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Product Details

  • Paperback: 280 pages
  • Publisher: Elite Communications (February 14, 2010)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0977984575
  • ISBN-13: 978-0977984572
  • Product Dimensions: 6 x 0.6 x 9 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 13.6 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (331 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #44,145 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

Editorial Reviews


'The Tao Of Dating offers smart, successful women the ultimate dating road map. For those seeking a lifetime of deep love and fulfillment, this intelligent, spiritual, practical and wise approach provides much-needed guidance.' --Arielle Ford, author of The Soulmate Secret: Manifest the Love of Your Life with The Law of Attraction and Wabi Sabi Love: The Ancient Art of Finding Perfect Love in Imperfect Relationships

'Dr Ali offers so much practical wisdom, and delivers it with deep humor and heart. The Tao of Dating is a profoundly helpful manual for women who want to feel their best and be truly fulfilled in love.' --Katherine Woodward Thomas, bestselling author of Calling in 'The One': 7 Weeks to Attract the Love of Your Life

'Dr Ali has given us in The Tao of Dating the gift of the goddesses, reminding us that we women are the ones who hold the keys to our fulfillment in relationships -- that when we claim our feminine power of simply being who we are, we cannot but find the happiness we want. It's up to us to navigate the ship to the safe harbor we so desire. Thanks Ali for honouring women so deeply!' --Agapi Stassinopoulos, author of Gods And Goddesses in Love: Getting the Life & Love That's Right for You and Conversations with the Goddesses

'The Tao of Dating is, simply, the book that I wish I'd written myself. I couldn't help but marvel that one man had compiled such a wealth of dating experience and spiritual wisdom into one slim tome. I have already bought copies for my private coaching clients and could not recommend Dr. Ali's work with any greater enthusiasm. Smart women who sometimes struggle with dating have found their Bible.' --Evan Marc Katz, Dating Coach and author of Why You're Still Single: Things Your Friends Would Tell You If You Promised Not to Get Mad

About the Author

Hi there! Dr Ali Binazir here, and I'm thrilled you're paying a visit. Relevant credentials:
--I've got a bachelor's degree from Harvard College. This means I can put two thoughts together and express them in a way you understand. More important, I also know how smart people (i.e. you) think and behave since I've been around a lot of them.
-- I have an M.D. from the University of California San Diego School of Medicine. This is where I learned how to diagnose and treat problems, including those relating to the human mind.
-- I have an M.Phil. from Cambridge University and was also a former consultant at McKinsey & Company. That's more training on how to diagnose & fix problems.
-- I'm a certified clinical hypnotherapist. This means after figuring out what someone's doing wrong, I have tools to actually change their behavior.

Much more important than all of that: I've been on hundreds (hundreds!) of dates. And I've had thousands (thousands!) of men write to me for the past six years, telling me what turns them on (and off) about women. Translation: I know how guys think and what they like. And in clear, practical terms, I can teach how you can be the thing they like -- even love.

I'm committed to helping you become the most deliriously happy and fulfilled version of you, and am glad to be of service.

Some topics of interest that I cover in The Tao of Dating:

*The dilemma of the career-oriented woman
*How to embrace your inner goddess
*Why men are so damn horny
*Why you need to kill the prince
*The perfect guy vs. the perfect guy for you
*The big secret about how men relate to female beauty
*Your secret gift as a woman
*Why good women get involved (and stay) in bad relationships
*How to spot bad boys
*How to love your body now
*Thirteen places to meet great men
*Why long-distance relationships suck
*Internet dating: perils and opportunities
*Meeting men: should you initiate or not?
*Fail-safe ways to make men approach you
*The Three-Man plan
*Rejection-Proofing yourself
*Use your Unfair Advantage
*The Magic Question
*How to be irresistible
*The Passion Formula
*3 ways to make a man fall in love with you
*What drives men away
*Getting the second date
*The right time to have sex with a man
*How to keep a man worth keeping

Customer Reviews

The book uses both a scientific and spiritual approach.
Dr. Ali is so insightful and really makes you feel like you are worth more and deserving of true fulfillment in both your every day life and in your relationships.
I just want to start by saying that I have read my share of dating books and books on whether I should try to get my ex back and if so how.

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102 of 105 people found the following review helpful By Amazon Customer on May 11, 2012
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I loved the Tao of Dating: the Smart Woman's Guide to Being Absolutely Irresistable. I've read a lot of relationship books but this one seemed to resonate with me the most. It's kind of hard to describe what it is about this book that makes you feel so special, so sensual, so...womanly. It's about harnessing the inner goddess, the one who is downplayed because in our society we have to be strong and stand on our own, and we don't need a man! But...we still want one. It's hard to find the balance between the yin(feminine) and the yang(masculine) when our yin is muted so much. It's time to remember what it means to be a woman and stop worrying how to get a man. They will come. Men want women. Period. Stop caring so much. The idea of being detached and expecting no outcome was incredibly uplifting to me. Imagine the freedom of not having to worry what a man thinks of you...who cares! This book shows you a new perspective on how to look at these situations. For instance, say someone doesn't like champagne, that doesn't mean that champagne is bad, maybe it's just not for them. This approach will make it easier, not to mention you will learn how to stop feeling rejected. You can let go of the striving to be more, you already are everything you want! A metaphor from the book that I truly enjoyed-(paraphrased)...A sapling of great redwood is still a redwood, even when it is just a sapling. At every point of its journey, it is a great redwood, it just keeps growing.

