From Publishers Weekly
Psychotherapist and "social psychologist" Aron (The Highly Sensitive Person) presents a "rich, complex and deeply layered" approach to building self-esteem, suitable for studious readers ready to work for understanding and change. Introducing lots of psychology terms and ideas, Aron's guide requires attention and concentration; regarding quick fixes like self-affirmations, Aron contends that research shows "they can make those with low self-esteem feel even worse about themselves." Instead, Aron investigates the basic concepts of ranking and linking, which play a role in all of our relationships and contribute to the ways we undervalue ourselves. Using a series of true/false questionnaires, case studies and analytical observation, Aron identifies the masks and self-defense strategies we use unconsciously to deal with traumatic events, and how those strategies affect self-worth. Topics under consideration include dreams, the specter of the Inner Critic, and self-sabotaging behavior like the Protector-Persecutor paradigm. Though the material can be hard to grasp, dedicated rereading will give readers a sophisticated understanding of low self-esteem, and concrete steps to improve it.
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"Elaine Aron is a protector of the heart-a woman who offers a wise perspective on what it means to be a true, authentic human being who honors his or her soul. The Undervalued Self
takes a critical (and insightful) look at what keeps people from fully expressing their power and engaging in the highest form of human activity-connecting with others in a deep and respectful way. I highly recommend this book!"—Cheryl Richardson, New York Times bestselling author of Take Time for Your Life and Life Makeovers
"Elaine Aron's newest book, The Undervalued Self,
is the centerpiece of a new psychology of liberation that is must reading for all of us--the timid and the bold alike. She carries her keen insights on human nature over from her bestseller, The Highly Sensitive Person
, to this new domain of advising us how to free ourselves from the many constraints that limit our potential. She guides us on a path to discovering new joys and fulfillment in our personal and professional lives."—Philip G. Zimbardo, author of The Time Paradox and The Lucifer Effect