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That requires much stronger forces. A tool is a technique or procedure that can generate a force that allows you to do the work of change. It is work that must be done in real time. When do we use a tool? In the present.
Conventional therapy tends to be passive and focuses on the past. It excavates a patient’s history, usually from childhood, brings it into the light of day and interprets it so as to strip it of its unconscious power. I have the greatest respect for the past. Memories, emotions, insights can all be very valuable. But my patients needed help and relief in the present and all the insights in the world weren’t going to be powerful enough to deliver that.
To control your actions you need something else: a specific procedure you can use systematically to combat a specific problem -- you need a tool.
There’s an obvious objection that arises here: Isn’t what you’re doing superficial? Sure, these tools of yours may help a patient change his or her behavior but you haven’t addressed the underlying reasons. Unless you do that they’re bound to go back to their (self-) destructive ways sooner or later.
There are two answers to this objection. The first involves a misunderstanding of how people change. Insight into the “reasons” for a problem isn’t the cause of change – it’s the result. Groups like Alcoholics Anonymous have always known this. You don’t join AA and then sit around discussing why you drink too much over a few beers or vodka martinis. You join to stop drinking one day at a time. Only after that can you look into the roots of your addiction by “taking inventory.”
The second answer goes back to our original question about what a tool is. There has been a bias in psychotherapy implying that anything that is active and involves your will is superficial; as if the deepest part of human experience can only occur inside your head. The truth is the opposite; the deepest part of human experience happens when you interact with the world outside yourself. That means you need to go beyond thinking and into “doing”—and this is exactly what a tool makes possible.
This is a clear instruction book. I have one for myself and keep one to give away when someone needs it. I have purchased several. This is not like other self-help books.Published 12 days ago by Elissa
Lots of self help tapes out there - some good and some not so good. This one has a great deal of useful info. Definitely worth a listen.Published 13 days ago by Mara J Gordon
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I am writing this as a psychotherapist who is looking for new ways to lessen anxiety and depression. Read morePublished 19 days ago by Elliott Isenberg
This book is great. Easy to read, easy to follow. Everything makes sense. Can't say enough good things about this book. Read morePublished 1 month ago by Adam K.
Unusual take on human condition. Beautiful really. Altered way I view pain and discomfort. The shadow part blew my mind and I was already familiar