wise friends. Written on the 'information is power' premise, The Smart Stepfamily weaves together a review of biblical materials, current psychological and sociological research, best practices, practical insights, and anecdotal stories to educate and support stepfamilies and the clergy who serve them." - Dr. Margorie Engel, President and CEO, Stepfamily Association of America


More About the Author

RON L. DEAL is founder and president of Smart Stepfamilies™ (www.SmartStepfamilies.com) and director of FamilyLife Blended™ (www.familylife.com/blended), a division of FamilyLife®. He is a family therapist and conference speaker specializing in marriage enrichment and stepfamily education. His top selling books and online articles make him one of the most widely read and referenced authors on stepfamilies in the world.

Ron is author of the Amazon bestselling books The Smart Stepfamily, The Smart Stepfamily Small Group Resource DVD and Participant Guide, The Smart Stepdad, Dating and the Single Parent, The Smart Stepmom (with Laura Petherbridge), and The Remarriage Checkup (with Dr. David Olson), which is based on the largest survey of remarriage strengths ever conducted. He is a member of the Stepfamily Expert Council for the National Stepfamily Resource Center and is a licensed marriage and family therapist and licensed professional counselor.

Ron has extensive experience with the media. He has appeared on dozens of national radio and TV broadcasts in the UK, Canada, Australia, and the US, including Fox News, ABC Nightline, WGN-TV News, FamilyLife Today®, Family Talk, and Focus on the Family. His work with stepfamilies has been referenced by ABC News.com, New York Daily News, USA Today, Chicago Tribune, Ladies Home Journal, and newspapers/blogs throughout the world.

He and his wife, Nan, have been married since 1986 and have three boys. Find resources and conference information at www.SmartStepfamilies.com.

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Will definitely help better environment for your kids, step-kids and new spouse.
nanookdaza
This book helps step-families, in such a realistic way and helps biological and step-parents to improve their families by following some very practical steps.
Alejandra Varela Moncada
Read this book if you are in or thinking about entering a blended family situation.
Y. Rispone

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

17 of 18 people found the following review helpful By Karon Goodman on April 16, 2003
Format: Hardcover
If you want to feel empowered, inspired, comforted and renewed about your steplife, read this book. In his straightforward and calming manner, author Ron Deal brings hope and healing into a stepparent's life in this easy-to-follow volume based on Christian principles. For the stepparent-to-be, the new stepparent or the veteran, this book is a lighthouse in a stormy world, reassuring us that we can find our way.

Right from the introduction, the overwhelmed reader breathes a sigh of relief and enjoys the reminder that there are, indeed, healthy stepfamilies out there, and having one is a real possibility. Deal gives us a deeply comforting and proactive approach to our steplives, zeroing in on the practical steps we can take right now. We're all willing to work hard for our families, but if we don't work on the right things, it won't matter. Work smarter, Deal says. That involves two things very much within our control: understanding stepfamily life and making intentional decisions about living that life.

Deal points out some "key stepping-stones" that we'll need every day. These attitudes and perspectives will enable us to overcome obstacles and take advantage of the opportunities around us. They include Spiritual Integrity, Listening and Understanding, Perseverance, Commitment, Patience, Flexibility and Humor. It sounds basic, but Deal shows us how to master these skills so that we can have a more healthy and peaceful life all around.

With strikingly appropriate Biblical parallels, Deal likens the steplife we all want to the Promised Land the Israelites found after years of wandering. May of us stepparents wander for years, too, often wanting to give up.
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7 of 7 people found the following review helpful By wanting to help on August 1, 2005
Format: Hardcover
I'll keep it short and to the point. My wife and I could have benefited tremendously from this book if we would have known about it sooner. Only after a year and a half of remarriage did we find ourselves in need of a tool to help and encourage us. We were amazed at how clearly the book identified the exact issues we were facing in our stepfamily. We are currently going through it a second time and are getting so many helpful tips from it. It is a reassurance to us that the issues we are going through are very typical for a stepfamily and at the same time we have a plan and a new attitude to apply to all of the unique situations we continually find ourselves in. This book is a must read for any stepfamily. Preferrably before you remarry.
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6 of 6 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on November 26, 2002
Format: Hardcover
The Smart Step-Family: Seven Steps to a Healthy Family provides a much-needed Christian perspective to the process of building a healthy step-family. Ron has done some serious research and has called upon his therapist background to provide step-parents with some very practical suggestions to make the complex relationships work.
Too often, churches are unable to provide counseling and guidance for step-families and, in fact, they sometimes consider them as second-class. Ron helps to give a Biblical framework for acceptance.
I recommend the book highly and I recommend that churches consider hosting one of Ron's seminars. Having attended one, I can say they are extremely helpful.
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5 of 5 people found the following review helpful By Dana L. McCall on September 22, 2004
Format: Hardcover
The BottomLine is that this is the best book for step families that speaks from the Christian perspective. Integrating families is the biggest challenge of any family type and this book gently inspires and motivates as it answers numerous questions. Personally, as a member of an integrated family, I LOVE this book and it's message. As a professional Marriage and Family Therapist working with dozens of clients, this book is the best resource for the ever changing, challenging blended family. I recommend it for ALL of my step parent clients and for every one in all of the support groups I do that involve integrating families. GREAT for newly divorced individuals - supportive but also tells you straightforward what you'll be getting yourself into if you remarry with kids in the home!
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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful By Carl Mauney on December 3, 2003
Format: Hardcover
Three months before my remarriage into a step-family, a friend suggested I read this. I grew up in a step family and figured I could manage just fine. It's a good thing I read the book. My whole perspective and expectations of being a step father have completely changed. Quite honestly, I have had to toss out all my inaccurate expectations and start over. The marriage is coming soon and I now know what to and not to expect. What a tragedy it would have been hurt my future wife and kids with my ignorance. The author is straight forward and deadly accurate. It is from a Christian perspective, and that's exactly what I was looking for.
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3 of 4 people found the following review helpful By Kim T. on July 5, 2005
Format: Hardcover
This book is an excellent source for those with children who are considering remarriage. I had "The Brady Bunch" mentality and this sure blew it out of the water. Scripturally founded and extremely well written, it has given my fiance and me a realistic perspective on what to really expect. It also makes you think much more about what your children have gone through, something we as adults don't often take into account. I am passionate about this book. It is a must read!!!!
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