One aspect of this book that I really loved was the thought that I shouldn't ask for something because it affirms that it is missing in my life. Replace desire with gratitude. Instead of focusing on the fact that I don't have a good man, car, etc...I am thankful for what I have and I seek to serve others.
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80 of 86 people found the following review helpful By Ama Su Nilia on October 30, 2011
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I have read many books about relationships and dating, but the Tao of Dating is one of a kind, so different and mind-blowing in its common sense and simplicity that is impossible to put it down once you start reading. To be honest, I can't understand why there aren't 200 reviews instead of the poor thirty something that can be found here.

It is by chance that I came through the Tao of Dating and I purchased it. One of those days that you feel like pressing too often the "buy with one-click" button for kindle, or any online shopping button, just because it is, well, one click. I am not a religious person at all or into new age mumbo-jumbo, so this would have never been, in theory, my first option nor the book I was looking for. Moreover, being as rational as I am, I thought, jeez just 35 reviews is not much for a dating book!

But, alas, here I am, so very much impressed and affected by this book. In fact, the book has already produced a mental shift in me, an internal one. This is so because it makes sense, and most importantly, empowers me as a woman.

I love the fact that the book is written by a man who loves and respects women, clever women specially, and understands we are wired differently from other women. Besides, most of the NLP exercises he proposes are excellent, very fulfilling and enjoyable per se, so even if they don't help us to find a man, they will still be cool to do. The sort of exercise that I/you could do to get rid of stress, for example.

The main difference between this book and most of the dating literature out there is that The Tao of Dating goes inside our head and your heart and helps you to unlock those doors that, without we knowing, we alone have locked.
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63 of 67 people found the following review helpful By Ruth on May 2, 2010
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Dr Ali's style is no nonsense, but gentle - like a kind brother or friend. The book uses both a scientific and spiritual approach. There are lots of good practical suggestions - for example on where to meet potential dates, and how to spot men who ultimately won't be able to measure up but also there is the spiritual Tao side which helps one to let go a little and trust in the abundance of the universe.
I thought the book had two main themes - one is to be the best version of yourself you can be for your own sake and working towards that. The other is the insight into the way men think and what is important to them and appreciate it is different from women, but no less valid. Knowing what matters to them helps you interact differently and more successfully - and to be prepared if things don't go quite as you hoped.
Like one of the other reviewers I don't fit into the professional, IQ off the chart model - but the advice and ideas put forward by Dr Ali will apply to all sorts of women. The book has helped me to understand how important it is to be myself and that being authentic is so much more attractive.
There's lots of great information in the book, and I have read it through more than once - in fact writing this has reminded me of so many good bits that I'm going to read it all again.
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77 of 85 people found the following review helpful By dragonfliez on April 28, 2010
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Here's an example of one of the best things I learned from Alex that got AMAZING and IMMEDIATE results from men I actually wanted!

First, I have to tell you that I despite beautiful, smart, successful, well off, fun, funny, and sexy, (and I'm NOT exaggerating or just being positive here), I found myself constanty frustrated to no end with only men I didn't want pursuing me and treating me like I wanted to be treated, but no interest, no pursuit from the ones I wanted!

I felt dating was hopeless. I was always irritated with the ones pursuing me, wishing "now why can't so-and-so, who I actually WANT, treat me like this???" I had read all of Paige Parker's e-books and listened to all of Christian Carter's CD books (both excellent companions to Dr. Benazir's work, but no substitute!) and found that what Ali had to say in much more succinct terms was not only the missing piece, but the main meat of what all the others were trying to say in their dozens of more expensive products.

Everything changed for me because of a few things I absorbed from Ali's material. (One of these things that I reiterated as my own belief, had the man of my dreams "joking" about eloping just two weeks into it!)


1. Give him his Freedom

2. Give him your Faith

3. Give him your Bond (be there for him, be reliable, show up on time, do as you say, be a true partner)

4. Give him your Praise

5. Give him your Grace (your forgiveness)
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More About the Author

I love books! Libraries and bookstores are like temples to me, and every time I visit one, I'm awash in wonder at the power of the written word. If I could pick one superpower, it would be infinite reading speed.

I always thought that someday, I'd write books, too, but after medical school and corporate America, I was on a path far from writing. After my last consulting job, I decided to spend my time writing, teaching and doing hypnotherapy, which I've been doing since 2005.

In my spare time, I like to travel, attend interesting conferences, do yoga, go to classical music concerts, cook and read. I'm particularly interested in science (especially neuroscience and physics) and Eastern wisdom, and my writings combine these interests. One of my books is 'The Tao of Dating: The Smart Woman's Guide to Being Absolutely Irresistible', which as of this writing has been the highest-rated dating book on Amazon (4.8 stars) for over a year. The other is 'The Tao of Dating: The Thinking Man's Enlightened Guide to Success with Women'. If you'd like more of my writing, you may find it on my blogs and on Huffington Post.
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