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The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy: How to Have Incredible Sex with Role Play, Sex Games, Erotic Massage, BDSM and More (Ultimate Guides (Cleis)) Paperback – June 17, 2014
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"FINALLY we are given permission and allowed to explore our sexual selves through fantasy in a way that makes us comfortable enough to include our partners and open up the lines of communication. And that is why I love this book."
Rose Caraway, editor of The Sexy Librarian's Big Book of Erotica
"The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy is your ticket to a host of new and rejuvenated sexual rides. From spiritless spouses, to salacious singles, Violet Blue’s book has a fantasy for everyone. Why not treat yourself, and others?"
Three Letter Blog
"Violet Blue speaks "how-to" like no one else in the business. She has a way of engaging readers from the very first sentence. Her calm words soothe any worries you may have. She writes without judgment, with compassion, with wit. You find yourself breathlessly devouring every passage."
Alison Tyler, author of Never Say Never and Never Have the Same Sex Twice
"I recommend this book to anyone looking to bring up some fantasies with their partner, anyone trying to wrap their head around fantasies their partner has already brought up, anyone looking to spice things up a bit (or a lot). Even if your sex life is completely satisfying, this is a fantastic book. You never know what else you might throw in your already-gratifying sex life. Pick this book up. Trust me."
Live and Let Love
"After reading The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy, I’m confident that you’ll feel like the world is your sexual oyster, ripe and ready for you to devour it! I recommend it to anyone who wants to strengthen their sex lifeViolet Blue makes learning about all of the possibilities for fantasy fueled sex accessible and exciting."
Penny's Dirty Thoughts
"Violet is a charming and very well-informed force to be reckoned with when it comes to all things sex."
"The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy is the most expansive guide I’ve ever read. More than a book with tips and ideas to explore in the bedroom, this book is a road map to all sorts of sexual pleasures. Violet Blue draws from her vast knowledge of all things erotic and kinky to bring together this all inclusive guide."
"When you pick up and love The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy, you're going to get great suggestions and advice, sexy stories and amazing resources!"
Sex in Words
"It is fantastic to see a diverse spectrum of options depicted as sexy possibilities, suitable for anyone with the inclination to pursue them. Violet Blue makes everything from phone sex to visiting a pro domme to a wet and messy fetish feel approachable."
Naked All the Time
"Whether you'd call your sex life vanilla or if you already have some kinky tricks up your sleeve, Violet Blue has tips and advice on how to make your fantastical sex the absolute best that it can be."
Bitches n Prose
"As an educator, I wish more books like this were available. It gives readers the chance to really feel empowered to take hold of their sexuality and explore all of it’s possibilities without judgement or fearand to be able to do so gracefully, consciously, and safely."
"The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy lays it all out on the table, from getting started to helping you figure out how to communicate your fantasies to a partner to carrying out elaborate fantastic scenes."
"The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy by Violet Blue is one of the best books out there for those who are looking to learn and explore more about sexual fantasies."
"The ultimate guide to getting your sexy on."
The Vodka Press
"If you’re curious about exploring more of your fantasies, or if you’ve been wondering how to experience a particularly hot fantasy you’ve been longing to try, you might want to take a look at Violet Blue’s The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy."
The Ladygarden Project
"I was blown away by all the ideas in this book."
"In this new volume we learn how to make sexual fantasies come trueideas for an imaginative sex life."
Reviews by Amos Lassen
From the Back Cover
We all have them: fantasy scenarios and big turn-ons that come from our deepest desires. Sharing these secrets with your lover can lead to the best sex of your life and send your pleasure quotient skyrocketing. Superstar sex educator Violet Blue invites you to join the fun and make your hottest sexual fantasies come true. Whether you’re looking for a playbook of ideas or expert advice for an imaginative sex life, this treasury of erotic possibilities will tell you exactly how to:
- Play the best sex games for lovers
- Strip, lap dance and talk dirty (without feeling silly)
- Discover popular fantasies and fetishesand learn about suggestions for props, toys and costumes
- Dive into a threesome (and forego the jealousy)
- Decide if swinging and sex parties are for you
- Create thrilling S/M scenarios
- Flaunt it with tips on exhibitionism
- Shoot your own porn and erotic photos
More About the Author
Ms. Blue has authored and edited over 40 books, including five (Bronze, Silver and Gold) IPPY award-winners, some of which are now in eight translations. Violet was a guest on the Oprah Winfrey Show, when Ms. Winfrey featured Violet's book on women and pornography (11/17/09). That book is also excerpted and featured on Oprah Winfrey's website, as well as in O, The Oprah Magazine.
