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The Supportive Foster Parent: "Be there for me" Hardcover – April 8, 2011
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"This book really helped me. I have learned how to deal with different types of situations...how to show love when punishing, all the support systems that are available and so on.." Ms. Yinga, first time foster mother
"I enjoyed reading about anxiety, what I should do and how and what to expect. I understand clearly that children will love their parents NO MATTER WHAT."
LaDonna Baker, Foster mother
"As a foster parent for the past 9 years I was moved and felt very understood by your book. The advice given will make positive changes for many of "our" children." Thank you!
--Mary Jane Nowdowski, Foster Parent --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
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Dr. Gopal is an experienced clinical psychologist and has specialized knowledge on child sexual abuse, parenting, attachment issues and other related fields. Her wisdom and understanding shine through this book.
Stirring, in fact shocking, quotes from foster children are aptly provided at the beginning of the book. These will give you direct insight into how neglected and damaged these children are. They are not removed from their birth parents for no reason.
Those who take on the charge of fostering must thus be particularly mature, well-balanced and responsible, and be educated as to what to expect from these children and how to care for them and tackle their problems in the best possible way. The purchase and reading of this book would be an important first step in the way of educating foster parents.
All stages of the fostering process are dealt with, from the preliminary one of contemplating one's motivations for fostering, planning to do so, the welcoming stage, the educational stage, the empowering stage and the letting go/adopting stage.
One section deals with how to ensure good relations between your birth children and your foster children. Information is provided regarding common behaviour seen in foster children due to neglect, physical and/or sexual abuse. Another section deals with attachment/bonding issues, where both avoidant, resistant and disorganized attachment are explained. (These are forms of insecure attachment that often occur.Read more ›
The book is raw and open and provides an eye-opening account with easy to read bulleted points that were also easy to follow and understand.
If you are looking into this or are already a foster parent you should pick up this book today!
Dr. Kalyani Gopal, a clinical psychologist whose years of experience working with foster children and their families is clearly apparent in the text, takes the reader through the life cycle of fostering. The text begins with a list of quotes from foster children so realistic and thought-provoking that one can nearly sense the children's physical presence. What will their emotional futures be? How can I, as a foster parent, turn the tide of despair for these children? From here, the reader is guided through stages of fostering: Motivational; Planning; Welcoming; Adapting; Educational; Empowering; and Letting Go. Readers are asked to think about themselves (e.g., intentions, desires, behaviors) in relation to being a good foster parent; given factual information about what to expect from children put into foster care (e.g., examples of typical behavior from children who have been neglected or abused); and provided with sensible advice for coping with difficulties (e.g., ways to help the anxious child/teen). An especially good section of the text is on school-oriented issues where Dr. Gopal explains conditions that often result in the foster's child need for special education services.Read more ›
Most Recent Customer Reviews
A great book for any Foster Parent or Foster Parent to be. Very helpful with lots of information. A great resource book.Published on September 21, 2012 by Deborah Sharp
As with anything you desire to do and do well, you must look beyond the surface, and immerse yourself in knowledge and insights of others who have come before you. Read morePublished on May 30, 2011 by Claudia Moss
Dr. Kalyani Gopal has encapsulated her keen knowledge based on more than twenty years of working with foster parents, children and the system in a very accessible, easy to read,... Read morePublished on April 30, 2011 by RTK
Excellent resource for those interested in quality care for children transitioning out of the foster care system. Read morePublished on April 21, 2011 by Janice C. Hodge