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The inside scoop… for when you want more than the official line! Your last relationship ended and you've spent some time on your own. Now you're ready for romance once again. But it's been a long time since you've surveyed the dating scene, and the rules have changed. Where should you go to meet new people? How should you act on a first date? Who pays for what? And what about… sex? You need to know how to catch someone's eye, arrange a date, and avoid the common pitfalls that can turn a first encounter into a nightmare. And you want to keep yourself safe in the process. You want the inside scoop. The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again is designed to give savvy people like you a foolproof appraisal of what works and what doesn't—the good dating strategies and the bad ones—with unbiased recommendations that are not influenced by any company, product, or organization. This book, like every Unofficial Guide, is intensively inspected by the Unofficial Panel of Experts, a team of highly respected relationship experts. They ensure that you are armed with the most up-to-date insider information on dating and are told exactly what the Official establishment doesn't want you to know. Vital Information that other sources can't or won't reveal—from how to boost your self-esteem to salvaging a first date that's going nowhere fast. Insider Secrets from relationship counselors and real people who've survived the dating scene. Money-Saving Techniques for everything from investing in a little dating finery to dating venues that won't break your bankroll. Time-Saving Tips for keeping your soon-to-be blossoming social life from interfering with your day-to-day responsibilities. The Latest Trends in social etiquette—from meeting people on the Internet to safe sexual practices. Handy Checklists and Charts that help you get ready to rediscover romance without feeling nervous or stressed.

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Product Details

  • Series: Unofficial Guides
  • Paperback: 400 pages
  • Publisher: Wiley; 1 edition (February 5, 1999)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0028624548
  • ISBN-13: 978-0028624549
  • Product Dimensions: 5.3 x 0.9 x 8.3 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 12.8 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 4.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (10 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,147,972 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D. is a licensed psychotherapist in S. California since 1978 with over 35 years' experience in counseling individuals and couples and author of 13 books in 17 languages, including It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction; The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again; Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage, The Commuter Marriage, and her newest, The Ten Smartest Decisions a Woman Can Make After Forty and Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences. She writes the "Dr. Romance" blog, and the "Happiness Tips from Tina" email newsletter.
Dr. Tessina is CRO (Chief Romance Officer) for LoveForever.com, a website designed to strengthen relationships and guide couples through the various stages of their relationship with personalized tips, courses, and online couples counseling. Online, she's known as "Dr. Romance" Dr. Tessina appears frequently on radio, and such TV shows as "Oprah", "Larry King Live" and ABC News.
Connect with Dr. Tessina online:
Dr. Romance Blog: http://drromance.typepad.com

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I was looking for some "official" advice for a friend of ours (hi, Jeff!) who is seeking a new partner but whose confidence has been badly shattered by what he thinks of as "failures" in his love life. Tessina's book says everything I've been trying to tell him and more: how to start over, keeping your expectations reasonable, how important it is to work out the old baggage BEFORE you start a new relationship, etc. Plus such priceless insight as the impossibility of truly changing another person all by yourself. The section on modern dating etiquette could be quite helpful, too, to anyone who's been out of circulation for some time. Very sane, comforting, clear, and, jargon-free. (Susan K. Perry, author of WRITING IN FLOW)
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After scanning plenty of books on this and related subjects, it was a relief to find this one. She speaks directly to the topic of returning to the world of dating after a substantial loss in one's life. Free of jargon, babble, and exclamation points, it goes right to the major points to consider when re-entering the world of singles. Invaluable. Concrete, well-laid out, speaks to my issues and maybe to yours.
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I haven't dated in over 10 years, so needless to say, I'm rusty! I thought maybe this book could get me back into the swing of things. There wasn't much to get me going. It was all too much common sense. I already knowhow to dress the part. I already know how to act like a gentleman when I'm around a woman. And, I already know where to find a woman to ask for a date. They are all over the place, and this book gives a list of places on where to meet them??? Ho hum! It has some good tips to use, but not enough in my particular case. I'm rusty, but not that rusty! This would be a very good book for the younger man and woman who are just getting into dating.
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Tina Tessina has written a wonderful book on dating that tells it like it is! There's "life" out there in the singles world - and she tells you how to make the most of it. "The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again" is informative and quick-paced with all kinds of practical advice that makes getting back in the dating scene easy. The chapters are smart and right on target.

I know so many men and women who need to read and re-read her sections on: "Not just looking for dates but enjoying life," "Invite Interest by Showing Interest," and "Focus on Fun and Friendship." Too many people don't do this - and its soooo important! Even if you've been out in the dating world a while, this book is a great way to brush up on your dating skills and review some new possibilities. In fact, I think a lot of married couples would perk up their relationships by reading the sections on Sexual Intimacy and Communication!

For people re-entering the dating scene after being attached a long time, author Tessina takes the fear out of going back to being single. This should be on the "Gift Registry" for anyone who's ever been divorced!

So if you'd rather die than date - don't! Get yourself a copy of this book and you'll be ready in no time for dinner and a movie with someone new. It's a terrific guide for both men and women back in the dating scene.
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Fear and loneliness lead people to live quite negative lives. These emotions hold back the emotional growth of a person, no matter what their age. Life is a short time frame given to us to enjoy creation. One needs to take full advantage of this situation.
There is a fear of change, of going taken outside one's comfort zone. The unknown always conjures up images based on myth rather than fact. Keeping an open mind about change will lead to an enrichment of the human experience.
Humans are a sociable race. They crave the company of others of their kind. It is this part of the human condition that makes us all vulnerable.
Being reliant on another starts from the time of conception. Once out of the womb this reliance can last up to twenty years or more. So the need to fit in and be accepted by other humans is an integral part of our being.
Dating is part of the process we use to seek acceptance both as a companion, friend, lover and soul mate. One must approach this process with caution. Letting romantic notions get in the way of common sense can lead to untold disasters.
During the teen phase of people's lives, life is one great adventure. New ideas and feelings seek one's attention. Yet teenagers have the need for acceptance by others within their group.
To want acceptance on equal terms does not diminish with age. The environment in which it occurs will change through life's journey. This can challenge a person's belief in themselves and their ability to makes friends.
The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again is an excellent book dealing with the highs and lows of getting out and meeting new people. Not all of those people we meet in our society make an ideal partner. There are seedy people who prey on others weaknesses.
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