Ms. Blue is on Twitter @violetblue and her human sexuality blog is tinynibbles.com.
Blue has reported on hacking, cyber crime and personal privacy violations in countries such as Malaysia, Germany, Russia, China, the Dominican Republic, the United States, and Serbia. Her stories regularly break news about hacking and cybercrime, affecting the largest online companies and millions of users. Blue broke the story when Anonymous hacked The U.S. Federal Reserve ("The Fed" Bank), the story in which social sharing app Snapchat was hacked and its user database maliciously exploited, and when Comcast was hacked and millions of user accounts were compromised. She is also responsible for breaking several critical stories in which Apple iMessage and Apple iCloud were exploited, and when hackers showed how to hack an Apple iPhone in 60 seconds.
Ms. Blue has given keynote talks at such conferences as ETech, LeWeb, and the Forbes Brand Leadership Conference, she received a standing ovation at Seattle's Gnomedex, and has given two Tech Talks at Google. In 2012, Blue presented "Hackers and Harm Reduction" on the featured stage for CCC's 29c3 hacker conference in Hamburg.
The London Times named Violet Blue one of "40 bloggers who really count."
Top Customer Reviews
I found this book to be very well written without sounding preachy, or alienating the reader. She really covers all the bases and goes into detail about each type or genre of fantasy. Her book could be read by a man, or woman with any sexual orientation and still be well taken. Violet does a wonderful job of writing for everyone. I am almost sorry that I felt that way about her writing, maybe I was in a bad place in my cycle or something.
This book includes everything I could think and a lot of stuff I didn't imagine. I was blown away by all the ideas in this book. You can bet I found some new ideas for me and my lover to try out. Oh wait! I didn't even mention that Alison Tyler, the queen of kink, lends Violet a few stories for this collection. They appear at the end of the chapter, much like in Never Say Never. Not every chapter, mind you. The stories go with the theme of the chapter and are, of course, very well written and inspiring.
This book includes a breakdown of kinds of fantasies and there are resources in the back for helping you explore more on the web, get some props to make it happen, or read more about it. I highly recommend this book. Fantasies are a safe way to really enjoy sexuality. You don't have to live out every fantasy to get the most out of them. Sharing fantasies have been the one single thing I will never regret in my relationship. I am thrilled this book may help others to share theirs, or at least explore more about them.
We all crave adventure in the bedroom. Especially us married types who crave a little something extra to spice up the soup. Well, so to speak. The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy is a recipe book for making a staid evening of formula sex into one that will knock your knickers off in no time flat. Ideas abound on how to share your fantasy for role play or just how far to go. It is real world instruction for the vanilla world who maybe wants to try and work on a flavor boost. I loved it. Great source of information by a woman who tells it like it is. Violet Blue is a rock star whether she is editing an anthology or writing instructional non fiction like this book. So is Alison Tyler. I have the privilege to know her as an editor and a co-author and she can curl your toes in no time flat. So...take it from me and get a copy of this book for your naughty recipe library. You will thank me in the morning.
The point is, whatever your fantasy is, this is the book that can help turn them into reality. Phone sex? Check. BDSM, even the super edgy stuff? Yup. Lap dances, dirty talk without sounding idiotic, seeing a call girl? Got it covered.
Even if you aren't normally into how-to guides, Blue's voice is funny and interesting enough to make it a page-turner. Do yourself a favor and pick up a copy.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
I haven't finished it, in fact I am waiting on "just that right moment," to share with someone I love. Read morePublished 7 months ago by Amazon Customer
Well-written, factual, down to earth. Just what I wanted to learn.Published 8 months ago by Michael Davenport