Psychology professor Emery knows firsthand how difficult divorce can be for children. He has an adult daughter from his first marriage, and while he regrets some of his behavior with regard to his ex-wife, he also recognizes that he and his former spouse were effective parents. When there are children, a divorce doesn't end a husband-wife relationship. Emery believes too many couples say they don't want their children hurt by their divorce, but the children still end up stuck in the middle, almost always facing discomfort. So, Emery writes, "The first order of business is negotiating a working relationship with your ex." Emery explains how to establish and develop the foundation of a co-parenting partnership by understanding emotions, managing anger and setting boundaries. Drawing on examples from his clients, he elaborates upon how individuals can agree on custody arrangements, schedules, discipline and other issues. In a relaxed style, Emery elucidates a very stressful subject. He doesn't sugarcoat the situation; one of his examples is about a vindictive couple whose children are hurt by their anger over the failed marriage. His book will benefit parents going through divorce, as well as attorneys and therapists who work with divorcing parents and their children.
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“Finally, an internationally respected scholar tells parents the absolute truth about divorce and its effect on children.”—John Gottman, PhD, author of The Heart of Parenting: Raising an Emotionally Intelligent ChildSee all Editorial Reviews
Insightful and a great guide to divorce; what to expect, and especially how adult decisions affect children of divorcePublished 4 months ago by June
If you are about to go through a separation or divorce and have kids, this book should be mandatory reading. Read morePublished 8 months ago by Tom Miglin
A classic in the field. This is an excellent read for those going through a divorce.Published 9 months ago by FromAtlantaSuburb
It is a pretty run-of-the-mill book that is not useful only to generate mediating business .
It leaves out reality and critical thinking as well as judgement. Read more
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Good book to read so as to understand that your child does not see divorce from your perspective. Read more
Purchased for my younger brother after a particularly difficult and protracted divorce "battle" began resulting in "divorce casualties" (my nieces). Read morePublished 19 months ago by Brenna
Good read, well written. Definitely relevant to parenting through separation. Have used it personally and profressionally and found it helpful.Published on July 23, 2013 by Melissa
I have read a few books now on divorce/separaration process. Most follow similar approach where the benefits of a collaborative style are juxtaposed with more combative styles to... Read morePublished on July 13, 2013 by Amazon Customer
Keep the children first. If you cant avoid your divorce at least your can TRY to lessen the impact on them. This book is a good guild with helpful advice.Published on February 6, 2013 by P. Little