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Product Details

  • Paperback: 200 pages
  • Publisher: Greenery Press (CA); 2nd edition (July 2003)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1890159360
  • ISBN-13: 978-1890159368
  • Product Dimensions: 9.1 x 6 x 0.5 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 12 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.1 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (20 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #224,120 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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Dossie Easton is a licensed Marriage, Family and Child Counselor who specializes in the concerns of people with alternative sexualities. A lesbian bottom, she has been active in the S/M scene since the early 1960s.

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The book was a good balance of humorous and informative.
elsa spencer
Every Top should have a copy on the nightstand; every bottom should sneak a peak at the pages as well!
Susan Neroli
Very good point and the longer I do this sort of thing, the more I agree with them on this point.
Todd Hawley

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81 of 84 people found the following review helpful By Todd Hawley on April 14, 2003
Format: Paperback
This updated edition of the classic "The Topping Book" contains all of the great information of the original, plus some updated info about "SM on the Internet," the proliferation of SM groups across the country, and so forth.
I've always enjoyed the authors' writing style (very informal, friendly, and to the point) in other books they've written together and The New Topping Book is no exception. It provides lots of good information and thoughtful points. I've been into SM for over a decade, yet there were still items in this book I hadn't thought of or considered before reading it.
The authors speak of "ritual" in SM. Very good point and the longer I do this sort of thing, the more I agree with them on this point. In fact, they devote a whole chapter to "spiritual SM," describing ways to incorporate ritual into your scene. They also talk about "shadow play," ie ways to do scenes with major emotional risk, both ways to do them and how to end them safely, and what to do if something goes wrong.
In fact early on in the book, Janet and Dossie discuss what to do when something goes wrong, and how to handle this, whether it's during the scene, right after, or even a day or several days later. This also goes for after care, for even when a scene goes great, one or both participants may want or need this.
Among other topics mentioned? As in the original edition, chapters feature topics like "What Is It About Topping Anyway" (ie 'why the attraction to it'), Rights and Responsibilities of a Top, Learning to Play, Ethics, even where and how to meet others (always of importance).
The end of the book has a short "resource guide" of books, support groups, even a couple of online resources for the reader to learn more. It's nice to see an update for this classic. Excellent job you two!
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16 of 16 people found the following review helpful By E. Bremner on January 10, 2007
Format: Paperback
This is a good basic introduction to the concept of "topping" others. It covers all of the essential principles of ethics (honesty, disclosure, anonymity/"out"-ness, respect for limits, and every other critical area of ethical play). It also goes into detail about all areas of BDSM safety, from the physical (i.e., "never leave a bound person alone," basic principles of safer sex, the importance of experience before heavy play, etc.) to emotional safety--thorough negotiation, safewords, limits & the importance of respecting them, "top-drop", and other issues that may emerge. I especially appreciated the scenarios and vignettes the authors used to describe a scene and its happenings, and then deconstructing the scene to show how they handled themselves. The book does a great job of making the reader feel comfortable as a member of the BDSM world--it is gentle on the newbies!

The only issue I have with this and virtually all other books on being a top or a dom is that I was hoping it would give me more ideas about what to "do." I have read many of the basic primers on the subject and feel ready to go to the next level of actually trying out some of the techniques I am interested in. There just aren't many books that outline potential scenes or techniques--and they are sorely needed!! Perhaps Ms. Easton and Ms. Hardy/Ms. Lizst/Lady Green could give us another book in the future...?!?! I would buy it immediately!
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9 of 9 people found the following review helpful By T. A. Smith on February 15, 2007
Format: Paperback
This Book is a really good primer for aspiring tops, and those interested in BDSM. More experienced Domme's may find it covers information they already have, but you never have too much knowledge.The material was presented with level headed-ness and humor.
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14 of 18 people found the following review helpful By Katryn on May 7, 2004
Format: Paperback
my Husband and i got the new bottoming and the new Topping book, and love them both. They have a great point of view from the two ladies to both sides, and lots of places to go to for more advice. A definite must for people living BDSM.
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4 of 5 people found the following review helpful By Aletheia Knights on April 17, 2012
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I had mixed feelings about "The New Bottoming Book," so it was with somewhat reserved enthusiasm that I picked up its companion volume. I was heartened to discover that "The New Topping Book" included a chapter on full-time D/s, a subject dear to my heart which the authors had previously treated by turns with disdain and disregard.

Indeed, Easton and Hardy get off to a promising start here, as they discuss the appeal of topping, the rights and responsibilities of the top, and an exploration of the top persona(e). Unfortunately, the book loses steam about a quarter of the way through. After a brief, rather mystical digression in which the authors wax almost poetic about "intuition" - in fact, they freely admit that "much of this chapter will sound too New Age for words" to many readers - they get back to practical matters, but these chapters are bogged down in unnecessary elaboration and repetition. Easton and Hardy regularly take a page or two to say what could have been said perfectly well in a medium-length paragraph, and some subjects are discussed basically the same way in each of two or more chapters, with the later treatments of the topic adding little or nothing to the first.

The authors discuss how to find a partner and how to prepare for a scene. They describe the course of a scene and how to wrap it up, and they provide a basic introduction to the most common BDSM implements and activities. Although the presentation is somewhat tedious for the reasons mentioned above, these chapters are sprinkled with intriguing anecdotes and insights. A number of erotic "interludes" scattered throughout the book describe in detail scenes in which the authors and their friends have been involved; these demonstrate some of the variety among scenes and among tops themselves.
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