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on January 20, 2015
The contains the good point that what angers us is often merely a trigger, and that the anger is more complicated than that. The same trigger may not anger you under different circumstances. Take responsibility for your feelings instead of placing the responsibility on others. But there's also other stuff in here that I don't think is accurate, and some stuff is just weird. The author states that "anger says I have gone up to my head and have chosen to analyze the wrongness of the other person, and I'm disconnected from my needs." People get angry all the time when there is no person to think is wrong. Anger is not only about judging another person. It can't be, when anger happens even when there is no one to judge. The author also talks about how instead of spending your time being angry about some thing another person has done, you can spend your time thinking of what you can say to them that is more likely to get them to change their behavior. That seems really impractical to put your anger management on whether or not you can effectively change another person's behavior. You can't control other people. I also was unable to relate to the passages where the author explains that he spends time enjoying the fantasy of violently harming the person who is speaking. This is not something I could enjoy.