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The Survivor's Guide to Sex: How to Have an Empowered Sex Life After Child Sexual Abuse Paperback – May 28, 1999
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FYI: although it is targetted at female survivors of child sexual abuse, i myself am not a woman, and the sexual assault/abuse i experienced occured during my teenage years, not my childhood. i still found the book very useful. there is also a great chapter aimed at partners of survivors.
I looked at books on recovery; they seemed only to tell me that it was OK to not have sex. I looked at TONS of books on sex and none addressed my difficulties - until The Survivor's Guide to Sex. I can say from my own experience that it's not easy to put Staci's suggestions into practice, nor do the rewards necessarily come quickly. But for some of us, this is the only way we're going to reclaim our sexuality.
I highly recommend this book if you feel numb, shut-down, or angry during sex, whether or not you are a "survivor". Chances are you have some deep healing work to do, and this book is the only guide I've seen for doing it.
This book really has it all. It addresses the systemic problems of sexual abuse and sexism in our society and focuses on the particular intersection of these two forces in our sex lives. Haines provides both the context for understanding why it is so difficult for survivors to have an empowered sex life, and the tools to help create that life. And all this in Haines' caring and empathetic voice.
This is also a very practical guidebook designed to help survivors in a real way. I particularly liked the exercises Haines has developed, as well as the quotes from survivors. No woman will feel alone in her experience after reading this book.
Haines is an extraordinary woman. All survivors are lucky she is there to help us. I definitely recommend you read this book. Right now.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
Written by an angry hurting woman. I wouldn't recommend for anyone trying to heal.Published 6 months ago by Natalie Tomany
I am not a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, but I found this guide extremely informative and enlightening. Read morePublished 11 months ago by Natalie
This book is wonderful. I work with incest survivors and am always looking for new resources. This book is very practical and easy to read and just a great tool.Published 20 months ago by Larke
Book arrived in good condition as described and very quickly. I have only just begun to read it but so far I can tell it will be very helpful. Read morePublished on September 16, 2013 by LJR
I was raped and this book has helped me immensely in my recovery. I had problems with triggers, and this book is helping me learn to embrace and move through my triggers.Published on August 21, 2013 by Lauren L
This happened to be the first book on this subject I read, despite my therapist giving me several recommendations (this book was not one of them). Read morePublished on May 12, 2012 by Amazon Customer
If you are really ready to deal with the physical sex act and heal on that level, this is the book for you. Read morePublished on December 24, 2009 by AmethystWoman
While cleaning, I found the title of The Survivor's Guide to Sex...written on a piece of paper from a few years ago. Read morePublished on September 17, 2009 by JD BLUE
Excellent as a first book for a survivor. Or as I like to coin the term HERO. Those who have been abused are heros, who can continue to give back. Read morePublished on July 21, 2009 by Dan Williams