As Dr. Sears told his children, "Your success in life ... will not be measured by the money you make or the degrees you earn, but rather by the number of persons whose lives are better because of what you did." To that end, Sears advocates what he has coined "attachment parenting," or AP, the practice of listening to your parenting instincts and being sensitive to your baby's needs (such as by quickly responding to cries; by breastfeeding on cue, not bottle-feeding on a schedule; and by co-sleeping). By having his needs met immediately, Sears says the child learns to trust adults, and he in turn mirrors this behavior by acting sensitively to the needs of others later on.
Sears says, "It's never too late to try the AP approach with a child," but The Successful Child definitely will be most useful to parents who've raised their child according to AP guidelines through infancy and toddlerhood. Those who haven't may shudder when Sears writes that the developmental stage from birth to one year most influences a child's future success "because that's when caregivers leave the most lasting impressions on a child's brain." Nevertheless, the Searses have packed in a plethora of sensible tips here for all parents, including 16 ways to teach children how to make wise choices, 12 strategies for guiding spiritual development, seven questions to ponder when a teen wants to start working part-time, and a dozen ways to boost your child's intellectual abilities, such as by offering a diet high in brain-building omega-3 fatty acids. But the most important thing parents can do for their kids, the Searses say, is to hold high expectations: "Let her know that you expect her to do her best, no less and no more, and that you will love her no matter what." --Erica Jorgensen
Good advice is hard to find, but this books is worth every penny.
The authors balance great love and respect for children with an appreciation for the structure and limits that children need in order to flourish.
As with all Sears books, parental anecdotes are used liberally, keeping the book personal and interesting.
I am a huge fan of Dr. Sears' books and this one is just as great as the others in his collection! Dr. Sears is like a mix between a pediatrician and Mr. Rogers. Read morePublished 8 months ago by Gillian Herrle
"Your success in life ... will not be measured by the money you make or the degrees you earn, but rather by the number of persons whose lives are better because of what you... Read morePublished 16 months ago by Kathleen B. Olivera
Becoming a mother has made me remind my childhood, all the goods and bads. All those special moments I won't forget, and all those other moments I'd prefer not remembering. Read morePublished on June 26, 2007 by P. M. Youn
Great book for all us parents who do not like the "cry-it-out" method!!!Published on January 4, 2007 by Baby&Me
I really am enjoying this book by Martha Sears, just as I have the other Sears books. What a wonderful way to help encourage our children to become the most successful people they... Read morePublished on March 19, 2006 by C. bosman
I love and agree with a LOT of what the authors have to say in "The Successful Child". However, the authors really push the idea that a baby must be breastfed and carried in a... Read morePublished on February 21, 2006 by sam twain
I am from India and I am a product of attatchment parenting(almost all Indians are)...I now have a 2 month old baby girl... Read morePublished on July 19, 2005 by SS