Tens of thousands learned the emotional and ethical skills of BDSM topping from the first `Topping Book.` Now, in addition to the sage advice and good humor that made the first edition a classic, the authors tackle some of the issues that have come up for tops in the last six years: on-line domination, the challenges and rewards of `lifestyle` relationships, ensuring our own and our partners` safety, and more.
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Dossie Easton is a licensed Marriage, Family and Child Counselor who specializes in the concerns of people with alternative sexualities. A lesbian bottom, she has been active in the S/M scene since the early 1960s.
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80 of 83 people found the following review helpful
By Todd Hawley
Format:Paperback
This updated edition of the classic "The Topping Book" contains all of the great information of the original, plus some updated info about "SM on the Internet," the proliferation of SM groups across the country, and so forth.
I've always enjoyed the authors' writing style (very informal, friendly, and to the point) in other books they've written together and The New Topping Book is no exception. It provides lots of good information and thoughtful points. I've been into SM for over a decade, yet there were still items in this book I hadn't thought of or considered before reading it.
The authors speak of "ritual" in SM. Very good point and the longer I do this sort of thing, the more I agree with them on this point. In fact, they devote a whole chapter to "spiritual SM," describing ways to incorporate ritual into your scene. They also talk about "shadow play," ie ways to do scenes with major emotional risk, both ways to do them and how to end them safely, and what to do if something goes wrong.
In fact early on in the book, Janet and Dossie discuss what to do when something goes wrong, and how to handle this, whether it's during the scene, right after, or even a day or several days later. This also goes for after care, for even when a scene goes great, one or both participants may want or need this.
Among other topics mentioned? As in the original edition, chapters feature topics like "What Is It About Topping Anyway" (ie 'why the attraction to it'), Rights and Responsibilities of a Top, Learning to Play, Ethics, even where and how to meet others (always of importance).
The end of the book has a short "resource guide" of books, support groups, even a couple of online resources for the reader to learn more. It's nice to see an update for this classic. Excellent job you two!
16 of 16 people found the following review helpful
By E. Bremner
Format:Paperback
This is a good basic introduction to the concept of "topping" others. It covers all of the essential principles of ethics (honesty, disclosure, anonymity/"out"-ness, respect for limits, and every other critical area of ethical play). It also goes into detail about all areas of BDSM safety, from the physical (i.e., "never leave a bound person alone," basic principles of safer sex, the importance of experience before heavy play, etc.) to emotional safety--thorough negotiation, safewords, limits & the importance of respecting them, "top-drop", and other issues that may emerge. I especially appreciated the scenarios and vignettes the authors used to describe a scene and its happenings, and then deconstructing the scene to show how they handled themselves. The book does a great job of making the reader feel comfortable as a member of the BDSM world--it is gentle on the newbies!
The only issue I have with this and virtually all other books on being a top or a dom is that I was hoping it would give me more ideas about what to "do." I have read many of the basic primers on the subject and feel ready to go to the next level of actually trying out some of the techniques I am interested in. There just aren't many books that outline potential scenes or techniques--and they are sorely needed!! Perhaps Ms. Easton and Ms. Hardy/Ms. Lizst/Lady Green could give us another book in the future...?!?! I would buy it immediately!
The only issue I have with this and virtually all other books on being a top or a dom is that I was hoping it would give me more ideas about what to "do." I have read many of the basic primers on the subject and feel ready to go to the next level of actually trying out some of the techniques I am interested in. There just aren't many books that outline potential scenes or techniques--and they are sorely needed!! Perhaps Ms. Easton and Ms. Hardy/Ms. Lizst/Lady Green could give us another book in the future...?!?! I would buy it immediately!
7 of 7 people found the following review helpful
By T. A. Smith
Format:Paperback
This Book is a really good primer for aspiring tops, and those interested in BDSM. More experienced Domme's may find it covers information they already have, but you never have too much knowledge.The material was presented with level headed-ness and humor.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
3.0 out of 5 stars
Important Tips
This book is complementary to the Bottoming book but the Bottoming book was better. They basically say the same things.
Published 2 months ago by Megan Miller
5.0 out of 5 stars
good read
this was a book I bought when I was curious about bdsm. It was both entertaining and educational. I would reccomend it.
Published 3 months ago by Michelle Jacobsen
3.0 out of 5 stars
Veers off course
I had mixed feelings about "The New Bottoming Book," so it was with somewhat reserved enthusiasm that I picked up its companion volume. Read more
Published 13 months ago by Aletheia Knights
1.0 out of 5 stars
Title Is Misleading!
I bought this book at Border's because I was looking for some new sauces to spice up my cooking. Imagine my surprise when I found out that this book is supposed to spice up... Read more
Published 15 months ago by Dissapointed Dessertist
5.0 out of 5 stars
The best book on this topic
This book is detailed, well thought and well written. If you are at all interested in the lifestyle this book is a must have.
Published 17 months ago by lastsurrealist
5.0 out of 5 stars
Easy access for certain information
Ever since I had bought this book. A lot of things had come make sense where I am coming being topping but not like most general of others who like the different lifestyle and... Read more
Published 22 months ago by Elizabeth M. Dominge
5.0 out of 5 stars
Great for beginners.
Some of this may seem like common sense, but it's a book you should read anyway. There are insights, especially between the lines.
Published on November 7, 2010 by The O
2.0 out of 5 stars
If this is the Dom Bible I'm an athestis
Written by two Lesbians it seems to offer Topping from a Female view. Yes Virginia all Doms are not created equal. Yet in the real world the vast majority are MALES. Read more
Published on October 24, 2009 by David T. Clark
5.0 out of 5 stars
Top of the Heap!
If you only read one book to become familiar with the rewards and responsibilities of being a Top -- this is the book to read. Read more
Published on September 22, 2009 by Susan Imbs
3.0 out of 5 stars
Can you say *Domination-lite*?
This is an ok book if you are a newbie or wish to gain some insight into the world of consensual sexual domination/submission. Read more
Published on August 29, 2009 by Gus Tav
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