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The Unwritten Rules of Friendship: Simple Strategies to Help Your Child Make Friends Paperback – September 3, 2003
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I like the way it empowers parents and educators to realize that not everybody can just approach a peer and make an instant friend. Instead of relying on tired cliches such as constant reassurance at best or criticism/blame at worst, this book acts as a "how to" guide in order to improve social skills. No promises are made and encouragement is given instead. Had this book existed when I was a child, much sorrow and shame might have been avoided. Compassion is the tone of the book and I cannot recommend it highly enough.
If I could give this book a higher rating, I would cheerfully do so.
It is a book written for "normal" and young children. The exercises seem to be directed to children younger than sixth grade. The book may be of some use to Asperger's children if they are elementary school aged, but beyond that, I doubt it would be of much value. For the record, I have an Asperger's son.
The book is broken into sections based on personality types: The Vulnerable Child, The Different Drummer, The Little Adult, etc. This structure makes it possible to quickly identify where your child fits, primarily, and to focus on those behaviors first. Each section stands on its own, and thoroughly describes how that personality typically acts in social settings. Exercises are provided to assist you in teaching your child the rules for each section (personality). There are nine personality types explained, and if any are missing, I can't think of one.
Parents of Asperger's children should not view this book as a primary resource. It is written for "normal kids who struggle to be accepted by their peers," as it states on page 8. The exercises may be helpful in some cases where the child can learn a cognitive method of behavior; however, there is no effort or attempt at addressing the underlying anxieties and thought processes that dictate the behaviors of an Aspie. Any cognitive efforts would have to be done at an early age. I find it highly unlikely that a middle-school or older Aspie would benefit much from this book.
The disappointing part of the book is its maddeningly naïve approach to bullying.Read more ›
Most Recent Customer Reviews
Good book with many, many strategies for helping kids learn the unwritten rules of social interaction.Published 2 months ago by K. Peters
Fantastic book. I am very happy that I purchased this one. I am a school counselor and I see every kind of kid that is described in this book. Read morePublished 4 months ago by denise ogara
This is a great book which I would recommend to read for every parent.Published 6 months ago by Dorota Aleksiukaite
Written more to parents of children with special needs like autism, etc. Pretty good info. A little technical.Published 12 months ago by Frequent Amazon Shopper
This book brought a new perspective and new understanding for what goes on (and why) in the relationships of young girls. Read morePublished on December 30, 2013 by KimS
It's painful when children are struggling with friendships. Many of the rules of friendship are unwritten and some kids catch on to those rules while others do not. Read morePublished on April 26, 2013 by Kathy Slattengren