345 of 355 people found the following review helpful
on July 29, 2004
I really wasn't prepared to actually learn anything from this book. I truly thought this book would be a recap of what I already knew. I was wrong! Like a lot of women, I was guilty of over-simplifying the male sexual cycle. This book addressed many misconceptions women have about the male sexual cycle and male orgasm. It also touches on the unique individuality of every man; just like women no two men are exactly alike in need and preferences in touch.
This book delves into the act of going down along with the gender on the receiving end of this erotic practice but the book is also littered with other practices and erotic short stories by Alison Tyler. Of course the focus is in fellatio and the art of being able to give delightfully. My favorite chapter was on the technique of deep throating. Personally, I thought deep throating was a myth limited to exploitation on porn flicks but after reading the technique I'm sure to experiment with the technique. Every aspect of going down is covered between the pages of this book. If you ever had a question about going down this book answers it whether it concerns ejaculate, techniques, visual stimulation, toys, and even practicing.
The book is a little dry for my taste but packed full of information that is useful and thought provoking if you genuinely want to please and enjoy giving by practicing fellatio I highly recommend you read this book.
289 of 300 people found the following review helpful
on February 26, 2003
This book is very thorough and beginners will find it especially helpful. There's some interesting thoughts on inhibitions, good information on male anatomy and male orgasmic response, and useful suggestions for solo practice, as well as a variety of techniques for male genital massage. The chapter on male anatomy and sexual response will be especially helpful to people with little sexual experience, however they'll need to read it more than once, and will probably find it a little overwhelming. It's very thorough and detailed. Additional information on anal play, fantasies and use of toys rounds out the book. Blue deals with uncomfortable issues in a straightforward way throughout the book, providing thoughts and anecdotes with a healthy attitude toward sex. But the techniques are the heart of the book. I find it indispensable.
90 of 95 people found the following review helpful
on January 7, 2005
I had recently read, "Tickle His Pickle: Your Hands-On Guide to Penis Pleasing," by Sadie Allison, and I enjoyed it thoroughly. I had tried out some of her techniques and positions -- and I was surprised to find that her suggestions in both areas had worked out much better than I had expected. Given these successes, I was curious to see if another book, "The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio," by Violet Blue, would teach me even more.
The first half of the book deals with basics, like mental preparation, anatomy, STD's (sexually transmitted diseases) and hygiene. As the "Ultimate Guide," this work's treatment of `swallowing,' though, is woefully scattered and unfocused. And I definitely could've done without the section on how to give oral love to a strap-on, which seemed to me like a total waste of time.
Where this book really shines, though, is in the area of deep throating. There's some nice diagrams which really helped me to understand how the gag reflex is triggered - and how it can be avoided. Besides relaxation and practice, Ms. Blue's best advice for deep throating better - is breathing.
The key, quite simply, is to breath OUT when it goes in, and to breath IN when it comes out - which is actually counter-intuitive, and why most of us end up choking. Ms. Blue also suggests doing this on an empty stomach - which would preclude performing this most loving of acts, unfortunately -- after one has been richly wined and dined! (Poor baby!) Lastly, there's some additional instruction offered on sexual positions which again centered on lifting your chin to position your mouth more in line with your throat, (think sword swallowing).
Other little tips that Ms. Blue offers is to grab the base with your hand - which allows you to push back (to prevent choking) if his thrusting becomes too strong, or to reach around and grab his hips (or rear) and draw him to you - which quite a few men like (since it causes them to believe that you might actually like this!).
In terms of etiquette, Ms. Blue advises you not to worry if you begin to salivate profusely since this is the body's natural way to protect itself. And, she adds, it's ok to make gagging sounds (especially when you're gagging) since a lot of guys are actually turned on by this. (Great!)
Some of the chapters also have cute stories at the end, sort of like `Penthouse Forum.' In one, a woman describes having her friend teach her some of the above - and ends up in sexy threesome (which sounded a little far-fetched, but I enjoyed the story nonetheless).
Of the two books, `The Ultimate Guide' appeared to be written to older women (past twenty) since it had a more formal style. Whereas the `Tickle His Pickle' book is more casual and seems to be targeted to younger women who may be just starting out.
To conclude, my advice is to buy the former if deep throating is something you want to improve - and to get the latter if swallowing is the pleasure you'd like to explore more fully. Either way, enjoy!
93 of 99 people found the following review helpful
on October 31, 2002
You won't find another sex guidebook that is this smart, interesting and full of useful information. This book never insulted my intelligence; Violet Blue writes in a straightforward but fun tone (the section on male orgasm is fascinating) that gets right to the heart of going down on a guy. This book tells you exactly what to do with your mouth and hands, and how to make oral sex fun for both giver and receiver, plus how to do it anywhere, anytime. The entire chapter on deep throat was an eye opener, especially the anatomical illustration. She gives solid advice about every aspect, and I found her advice for the squeamish especially helpful. This really is the ultimate guide.
42 of 46 people found the following review helpful
on March 21, 2003
Although, I thought our sex life was great before.... after reading this book together, my wife and I are experiencing, just as the title says "mind-blowing pleasure".
The techniques presented in this book work perfectly. The male anatomy lessons, and the information on erectile disfunction have changed our lives. We both feel like teenagers again.
29 of 31 people found the following review helpful
on May 17, 2004
My boyfriend told me I didn't need to improve my oral techniques as he was quite satisfied; however, I went ahead and purchased this book anyway. Now he is very happy I bought and read this book... he says it made "good sex" into "great mind-blowing didn't know it could be this fantastic sex" and is amazed at the variety of techniques I've shown him. I found this book informative on many levels-- from the finer points of male anatomy to the processes involved in male orgasm. I highly recommend this book to anyone who wants to expand their repertoire and keep the fires burning.
24 of 25 people found the following review helpful
on March 15, 2005
I read this book about a week ago, and last night, got to put my new skills to use. Not only was my man thoroughly turned on, I was amazed at how much *I* loved pleasuring him (no longer feeling like it was an obligation). I never had that attitude until I read through Ms. Blue's manaul, which not only teaches you the basic skills of fellatio, but helps you get rid of many of the common fears and inhibitions you might have. I highly recommend it.
51 of 58 people found the following review helpful
on October 3, 2003
This book is creative, sensitive, inspiring, and easy to read. Violet is an obvious authority on oral sex and when you've finished reading this book you'll feel like one too. This has really enhanced my confidence in the oral sex arena and improved my relationship on so many levels. I can't wait to read The Ultimate Guide to Adult Videos!
45 of 51 people found the following review helpful
on March 19, 2004
You know what you're getting when you buy or even stumble across "by accident" this book. This fantastic book that tells you what OLDER women (your Mom?) don't tell you, and what you really wouldn't want to hear from Mom anyway.
It's like a frank discussion with your girlfriend, and I consider this blogmistress one of my dearest. This book is great for us NORMAL girls out there who won't be strutting the runways anytime soon, but who are fantastic girlfriends (and wives) anyway.
I don't love the way I look in garters, but the techniques (and confidence) that I learned from this book make my boyfriend think that I am the hottest, sexiest woman in the world, and one who must truly love him to do that thing so well. And he wouldn't notice if I put on garters, or a potato pack for that matter.
Well done Violet Blue and please don't stop blogging!
41 of 46 people found the following review helpful
on April 1, 2003
It was a great book, well-written with humor that wasn't degrading, and the short stories weren't bad, either! It's rare that I want to write in about a book but this one went beyond my expectations. I really appreciated the reference sections at the end, and the illustrations helped alot too (especially the deep throat illus). It's a classic, and I'm definitely recommending this to my friends.